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Veggie served meat - what if anything would you do? do?

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TortellinimorelikeTorteLIEni · 03/01/2025 23:05

Went out for a meal tonight. A nice chain. Ordered aubergine tortellini. When it came and I ate the first couple of mouthfuls I thought it tasted odd. Had a bit more and thought it tasted and looked like beef. Asked a couple of the people with me and they agreed. I called the waiter over and asked if I could have been given meat by mistake. He said there was no meat version of the tortellini but he'd check with the kitchen. Came back and said it was definitely aubergine.

I checked the menu and there was no meat version on it so I told myself I must be mistaken. Took another bite but nope, definitely tasted like beef.

I Google and see that on New year's there was indeed a beef version of the tortellini on their menu. I am now 100% sure that's what they have given me. I check with a third member of my table, they also agree it's meat. The portion was small - literally like 6 big tortellini so by now it's almost all gone.

When the waiter comes to clear the table I mention it again, I tell him I'm now sure it was meat and ask him to inform the kitchen.

He comes back after some time saying they have now checked thoroughly and it is definitely aubergine. They have checked the meat tortellini from New Year's and it looks completely different.

I don't want to get into a big back and forth at this point as most of the meal has gone and the rest of the table have had nice food and are enjoying themselves.

However. I am wondering whether to email their manager or head office to ask them to check their tortellini and labelling? I'm not after money off but I am concerned about them dishing up meat to veggies and the potential for someone with allergies to eat something they shouldn't.

Is there any point now? Or should I leave it at this point?

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Christmaslover1986 · 05/01/2025 18:38

Definitely email to let them know you think there could be a mistake

I must say, aubergine is meant to be like beefy meaty like substitute for vegetarians. It really could be possible they were telling the truth x

MoreNetflix · 05/01/2025 18:28

Speakingmymind · 04/01/2025 17:47

OP said it was like 6 big tortellini and at the end so by now it's almost all gone

So she ate most of it. I used to be veggie and have been in this situation. As soon as I realised something was wrong, I stopped eating the dish.

No, she ate some and 3 other people ate some. She said it was a small portion so there wouldn’t be much left after that.

If you’re told that it can’t be beef as there’s no beef version, you may just think its similar to meat which aubergine can be.

OP has done the right thing by responding to their email and informing them of what happened and she’s satisfied thats all she can do.

Speakingmymind · 04/01/2025 17:47

MoreNetflix · 04/01/2025 14:28

🤦‍♀️ That didn’t happen.

She ate some and it tasted odd.
She tried more and THOUGHT it MIGHT be beef.
She asked others who tried it for her (reducing the amount left on her plate) and they agreed it tasted like beef.
She then check with staff and was told that it couldn’t be beef as there was no beef version on the menu, so ate more thinking she must be mistaken.
On trying it again, thinking she must be wrong after what the waiter told her, she was completely convinced it was beef.
Another person at her table tried it (again reducing what was left on her plate) and also agreed it was beef.

It was a small portion which 4 people had some of, OP had a few mouthfuls altogether as well as 3 others. She hardly cleared the plate. 🙄

Why are you making stuff up?

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OP said it was like 6 big tortellini and at the end so by now it's almost all gone

So she ate most of it. I used to be veggie and have been in this situation. As soon as I realised something was wrong, I stopped eating the dish.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 04/01/2025 17:06

TurtlesDoNotPetsMake · 04/01/2025 14:03

I've had meat served to me twice before. DD10 went to a McDonald's with her grandad, asked for a McDonald's asked for a Mcplant but we think the patty was meat as she was very sick immediately after.

That could have just been a McPlant. They're really not nice, and very greasy.

Bogginsthe3rd · 04/01/2025 16:40

devilspawn · 04/01/2025 16:20

Why, many mushrooms are a lot meatier?

Mushrooms are the tuna of the soil

devilspawn · 04/01/2025 16:21

Wolfpa · 04/01/2025 15:46

I think you have done all you can, you’re 100% sure it was beef the chef was 100% sure it was aubergine. They can taste very similar and aubergine is often used to bulk out beef recipes.

you can’t prove it but the restaurant can check the labels for future reference.

In what world does beef taste like aubergine 😕 They don't even have the same texture because aubergine has 1/5th more water content.

devilspawn · 04/01/2025 16:20

Bogginsthe3rd · 04/01/2025 00:16

To be fair Aubergine is considered the beef of the veg patch

Why, many mushrooms are a lot meatier?

SerendipityJane · 04/01/2025 15:53

A tip (humorous!) - always say something like 'I'm glad it's not meat as I have a life-threatening allergy.' Then you'll see if they have realised their mistake!

Sadly:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cy0ryvk4jj7o

However, generally the UK doesn't do "what if ..." as a motivator for change. Much more economic to do "Oh dear...".

Hannah Jacobs wearing a white patterned dress and glasses and holding balloons

Costa hot chocolate death due to allergy process failures

The girl's mother accuses the food industry of treating allergy training as a "tick box exercise".

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cy0ryvk4jj7o

Wolfpa · 04/01/2025 15:46

I think you have done all you can, you’re 100% sure it was beef the chef was 100% sure it was aubergine. They can taste very similar and aubergine is often used to bulk out beef recipes.

you can’t prove it but the restaurant can check the labels for future reference.

UpUpUpU · 04/01/2025 15:08

Marmunia10667 · 04/01/2025 14:53

OP - I would be fuming too, as a lifelong vegetarian. If you'd had an allergy, it could potentially have been serious.

A tip (humorous!) - always say something like 'I'm glad it's not meat as I have a life-threatening allergy.' Then you'll see if they have realised their mistake!

That wouldn't work as you would surely declare something serious like that.

I think the long and short of it is if OP was convinced it was meat as were 3 of her friends she should have sent it back for another dish. She didn't and the time has now passed.

Marmunia10667 · 04/01/2025 14:53

OP - I would be fuming too, as a lifelong vegetarian. If you'd had an allergy, it could potentially have been serious.

A tip (humorous!) - always say something like 'I'm glad it's not meat as I have a life-threatening allergy.' Then you'll see if they have realised their mistake!

AlltheClocks · 04/01/2025 14:53

cherish123 · 04/01/2025 14:31

Unless you have an allergy, I'd let it go.
I don't eat fish and was once served it. Did not realise until nearly finished. Didn't complain.

But that’s the point!!

Surely if no-one complains, it will likely happen again because they won’t have reviewed their processes to ensure the error isn’t repeated?

Next time, it could have far more serious consequences for the unsuspecting diner!

AlltheClocks · 04/01/2025 14:51

Definitely complain!

When you’re a lifelong vegetarian and you eat meat products, it can make you very ill because you don’t have the right gut bacteria to digest it.

My DH got a bad case of D&V after a meal out that I’m certain contained meat (I eat meat and it tasted meaty to me). Unfortunately, he doesn’t like to make a fuss so didn’t say anything at the time but was violently sick within a few hours. That lasted a couple of days and ruined our holiday.

SerendipityJane · 04/01/2025 14:42

Must be something about tortellini that it's so prone to getting mixed up

"What the eye doesn't see, the chef gets away with ..." 😀

MoreNetflix · 04/01/2025 14:37

cherish123 · 04/01/2025 14:31

Unless you have an allergy, I'd let it go.
I don't eat fish and was once served it. Did not realise until nearly finished. Didn't complain.

I think OP is right to mention it. It not nice for her and she shouldn’t have been served meat. Errors can happen, but they should be pointed out to reduce the likelihood of it happening again to others who choose not to eat meat and for those who can’t eat it.

cherish123 · 04/01/2025 14:31

Unless you have an allergy, I'd let it go.
I don't eat fish and was once served it. Did not realise until nearly finished. Didn't complain.

MoreNetflix · 04/01/2025 14:28

Speakingmymind · 04/01/2025 14:02

I think you personally knew it was beef after a few mouthfuls but ate it anyway. Why clear the plate otherwise.

🤦‍♀️ That didn’t happen.

She ate some and it tasted odd.
She tried more and THOUGHT it MIGHT be beef.
She asked others who tried it for her (reducing the amount left on her plate) and they agreed it tasted like beef.
She then check with staff and was told that it couldn’t be beef as there was no beef version on the menu, so ate more thinking she must be mistaken.
On trying it again, thinking she must be wrong after what the waiter told her, she was completely convinced it was beef.
Another person at her table tried it (again reducing what was left on her plate) and also agreed it was beef.

It was a small portion which 4 people had some of, OP had a few mouthfuls altogether as well as 3 others. She hardly cleared the plate. 🙄

Why are you making stuff up?

NC10125 · 04/01/2025 14:21

I'm mostly veggie and I have been served meat a couple of times in restaurants when I've ordered veggie.

Once the chef realised how it had happened as soon as I complained (veggie lasagna/meat lasagna in an individual dish), apologised and gave us free desert.

The second time I had the same experience as you - being told that it wasn't. It was at a work do so I didn't make a fuss and just ate it but I'm 100% sure in my own mind that it was meat.

Melodyfair · 04/01/2025 14:20

TortellinimorelikeTorteLIEni · 04/01/2025 14:08

Please can you point out where in any of my posts I said that I ate it all myself and cleared the plate?

No, actually don't bother. I will definitely bow out now. I might check back in a week to find out what version everyone made up by the end. I'll probably discover I ate an entire rump steak and claimed I had no idea it wasn't an aubergine ..

Yeah I’d run now OP, your at the stage now where posters have grabbed the thread from your hands and like a side of beef given to rabid dogs, your thread is being mauled about on the floor. I’ve name changed now as have had this happen to me, it nuts. No point even trying to defend yourself as they will either focus in on one irrelevant detail and elaborate or just completely make shit up and have a go over that. You handled your concerns in the restaurant perfectly.

despairnow · 04/01/2025 14:13

Did you take a photo??

Beketaten · 04/01/2025 14:10

Did you take any pictures of what you were served? I'd send them to head office if you did.

I've been veggie over 30 years, I'm sure I have inadvertently eaten meat on a few occasions too.

TortellinimorelikeTorteLIEni · 04/01/2025 14:08

Speakingmymind · 04/01/2025 14:02

I think you personally knew it was beef after a few mouthfuls but ate it anyway. Why clear the plate otherwise.

Please can you point out where in any of my posts I said that I ate it all myself and cleared the plate?

No, actually don't bother. I will definitely bow out now. I might check back in a week to find out what version everyone made up by the end. I'll probably discover I ate an entire rump steak and claimed I had no idea it wasn't an aubergine ..

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TurtlesDoNotPetsMake · 04/01/2025 14:03

I've had meat served to me twice before. DD10 went to a McDonald's with her grandad, asked for a McDonald's asked for a Mcplant but we think the patty was meat as she was very sick immediately after.

Speakingmymind · 04/01/2025 14:02

I think you personally knew it was beef after a few mouthfuls but ate it anyway. Why clear the plate otherwise.

TortellinimorelikeTorteLIEni · 04/01/2025 14:02

So a couple of things. I DID stop eating once I KNEW it was beef. It really was a small portion though so given 3 (or 4?) other people at the table had tried it by then there wasn't much left.

I didn't clean my plate.

I never asked for 'compo'.

I was extremely polite to the waiter as he was to me, I never asked to speak to a manager. Our interaction was extremely pleasant at all times. So apart from Karen being an offensive stereotype it doesn't even apply here.

I still don't want 'compo'.

I want them to double check something I believe to be mislabeled.

I think we've come to the point in a mumsnet thread now where people are making stuff up and I know from experience the responses aren't going to be helpful when that happens.

I absolutely take on board that I have no proof now so my expectation that they do anything should be low.

I've filled out the feedback form but I have no intention to do anything further.

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