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AIBU - friend wants hotel for wedding guests only but my mum will be looking after my newborn

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BunnyFox · 03/01/2025 16:33

My best friend is getting married later this year and I’m currently pregnant with my first baby. Baby will be 3 months old at time of wedding and children are not invited (no problem, her wedding her wishes). The wedding is also abroad, so I’ve got my mum to come to look after our new baby in the room. The wedding hotel has no family rooms and when I rang and explained the scenario they said all I could do was book 2 x double rooms, (ok, no problem if that’s the only option).
My best friend has now asked if my mum can book another hotel in the area as she wants to keep rooms for wedding guests only. I’ve explained that I will need to be near the baby for feeds and perhaps to settle them, so would like her to be onsite. It’s my first baby and I’m trying all options and logistics as I don’t know how things will go, but I feel she’s being insensitive to my situation.

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TwattyMcFuckFace · 03/01/2025 16:38

I’ve explained that I will need to be near the baby for feeds and perhaps to settle them, so would like her to be onsite. It’s my first baby and I’m trying all options and logistics as I don’t know how things will go, but I feel she’s being insensitive to my situation.

You haven't said whether she stuck to her guns or not?

If she did, she's really not bothered about you attending her wedding, so why do it?

BellaTheDarkOverlord · 03/01/2025 16:38

Don’t go. Book a holiday elsewhere where you’re allowed to be a mum.

Boarb · 03/01/2025 16:38

Zanatdy · 03/01/2025 16:35

Can’t your mum stay in your room during the ceremony?

Yes, but she'll still need somewhere to sleep later.

Why on earth should she have to leave when she's paid and gone abroad to keep the newborn baby of the bride's best friend away from the ceremony!

Forgottobuymincepies · 03/01/2025 16:38

Basically your friend is shouting loud and clear your baby will be an unwanted distraction from her on her big day. Stay home and enjoy your dc.. I get a dc free wedding but she is in Bridezilla territory with that demand....

saraclara · 03/01/2025 16:37

WTF? That's ridiculous. Her wedding is so exclusive that she doesn't want anyone else to be there? Not even your own mother, who only needs to be flown over there because of her no babies rule?

Presumably the baby isn't allowed there as it's not a guest either? This is pure bridezilla at its worst.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 03/01/2025 16:37

I'd say that my mum stays at hotel, or we don't come at all. No hard feelings, but we won't be able to come unless the baby is safe on site. At 3 months, she's tying your hands completely.

CordeliaNaismithVorkosigan · 03/01/2025 16:37

I wouldn’t go, it’s going to be a huge amount of hassle and you’ll probably fall out anyway if she’s going to be this unreasonable.

DaisyDumplings · 03/01/2025 16:37

Your friend is being bridezilla, Unless she’s booked the full hotel for her sole use she can’t expect your mum not to have a room.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 03/01/2025 16:36

Not up to her surely, unless she is paying for exclusive use?

Namenamchange · 03/01/2025 16:36

I honestly don’t know how you would manage if your baby was in another hotel, how would it even be possible or practical.

Not sure I’d even go under the circumstances.

BeadyLeaves · 03/01/2025 16:35

Your friend is being ridiculous.

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Zanatdy · 03/01/2025 16:35

Can’t your mum stay in your room during the ceremony?