To think I’m not doing anything wrong

But your children are at far greater risk purely because you have a car.

The OP is having one glass of wine. The chances are that her children won’t fall ill and need to be taken to hospital in that moment, so your perceived risk is purely hypothetical and is only relevant in the event the above should happen.

Whereas you are putting your children at risk every time you get into the car, because car accidents happen every day. So by your logic you probably shouldn’t have a car.

What a strange thing to say! At what age are children no longer young enough to sit on the floor and play? My 11 year old was doing that the other day. Do I need to tell them they're too old for it?

You know that it is a risk? PP don't seem to agree with you.

I find it depressing that your husband told you it was weird to be drinking a glass of wine and reading a book. I'd be v attracted if I came home and saw my partner doing the same. How did you come to be a couple without this having been a thing before? Like surely wine and book activity has come up before. Was his activity sporty? I guess coming in all fresh and amped from a run energy meeting wine and book energy could have made him misjudge what he was seeing. Though that's being really generous...! I loved the second glass and lip smacking idea upthread.

To the whole risk taking thing, I sure hope everyone judging remembered to have a designated driver at their Christmas dinner.

Jesus. This is exhausting. I'm done. Better things to do!

The thing is....we know.

Really?!
The OP is having 1 glass of wine whilst her children are happily playing. She isn’t 3/4 way through a second bottle of tequila whilst her children play with matches in the garden 🤷🏼‍♀️

By the same token, other people seem very determined that I'm wrong.

Christmas and NY were recent events. OP has been off on holiday and looking at going back to work next week. She’s enjoying her time off by reading a book and finishing off a bottle of wine that’s been open, unfinished since Christmas. This doesn’t raise any concerns about alcohol consumption at all if you think about it logically. And if finding your partner in a similar isolated circumstance would spark concern about his alcohol consumption, then I think the problem is more to do with you.

We have a small glass of red wine most nights with dinner. At weekends we have a sherry before a Sunday roast. By your logic you probably consider us raving alcoholics. And the fact that she is in charge of children is irrelevant if DH took the family car to go to his hobby - if something had happened she would have had to call him or call an ambulance/taxi anyway. I bet this never crossed his mind, or that if he and OP both drink at home while they are in charge of their children, then he’s just as guilty of whatever he’s accusing OP of. It’s very concerning that so many people regard one afternoon glass of wine during a holiday from work as the slippery slope to alcoholism, and are supporting an overbearing DH who clearly hasn’t thought his words through before they were out of his mouth. It’s ridiculous.

One drink - it's going to have little to no impact on the OP, unless her tolerance is freakishly low. You're getting pushback because you're so determined that you're right.

Yep, that's a decent argument.

Yes, but your children are slightly more at risk because you don't have a car. at risk of what exactly?

I mean your children are more at risk if you do have a car. On a general day to day basis, because they’re more likely to be hurt/killed in a car accident whereas if you don’t have a car this is less likely.

It’s all swings and roundabouts you see.

Not claiming there is no risk, but that there is risk involved in anything.

In fact, one of the most dangerous things I can thinking of is driving to a hospital with a seriously ill child in the back.

It's trivial, I'm right, and it's interesting how much pushback I'm getting.

A glass of wine, a good book and a calm content household… what more could you hope for?! Tell him you’re starting the new year how you wish to continue and to jump on board.

Come on, two identical scenarios, in one the parent has taken a small amount of a drug which inhibits judgement/reaction time, in the other they haven't.
The first scenario presents more risk to the child. It just does. It might be a negligible amount but it does present more risk. So by choosing to drink the wine, you're increasing the risk. That's all I'm saying.

Just let it go. It's a stupid fucking argument, yes - but you're the one who made it.

Oh FFS.

drinking alone in the house when it’s not Christmas anymore is “weird”

I think that's a really odd thing to say.

Why does Christmas make it acceptable?

Eta-as far as I'm concerned it's Christmas until 12th night! or when the holidays end(Mon for us), whatever suits!

Yes, maybe he has a different idea about risk to her. The wrong one. Like you.

I used to have a can of lager while ironing in the afternoon while also supervising 3 children. Tell the judgemental twat to fuck off.

There’s always one.

You do realise there are people who have children who don’t drive anyway don’t you? What do you think happens to those?

Thats some cheeky fxxker you are married to.

Brave man would say that to me having come in from HIS hobby while I was looking after OUR children🤨.

And yet nobody would bat an eyelid at a bloke opening a can while he watches the football at home. Or stopping at the pub for a pint (alone) on his way home from walking the dog. Why is it only women we judge for having a drink alone?

Yep, correct - I made an assumption that she had a car available to her.
I'm aware that this is a fucking stupid argument and I'm being a pedant, but
all I did was suggest that maybe DH had a different idea about risk than her (and a conversation about this would be a good idea), and I get a million posters attacking me and claiming that there is no risk.