To think I’m not doing anything wrong

No, not alcoholics and I agree that can leave scars, mainly from neglect and abuse which are associated.

She said 'a glass of wine' not a bottle.

I think you can be raised witnessing heavy drinking ( not necessarily from a parent) and its negative effects and not be traumatized but be wary of what alcohol can do. I am digressing from the point here though as the OP is just talking about one glass of wine.

Yes it’s a good question. Especially when you factor in that OP was clearly expecting her DH back soon, as he’s just walked in mid wine-guzzle.

Is being raised or spending a lot of time around alcoholics a perfectly normal event? I’d say NOT having trauma around that would be an odd psychological response. Also people can just disagree with parenting choices without insulting people with genuine mental health or social communication issues. Neurodiversity isn’t more prevalent, correct diagnosis of neurodiversity is more prevalent.

Well, I agree and I wasn't - or at least not intentionally. But one gets very fed up with everyone having traumas from perfectly normal events.
I had an interesting discussion with DS the other day, on the prevalence or otherwise of neurodiversity. We both agree I was probably what is now labelled 'neurodiverse'. We used to call this being tactless and cloth-eared etc, which I feel was more helpful to people, since they had to learn to watch what they said and did in social situations, rather than being somewhat pandered to, as many MN parents seem to. My generation would not have put up with a DC who changed what they would eat every other month - not financially sustainable for a start.

Tell him to look after the children himself if he's that bothered! In fact, if it's a school night, why is he out at all? Should be setting a good example!

Then they should seek help for their issues, not take it out on others

Then she’d take a taxi!😂 the ‘what if’ flappers are here!

What a joy you must be.

I personally wouldn’t drink alone in the middle of the day while with my young kids as I wouldn’t want to give them that as an example. For me it’s fine with kids around if it’s during an occasional meal or at party ( in moderation obviously) To me that’s kind of showing them a healthy way to drink. One glass isn’t the end of the world though and most people would be quite capable of looking after their kids.

You fancied a glass or two, no crime, DH home, what's the big deal? Xx

I think they need to sort this out between themselves… 🤣

People have said more than just that, come on now.

Wondering if we can get this going in England too…🤣

He’s being bitchy…did he lose at golf? One glass of wine is no harm at all - and I am a complete teetotaller. I live in Ireland and tomorrow is Nollaig na mban - women’s Christmas. A day off for all women in thanks for their efforts in her Christmas…because frankly Christmas wouldn’t happen without us. Men organise the childcare and do all the chores for one day. There will be bottomless brunches happening all over the country - I’m off for a spa day. Your husband is lucky he’s not in Ireland 😂

Saying you wouldn’t do something or that you disagree with it isn’t really “getting worked up” though is it? It’s just an opinion on a thread same as everyone else.

It’s obviously a personal thing. I don’t drink anyway but I have asked my husband to not drink when he is the sole person looking after our daughter. Not even 1.
I find it weird that people drink daily.

I grew up with an alcoholic so I really don’t want drinking around my child.

If it is that important to him you should probably sit down together and discuss the ground rules that should apply to both of you. Maybe if he goes out you abstain and he does the same if you go out. If you are in together take it in turns to drink. I’m not making a judgment about this. It has never been a problem for me and my DH of 40 years. But it is obviously a problem for him and could well become a huge bone of contention if you don’t agree on what is right.

More importantly OP, did you manage to get your children to A&E safely?

In that case they should enjoy their wine. There’s still no need to name call and make fun of those who don’t drink.

Just came back from a 4th birthday party. A few people on here would be absolutely outraged that the parents were handing out beers to the (adult) guests! What an earth would they have done in the event anyone needed to get to hospital???

OP's DH should've stayed at home and given OP a needed break from DC, if he's that worried about one glass of wine, a book and some Pringles.

This is just such a daft argument, sorry.
What about those of us with kids who don't drive?
If DH was away, at work or out I wouldn't be able to drive because I can't drive.
I'd have to get a taxi. Not everyone can drive, you know.

😂 the pearl clutching!

What about single parents? I guess they’re not allowed to drink.
When my husband is out I love having a glass of wine with some trash tv. In fact, my husband would agree we’re both much better parents when we’ve had a drink 😂
In France the kids are even allowed to drink too 😉