You're so lucky!

Start saying it back to her! No kids - you're so lucky you can do what you want when you want. Owns her home - she's so lucky!

Similar at work - I pay a cleaner. Colleagues say I'm so lucky... but they're buying lunch every day whereas I'm the queen of Tupper ware dinners from home 🤣

My way isn't better but it's different.

I hear you, it's infuriating.
Family friend hasn't worked for 12 years. 1 child who is now 11. Her husband has a sub 30k job

We both work full time in stressful but average salary jobs.

Their house is falling apart. We've done ours up. We're so lucky.

They have a cheap end but abroad holiday, we have a longer holiday. We're so lucky.

She cuts her own hair, I get mine done now and again. We're so lucky.....

It’s not black and white though is it, yes some of it is of course down to luck but some is working hard, making choices and prioritizing different things. It’s annoying when some people suggest it’s mainly down to luck. We are mid 30s and will have paid our mortgage off by the time we’re 40. We prioritized buying a house and overpaying the mortgage and both of us working full time and almost full time whilst we have young kids. We chose careers that paid decently and worked our way up. SIL seems bitter about this and says it’s pure luck but she has chosen to work 20 hours a week and has always had big holidays, It’s not a straight comparison and most definitely not just down to luck.

Very irritating. I have an older sibling like this. Instead of saving for house or nice things, that they say we are 'lucky' to have. They frittered their money on very expensive tropical holidays, whilst taking the piss about us going on 'sun' caravan holidays & buying second hand cars, when we first started out. They had good jobs, got paid much more, they said, than our shitty jobs. Yet they somehow never managed to buy a house. Now we are apparently sitting pretty & it's causing a few issues. FFS I'm 55 DH knocking 60 & worked bloody hard since we were 16. Thought we'd be past this at this great age, but no. Plus snarky comments about us now going on nice holidays. I always say yes & the harder we work the luckier we get. Goes over their head.

My mother thinks I “always have luck’. I find it simultaneously hilarious and maddening, because (1) my ‘lucky’ achievements are all the wrong things for her to be pleased by (several degrees, award-winning books rather than four children and being a SAHM who always on hand for bingo and complaints about teething), plus (2) she thinks things like living in a nicer suburb than I grew up in, being married to DH, and having the occasional thing on the radio means I risk looking to other people like I’ve got Ideas Above My Station.

Basically she prefers other people to have bad luck. It keeps them humble and makes her feel needed.

Except life isn't like this for a lot of people. Many 'work hard' and haven't made bad choices and still live month to month.

That doesn't mean it's not annoying when people make comments like that. But it's an annoying assumption that people can live mortgage free and have multiple holidays a year if they just 'work hard'.

I hear ya!
It's bloody irritating.
My dsis's say I'm "sitting pretty".
Mortgage paid off, few quid in the bank, holidays etc.
But I've worked bloody hard my whole adult life, I'm knocking 60 and I'm still working full time.
They're not "sitting pretty" due to some bad choices.
It's like my life just fell into my lap and they resent me for it.

Honestly, I would just tell her! Say it’s mainly down to hard work.

Isn't the good health of your kids and husband somewhat due to luck?