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Anyone used a she-wee?

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matildaworm · 03/01/2025 23:29

Nc for this but long term poster - MN can verify etc.

Since having my youngest child (and probably just getting older generally) I, like many other women, need to pee. A lot. Mornings are the worst especially if I dare to have a cup of tea or coffee which I never do if I have to travel somewhere or have a work meeting. But I still have to pee a lot regardless.

I have a 10 year old son who plays football competitively and this means a lot of early starts and long drives to clubs which mostly do have toilet facilities, but many are just fields in the middle of nowhere. I find the anxiety and uncertainty of the toilet availability along with the travel makes me need to go more. On many occasions I've had to drop him off and frantically drive around looking for a supermarket or McDonald's in an unfamiliar town which is very stressful.

So I was trying to think of other options. Considered a camping toilet but where would you actually put it to go? The car park? Not very discreet. Considered also a she wee but again, you'd have to find somewhere to use it. And I don't understand how you'd be able to use it without pulling your pants and trousers down a fair bit. Are they worth having for someone in my situation? Any tips appreciated.

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GreetingCeridwen · 04/01/2025 00:01

I use a shewee for long walks, hiking etc. agree that it takes a bit of practice, but they are actually marvellous and really do allow you to pee quite discretely. They are also great if there is a public toilet that's grubby (I have friends who swear by them for festivals). They're also just about the least bulky option.

caringcarer · 04/01/2025 00:00

I've got one in my car dashboard just in case I get caught up behind a car accident on the motorway. Sometimes the queue between 2 junctions comes to a standstill and there is no movement for over an hour or 2. I've never had to use it but glad I got it just in case. I also keep a couple bottles of water, first aid kit in my car too.

MereDintofPandiculation · 03/01/2025 23:56

If you get a shee-wee, use an extension tube. Wear a pad so you do't worry about drips.

Personally, I'd wear a long warm skirt and slip, then you can squat discreetly and just move knickers aside and wee into a wide-necked bottle. Open front and back door of car and squat between them

Maddy70 · 03/01/2025 23:56

Definitely practice first.......

Onlyvisiting · 03/01/2025 23:53

What about one of those boot tent/day shelter things? Then you could say it's for your ds to change/you to relax with a book whatever, but would be handy with a camping loo! There are a million choices in all price ranges, google tailgate shelter.
Or buy a van and put the toilet in the back ....

polpolpolpol · 03/01/2025 23:52

MymblesMother · 03/01/2025 23:38

Have you looked at Kiddiwhizz? They have an adult version; it's better than a shewee imo as it collects the urine so you could use it discretely in the car and tip away later on.
I have both and a shewee definitely takes practice (in the shower) to get the technique/angle right.

I like the look of these but can't work out how you could wee into what is essentially a flask whilst sitting in a car?

TomorrowTodayYesterday · 03/01/2025 23:46

If you put 'toilet' into Google maps it will bring up any public toilets near your location which might be useful if there's no supermarkets/cafes around.

Also just wanted to empathise - I'm exactly the same. I reckon I could drink a vat of coffee at home and be OK but the minute I leave the house I need to wee! It has to be psychosomatic.

MymblesMother · 03/01/2025 23:38

Have you looked at Kiddiwhizz? They have an adult version; it's better than a shewee imo as it collects the urine so you could use it discretely in the car and tip away later on.
I have both and a shewee definitely takes practice (in the shower) to get the technique/angle right.

alibongo5 · 03/01/2025 23:38

I have used a she wee but not in the circumstances you describe. As you say, you still have to find somewhere discreet to use it. I don't think one will help in the circumstances you describe although it might be useful to have for emergencies - but practice using it in advance as it takes a bit o getting used to!

TimeForTeaAndG · 03/01/2025 23:37

Probably a better plan would be to check on Google map for the nearby supermarkets etc rather than finding them once you get there.

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 03/01/2025 23:34

my tip: test it out in the shower first and get familiar with it before trying it in the wild.
and be careful on any windy days!

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