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Why am I leaking wee all of a sudden?

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Ricecakesaremyjam · 04/01/2025 15:11

Not sure where best to post for this. I’m 40, two kids youngest being 5, and in the last few months I’m noticing after going for a wee I’m leaking a couple of drops having just gone.
I would have expected this post childbirth etc but it didn’t happen, so why now randomly? Worried this could get worse? And that I will start to smell of wee 😮 sex life killer.
am I not too young for my pelvic floor to just go?
would an electronic pelvic floor machine stop this?
any help appreciated!!!!

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Ilovemyshed · 04/01/2025 16:15

Ricecakesaremyjam · 04/01/2025 15:51

Thanks for your replies, I’m so confused as I don’t leak when jumping/coughing etc so why am I suddenly leaking once I’ve used the loo?
the kegel balls, does anyone know if I literally just insert them for half an hour and they do their thing or is there a technique to it?

You just insert them and wear for a few hours/ all day. Your muscles naturally grip them and get stronger. Providing you rule out any infection/ prolapse or anything they really do the job.

BurntBroccoli · 04/01/2025 16:10

Ricecakesaremyjam · 04/01/2025 15:51

Thanks for your replies, I’m so confused as I don’t leak when jumping/coughing etc so why am I suddenly leaking once I’ve used the loo?
the kegel balls, does anyone know if I literally just insert them for half an hour and they do their thing or is there a technique to it?

Also when you've finished your wee, lean forward to completely drain the bladder.

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 04/01/2025 16:10

@Ricecakesaremyjam pelvic floor exercises!! sort of pull your floor in and hold. do this frequently and the muscles will get stronger!

AnnaMagnani · 04/01/2025 16:10

Start of vaginal atrophy with peri menopause?

I smugly thought my pelvic floor would remain intact and leakfree as I hadn't had children.

Peri had other ideas.

BurntBroccoli · 04/01/2025 16:09

Mine got really bad after I had Covid and such a horrendous cough that I would literally wet myself.
Never been the same since despite kegels and I have to wear pads now (I use washable ones).

MontyDonsBlueScarf · 04/01/2025 16:05

This can be down to menopause as well as pelvic floor weakness so best to consul your doctor. I spent forever doing pelvic floor exercises to no effect. Local HRT sorted it in a few weeks.

mondaytosunday · 04/01/2025 15:59

Yes the weight doesn't help. I've gained a bit recently and while I don't leak I've found now if I have to go I have to go right now!

Timetochillnow · 04/01/2025 15:59

Ricecakesaremyjam · 04/01/2025 15:52

And will losing weight help? I’ve piled it on over the last couple of years not going to lie 🫣

Yes! Definitely something to work on 😊

rubbishtowel · 04/01/2025 15:59

I think you should speak to your GP. People with a weak pelvic floor normally leak if they do jump/ cough etc. You need to find out what is going on.

spinningisthebest · 04/01/2025 15:57

I really recommend seeing a pelvic physio- I saw one years after the birth of my DCs and it was life changing.

Original poster
Ricecakesaremyjam · 04/01/2025 15:52

And will losing weight help? I’ve piled it on over the last couple of years not going to lie 🫣

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Original poster
Ricecakesaremyjam · 04/01/2025 15:51

Thanks for your replies, I’m so confused as I don’t leak when jumping/coughing etc so why am I suddenly leaking once I’ve used the loo?
the kegel balls, does anyone know if I literally just insert them for half an hour and they do their thing or is there a technique to it?

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BookGoblin · 04/01/2025 15:47

This happened to me after a bout of whopping cough, similar age. Then got better. Have had the various winter coughs, can cause temporary issues

Getuptherenow · 04/01/2025 15:45

It's age. Happens to me sometimes too.

raya223 · 04/01/2025 15:44

This is me. My pelvic floor has not been the best since my second. But I only use to leak when I would run or do jumps. Now I leak just walking or going into a cold room. I have a doctor's appointment this week because I am not settling for this at only 42. I do pelvic floor exercises but feel I am getting worse

teaandbiscuitskittles · 04/01/2025 15:36

You need to get your GP surgery to test for UTI as you could have an infection. Not all the infections are classic symptoms so it would be the first thing we would rule out.

Ilovemyshed · 04/01/2025 15:26

Get some weighted balls to wear. Love honey is a good place to look, search kegal training balls.