My partner left my birthday

He is a complete wet blanket at best OP and a controlling narcissist at worst. Dump him. You're only 22 - find someone who is less of a selfish twat. That shouldn't be hard!

This!!!

My ex did very similar things, I ended up distancing myself from my family and then when he was emotionally abusive and repeatedly cheating and blaming me I felt totally alone and put up with it for years longer than I should. There were good times with him though too and it is hard but you are so young if you stay in this it will ruin your life and take you years to recover. This is jsut the start of this behaviour

@NiftyRoseDreamer Having spent 1.5 years together is no reason to stay another day longer. That time is not "lost" because it didn't work out. Each of your relationships will teach you valuable lessons - about yourself and life. I spent 9 years with someone who seemed like Prince Charming at the start and by the end was a violent, abusive alcoholic. If I had my time over, I'd happily have cut it short at 1.5 days. And he had all the hallmarks of yours - the keenness to isolate you is the biggest red flag of all because it's soon after that the abuse will start. A thousand times, @NiftyRoseDreamer, I cannot reiterate this enough. You absolutely must leave this person, as everyone else has pointed out. It won't get better from here, only worse.

He obviously didn't like you having so much attention that didn't revolve around him.
This really is a sign of things to come .
I would put good money on him being super controlling as the years go by . Especially when it comes to your family .
Really take your time to consider his behaviour if you ever think about children.

He’s just given you the best birthday present he could. He’s gifted you with the vision of your future.

22 please cut your losses and find someone who won’t ruin everything nice for you x

Sounds like he wasn’t enjoying all your attention not being on him and he had a strop, not a chance I’d put up with that from a guy.

a loving boyfriend wouldn’t spoil your birthday and wouldn’t argue with you on your birthday either, my dh goes to family occasions, he doesn’t particularly enjoys them but for me he will go. He would never have a strop about it either.

Yes me too.
As an adult I’d tolerate it for my other half so as not to ruin their birthday, but I’d talk about it afterwards. No way I’d just up and leave.

You deserve better than this tosser.

Get rid! He's being very manipulative and controlling.

Tell him the only one who was rude and selfish was him.

Please listen to us old duffers who have seen, dated and married men like this. Bin him and be young, free and single. Enjoy your birthdays, see the world, be a fabulous 20 something. All without the abusive, selfish, whiny, manbaby ❤️

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I spent decades with a very similar man to this. I didn’t know what I was dealing with. But I do now.

If he is not the centre of attention, he will wreck it. Whatever it is . Birthdays , holidays , Christmas.

A particular highlight was my child being in hospital. You are young. Don’t waste your life on this man. He will ruin it.

Oh op
I'm so sorry your birthday was ruined!
Your partner being the one to ruin it is so sad.
Anyone that loves you doesn't behave like this idiot has.
He sounds controlling,immature and selfish.
You were talking with your family and enjoying their company and he didn't like it!
A person that loves you doesn't behave like this ,my dh would be happy because I was happy not storming off because I wasn't solely focused on him .
Get rid

Please don't waste any more time on this relationship OP, I ignored a lot of these red flags in my early twenties.

Now, I curse myself for wasting what should have been some of the best years of my young life on awful men who didn't deserve my love, or a second of my time.

Don't chose misery for yourself. Don't have another birthday like this.
He's shown you what lies ahead and it's so far from good enough.

What was your family's reaction op?

He sounds immature and needy. You are young and deserve someone better. I would move on.

A controlling man won't say outright 'I don't want you to spend time with your family' instead what they do is make you feel so bad about it that you stop seeing them so often to avoid the shitty treatment from controlling man.
It's only been one and a half years, too soon to move in, can you move out again.

You're only 22. There are better men out there. Don't get stuck with an immature one. Men like this are difficult to be married to.

He’s a manchild and you have your whole life ahead of you. Dump this moron and don’t waste any more time with him.

He has acted very immaturely and he is the selfish one. I can imagine he’s the type of person who is very “sensitive” in an emotionally immature way and doesn’t take responsibility for his own feelings. I have no doubt he won’t take a break up with much grace and will try to make you feel bad or guilty, but it’s better to get out now than have any more of this behaviour

he is showing who he is and he wants to to prioritise him over family. I have been with someone like that. He will try to alienate your from your family, drive a wedge between. You have seen the first clear attempt today. On your birthday of all the days. It's not about you or you as a couple but about him. Cut your losses. Plenty more (better) fish in the sea.

Nah, this is not reasonable behaviour, even if a family member tried to rib him for being on the phone.
Does he begrudge the time you spend with family?

No, this is all him being a demanding twit.

Even if your family had been on obnoxious to him; there's no reason for him to have been so awful to you. To lie about why he was going. To not have you return with him. And for him to then start an argument. Get rid. He's horrible.