To think I’m not doing anything wrong

Off to pour glass of wine…..

That's actually a really good point

Depends how the parent would drive. Maybe the non driving parent’s child would actually be at less of a risk if the parent is panicking whilst trying to rush to the hospital.

Though I stand by the fact that if it’s a true emergency, an ambulance is the best option and generally a child who is seriously injured or unwell is going to be prioritised.

Oh, please. For all we know the OP may not be able to drive.

Let go of the pearls 🙄

YABVU if it’s rosé, that stuff is vile.

Your husband is being ridiculous. You're hardly going to be pissed and incapable of taking care of your children after one glass of wine!

Do you approach everything with such drama?

We have wine left over from Christmas Day!

Now leftover Pringles-struggling to understand that one!

I don’t really understand this.
i will caveat my post by saying that it is never ok to be in charge of children when all the adults are drunk and unable to be responsible. Obviously!

most (obviously not all) people as in all adults in a house with children (or without) will probably have had some kind of alcohol on Christmas Day.

That means that most households on that day all the adults (lots in charge of children) would have been both unable to drive and contain no adult who was completely alcohol free (even if it was only one glass with dinner)

obviously there will be households where people don’t drink but they are irrelevant to the thread in this context.

so why is that ok
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but

its not ok for an adult at home in sole charge of children to have had one glass of wine on a different day while their partner has popped out for a while?

but it’s also ok for that same household on a for example a Saturday evening for BOTH parents to have some alcohol while watching Saturday evening tv and a takeaway.

I don’t get why some are ok in people’s perceptions but not others and people are actively judged for the ones that seemingly aren’t ok.

I dont drive, I take a taxi to hospital when needed

In 22 years of parenting and wine drinking I’ve never had to drive a child to hospital. Not a particularly likely scenario if they’re all well and one glass of wine won’t prevent this

You were daring to relax with a single glass of wine and a few Pringles. How very dare you!
Does your 'DH' have form for overreacting?
I might have understood his point if you were swigging from a bottle or snorting ground Pringles, but I think we can safely say the husband was being a bit of a plonker.

The most amazing thing to me is you actually had any wine left in the bottle after New Year Eve.
I really fancy a glass of something dry and cold myself now after reading this thread. 😎

You seeyn to be putting words in people's mouths. No one has claimed zero risk, only that the risk is so small as to be irrelevant. Unless your house is a deathtrap, I guess 😂

Why do people always say this? 😂

🤦‍♀️

That's not at all how that works. There are no two identical scenarios, and you're not factoring in further risk. Even assuming two people, each with a car, same distance to hospital, one has a glass of wine.... You put the badly injured child in the back, and the other kid and drive off. Ms wino goes next door, leaves other kid with neighbour, gets neighbours partner to drive her to hospital. Your kid has a seizure, you're driving, you can't help. Hers does, she's there, she puts him the correct position, she can keep him safe....

Oops. You lose. Your risk was significantly higher than hers. Shame you didn't risk assess any further than a knee jerk judge about her having a glass of wine....

Cheers OP, I’ve just poured myself a drink

(fingers crossed my children don’t develop a serious illness in the next 30 minutes 🤞)

How does anybody think single parents manage? Teetotal for 18 years??!

But how are you calculating this risk and weighing it up against other risk factors?

You can’t possibly say that OP having one drink and therefore needing to take her child to hospital in a taxi is riskier (even very slightly riskier) than her driving herself. What if OP being distracted with worry over her child impaired her driving ability? What if the child took a turn for the worse en route and needed assistance, which OP couldn’t give if driving? What if OP couldn’t find a parking space at the hospital and lost precious minutes looking for one? What if OP had to park some distance from the hospital and then get two children, one injured or sick, in to the hospital by herself?

It’s not sealioning to point out that your stance is totally illogical. You seem to think there is a completely factual basis for your assessment of OP’s behaviour as risky, but there isn’t. People can’t actually make completely accurate assessments of infinitesimally different risk profiles for their decisions. They can only use common sense to inform their decisions, and it’s very clearly common sense that having one glass of wine on a quiet afternoon while looking after two children who are both in good health is not risky behaviour.

I've no idea how some of the people on here sleep at night if they catastrophize to this extent.l on a regular basis.

You are... The correct method of calculating risk has been explained, in detail, more than once, on this thread. You also applied a blanket risk to not owning a car and couldn't explain why someone who doesn't own a car but lives minutes from a hospital is creating more risk than a driver who lives much further away.
If your aim is to get every single poster to say there is risk in drinking a glass of wine, as many have already said, there is risk in literally everything we do so I would guess we all know that. It is MN, you'll never get posters unanimously agreeing with you.

I also feel like my head may explode if I see the word "risk" again anytime soon. 🥴

FWIW I’m teetotal and I don’t drive. Ergo I am superior 😂

If his hobby is cycling then god help you. Tight Lycra does something to men's brains I think.

Enjoy your glass of wine and make sure you get a hobby so you can come back and judge something that he has or hasn't done.

Because you are. You don't know how to calculate risk.