I think I've been ghosted.

He’s not ghosting you. He just hasn’t messaged you.

Ghosting is when someone ignores your message. You haven’t messaged him, so he’s not ghosting you.

It's such a non thing though. If you like him this seems like such a small thing to throw away a potential future for, when you could have just messaged him and saved yourself all this angst!
This sounds much more like your pride has been wounded then anything else.
As I say, if you're not that bothered then leave things here, it just seems so petty to throw away something for such a small thing.

Absolutely 💯 agree with this.

A lot of men are shit nowadays. TBH women too. To me, it's clear that he's not that into you. If he was, he would have texted you.

@LemonTT What is clear from your posts is that you need reassurance and contact.

That's not what this thread says at all. He said he would text tomorrow, he didn't text. If he would have said I'll text you next week I'm sure OP wouldn't have been sitting there crying that she wasn't getting daily contact. He didn't do something he said he would do.

There is a lots of healthy space between lovebombing and bread crumbing. I would be as suspicious of someone who bombarded me with texts and messages as I would have someone who appeared to limit communication to such a degree that you are unsure of yourself.

At the start of a relationship healthy people keep in contact but some of us don’t like to be overtaken by our infatuation. Don’t get me wrong the infatuation stage is great but it stops us asking questions as to whether the person or relationship is the right one. It’s healthy to want to be around a new love interest and it is healthy to want to give them some assurance you are interested.

What is clear from your posts is that you need reassurance and contact. Maybe he doesn’t. You could talk this out and it could be resolved. Or he could run a mile at the thought of it. But the question is why, if he is behaving in a way you don’t like, are you just not calling it a day. Throw this one back.

FWIW, I’m one of those people who doesn’t like constant contact. MrTT jokes about it. But when we got together I did stay in contact and wanted to be in contact. If you want to make something work you want to reply (that’s the infatuation) and you do so in a way that gives the other person assurance you are interested but also not a needy loon.

you've done nothing wrong, he's the one not messaging when he said he would, I definitely wouldn't message him.

If you message him, he knows he doesn't have to make any effort with you.

He didn't do something he said he was going to do. How is it exactly the same? OP hasn't gone back on something she said she would do.

If it’s any consolation, someone once ghosted me after a SIX MONTH relationship. Six months! I’d met his family, he had clothes and things at mine… then poof! Vanished. I honestly thought he’d died or something until he started posting on Facebook. I tell this story and laugh now but at the time it hurt.

But isn't that exactly what you've done as well??
I don't get this! If you like him, text him. If you're not that bothered, don't.

He said he'd message you, he hasn't. I wouldn't text him either OP. It shouldn't be this hard this early on. Flakey - move on.

Yeah, do this. Good advice. X

yeh he's definitely doing the ghosting, it's up to him to follow up on his message telling you he'll message.

I think he’s ghosting, not you. If someone usually texts someone first then doesn’t, you’d send a “hey, how are you?” Message or SOMETHING. Because you’d think it’s odd or that there could actually be something seriously wrong. OR he so expects you to always text first, despite his last message saying he’d text you, that he’s not worth any effort as he has no investment in a two way relationship. So either way, chuck this one back. Being ghosted for the first time sucks. Unfortunately the more it happens the less you care. It’s when it’s someone you’ve been seeing for MONTHS and have real feeling for that it’s bad.

No, don't message him, unless you want a relationship were you're always the one initiating the contact.....who would want that.

If he doesn't contact you now after saying he would then he's obviously not interested.

I agree with PP. Sounds like you are both ghosting each other. In which case, it's obviously time to ditch this one and move on.

Yeah I'd leave it to him, 100%.

I get where you're coming from OP. He did say he'd text but hasn't.

If you text he'll probably respond but as you say, you make most of the moves. And you know he's been online.

Maybe send a quick 'How's 2025 going so far?'

You have not done the ghosting. He said he would text you tomorrow and he hasn't.

You hit the nail on the head, if he wanted to, he would.

Fgs just send him a quick text to put an end to it either way. At least you'll know for sure, could be a perfectly good reason and your building it into
Something it's not.

3 days isn't long, there may be all sorts of reasons why he hasn't been in touch maybe his phone isn't working?
Maybe he thinks you are ghosting him as normally you contact him and you haven't this time? Maybe he isn't very confident so he waits to hear from you.
I think you at least need to contact him to see if he is ok and then take it from there. If you do decide the relationship is worth it you need a conversation about how you both see things developing or not.

You're not doing the ghosting, you replied to his last message. He said he would text and he never. I wouldn't chase him.