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To think the British educational system is all wrong?

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CookiePlough · 03/01/2025 01:27

It seems like the aim is to make adults out of children as soon as possible rather than allowing them enough time to just be kids.

My main issues are that 1. kids start school way too early and 2. spend way too much time in school.

What is the purpose of a 4 year old child learning to read and write and do addition and subtraction? How does this help the child either in the present or in the future when they are an adult? I can see that 4 year olds are clearly capable of learning these things and of course being able to read or do simple arithmetic is not a problem. The problem is what are they missing out on in order to learn these skills? In my opinion they are missing out on playing. Unstructured, self determined playing. You can learn academics at a later age but you can't really make up for not getting enough playtime as a child. However, this wouldn't be a problem if the school day wasn't so ridiculously long. There just isn't enough time to play after school. There is no time to go anywhere after school (eg the park), for playdates, for any play that takes longer than an hour, to do extra curricular activities (without missing out on Unstructured play time) or anything else. Everything has to be done on the weekend but then when do you have time to do things as a family?

I understand most kids have 2 parents working full time so kids need to be in some sort of childcare setting but even nursery is preferable at thst age to school as there is more unstructured play and more adult supervision. School requires much more in terms of social skills, resilience etc. Which kids,should learn but not by suddenly being dropped in it.

I'm just ranting because I'm tired and upset rather than explaining my points properly. And it's not like I can change the system. I just feel so sad that kids are missing out on being kids. It's not the worst childhood obviously but it's also not as good as it could be.

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poetryandwine · 07/01/2025 13:03

Natsku · 07/01/2025 12:05

Too much team sports can be very off-putting for some for sure (though others enjoy them very much). In primary school here they do a bit of learning the skills of team sports with little competition (except baseball, which they do have proper matches in) but mostly pe is playground game type things, gymnastics, orienteering, swimming, skiing and skating, so not so off-putting. Upper school has some team sports but it's again not so much, they go to the gym, go for walks (to certain points in town), go to the skate park, things like that, as well as skiing and skating. Much less off-putting to most. And the optional course in pe does things like self-defence, shooting, archery, downhill skiing, and other activities the students request, as well as some team sports. I'm pretty jealous of DD's PE experience in school, much better than mine!

I also did gymnastics, archery, self defence, skating and yoga in PE as well as team sports. We had PE every day in high school, which was very valuable. I may be wrong but I don’t think British schoolchildren have most of these opportunities.

Natsku · 07/01/2025 12:05

Too much team sports can be very off-putting for some for sure (though others enjoy them very much). In primary school here they do a bit of learning the skills of team sports with little competition (except baseball, which they do have proper matches in) but mostly pe is playground game type things, gymnastics, orienteering, swimming, skiing and skating, so not so off-putting. Upper school has some team sports but it's again not so much, they go to the gym, go for walks (to certain points in town), go to the skate park, things like that, as well as skiing and skating. Much less off-putting to most. And the optional course in pe does things like self-defence, shooting, archery, downhill skiing, and other activities the students request, as well as some team sports. I'm pretty jealous of DD's PE experience in school, much better than mine!

taxguru · 07/01/2025 11:21

TizerorFizz · 07/01/2025 10:37

@dizzydizzydizzy You do realise many dc have no books and just have games on tablets? What reading for pleasure? I would prefer dc to have an expectation to read set by the school. What schools set holiday witk? Never seen this in private or state sector.

@mids2019 Just because a pupil won’t be a musician, that’s no reason to abandon music. Or Drama. Performing helps with confidence. It’s not about being the best it’s about taking part. Should sport be abandoned on the same basis? Only a few will be really good. Or do we accept it has wider benefits? As does music.

The problem isn't the subjects themselves, it's the way they're delivered.

Especially with games/PE which is mostly about team games, so those who are poor at it are set up to fail, not to mention being set up to be bullied. There should be more "solo" kind of sports/activities options where the pupil is simply getting more exercise for well being, and maybe challenging themselves to improve rather than knowing they'll never be able to compete with more able sporty pupils.

Same with music and art etc - the kids who don't have the skills to play an instrument, sing, or create an original piece of art are compared against all the others who can, whether it's performances in the classroom, posters on a wall etc. They may not be "marked" as such, but the poor pupils know they're poor compared with the brilliant classmates.

TizerorFizz · 07/01/2025 11:14

But most dc do play with friends. I cannot understand why not. Leaving school at 3.20 we were home 10 minutes later. Sometimes with another child. The dc played until tea and after tea the play friend was collected. We then did reading and whatever else - bit usually more play! I don’t agree that the homework should be lengthy or that schools should change because dc live 45 mins away. That’s excessive. Sometimes dc had clubs like brownies and swimming and dc 1 Aldo did strings orchestra at the music centre. Later on a choir too. She liked all of this and loves her singing even now. Parents can set up playing if they want to . They just need to look at their lives and make adjustments. Even dd2 at a very well known prep has friends to play in y4.

dizzydizzydizzy · 07/01/2025 10:55

@TizerorFizz yes I do realise many DC don't read for pleasure and don't have books in the house and I agree with you about school setting expectations about reading. However, I think at the very least, DC should have time to play with their friends when not in school. Everyone is different.

TizerorFizz · 07/01/2025 10:37

@dizzydizzydizzy You do realise many dc have no books and just have games on tablets? What reading for pleasure? I would prefer dc to have an expectation to read set by the school. What schools set holiday witk? Never seen this in private or state sector.

@mids2019 Just because a pupil won’t be a musician, that’s no reason to abandon music. Or Drama. Performing helps with confidence. It’s not about being the best it’s about taking part. Should sport be abandoned on the same basis? Only a few will be really good. Or do we accept it has wider benefits? As does music.

dizzydizzydizzy · 07/01/2025 10:09

Yes, I agree with you OP. We start our kids at school very young in the UK.

I think much the same about homework for primary school children, especially in the holidays . It is just stopping them reading for pleasure and doing other important activities.

TizerorFizz · 07/01/2025 09:41

@CookiePlough NO homework is mandatory. You are, frankly, a bit nuts spending that long on stupid posters. Stop doing it. Have you read your homework policy? I’m assuming this is a state school so should have one! What is the aim of the homework? I bet a poster every weekend doesn’t meet the aims of the policy. The reason you are getting posters is to make you think it’s mandatory but who is marking it? How is it enhancing subject learning? Difficult to say probably. It’s hardly ast if it’s the same every week.

At infants, my DC always had the core subjects in the morning and all the others in the afternoons. Sometimes integrated into core learning in the morning. DD1 had instrument lessons from y1. Recorder then violin from y3. In many ways the afternoons were too short for everything!

mugglewump · 07/01/2025 09:29

I'm a primary teacher and I totally agree we start formal learing too early. Many children are still starting with mark making at 4 and cannot yet draw a circle - yet the first letters we expect them to write are S (easy) a (hard) and t (cross aspect is difficult). Reception should just be about social skills, building communication concentration and vocabulary, learning how to regulate emotions to some extent, and fine and gross motor skills. Once children have these skills, they will learn so much quicker in Year 1 - which should be continuous provision.

Natsku · 07/01/2025 09:15

TickingAlongNicely · 07/01/2025 08:36

With some very recent posts... I wonder if some posters would like a system in lower primary at least, where the pupils did 9.00-13.00 on "core subjects" such as reading, maths, science... then an optional afternoon for arts, technology sport etc so the few who wanted their children in for short days could have it, but those who wanted an all round education or needed to work could have that option too?

Arts, technology,sports etc. Should not be optional as too many underestimate their importance, so I don't think that would be a good idea at all. I think one of the strengths of the Finnish system is that these subjects have never been downgraded - a lot of school time has always been devoted to them, and technology/handicrafts is especially good, I mean the oldest students are doing things like building boats and sheds

CookiePlough · 07/01/2025 09:11

mids2019 · 07/01/2025 07:47

Music again should not waste school resources and curriculum when again it is only the very few brilliant people who can make a realistic career out of the subject. The brilliance of musicians is often shown at an early age and is something possibly imate and therefore difficult to teach to a truly brilliant level.

It's like asking how many elite athletes did GCSE PE? Even if they did the subject of probably made very little difference to their careers. Similarly with music.

Hm I actually disagree. I might be biased because I love music and have always found a lot of joy and comfort in playing an instrument and singing but i do think that music and art should be a part of every child's life. I don't think school should just teach skills that you can make a career out of especially not considering how much time they spend there.

One thing I do like is that the instrument lessons are during school hours as we wouldn't be able to fit them in otherwise. However, when I was a child and finished school at 1pm there was plenty of time in the afternoon to have instrument lessons two or three times a week (or do whatever else interests you).

I know the posters can be seen as a piece of art and making a poster teaches valuable skills but i don't like the frequency of the posters (or similar project like homework). A poster once a term is fine. A poster almost every weekend is a waste of time. I've told the teacher how long it takes her. I'm still waiting for a response. They also always explicitly state in the homework to make it look attractive as it will go up on the wall. 🙄

Dd's homework isn't voluntary but she isn't in reception. She is in year 4.

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Luddite26 · 07/01/2025 08:57

And when I was at primary school in the 70s and early 80s a wonderful broad curriculum of sport, music, arts, crafts, maths, English, history, geography was implemented every day. And school was enjoyable and busy. No SATs no national curriculum.
Something changed in the 1980s and certain subjects got devalued.
School wasn't perfect, teachers could be very sadistic, kids still bullied but there were stick cupboards full of paper until July and felt tips pens paint pencils and exercise books in abundance!

mossylog · 07/01/2025 08:42

Learning basic craft skills like how to use a paintbrush, how to lay out a poster, how to stick one thing onto another thing are perhaps more useful and relevant to most people's lives — in home and in work — than many other subjects. In any given day I'm more likely to be putting together a powerpoint, painting the hall, fixing a broken toy than doing trigonometry (which, I should stess, is also worth knowing).

TickingAlongNicely · 07/01/2025 08:36

With some very recent posts... I wonder if some posters would like a system in lower primary at least, where the pupils did 9.00-13.00 on "core subjects" such as reading, maths, science... then an optional afternoon for arts, technology sport etc so the few who wanted their children in for short days could have it, but those who wanted an all round education or needed to work could have that option too?

Phineyj · 07/01/2025 08:30

Singing is an important collective, bonding activity.

All year 7s sing (to a good level) in my school. It's part of their "broad and balanced education".

CantHoldMeDown · 07/01/2025 08:10

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Quinto · 07/01/2025 08:07

mids2019 · 07/01/2025 07:47

Music again should not waste school resources and curriculum when again it is only the very few brilliant people who can make a realistic career out of the subject. The brilliance of musicians is often shown at an early age and is something possibly imate and therefore difficult to teach to a truly brilliant level.

It's like asking how many elite athletes did GCSE PE? Even if they did the subject of probably made very little difference to their careers. Similarly with music.

You have an extraordinarily reductive idea of education.

Natsku · 07/01/2025 07:58

Art and music are important not because of potential jobs related to them but because how studying them affects the brain and the cultural knowledge and value they bring to the classroom.

mids2019 · 07/01/2025 07:47

Music again should not waste school resources and curriculum when again it is only the very few brilliant people who can make a realistic career out of the subject. The brilliance of musicians is often shown at an early age and is something possibly imate and therefore difficult to teach to a truly brilliant level.

It's like asking how many elite athletes did GCSE PE? Even if they did the subject of probably made very little difference to their careers. Similarly with music.

mids2019 · 07/01/2025 07:41

You could suggest art is promoted by schools but there should be questions whether it is a subject that can be marked objectively when it is really very subjective. What is Dmain Horse had cut up his shadow at the wrong angle, how do you judge?

It's a real shame because I know some technically good people who can draw but is drawing an art form and who judges now? We don't have the society to produce or find art as in the renaissance.

taxguru · 07/01/2025 07:07

The most successful in arts, music, etc., often have no actual schooling/qualifications - the artists creating multi million pound artworks usually don’t even have a gcse in art. Likewise some of the most successful musicians/singers/songwriters can’t even read sheet music and have had no formal training. And it’s only the tiny minority of probably 0.0001% who hit the big time. There is very little correlation between formal arts/music qualifications and Worldwide acclaim/success. The vast majority of those who get qualifications in the arts don’t use them beyond hobbies.

mids2019 · 07/01/2025 06:20

Art should n be able to be dropped fairly quickly in a curriculum imho. If you can get 15 million dollars for taking a banana to a wall I think you really need to question where art is a human skill in 2025. Modern art at least is very much subjective and children do get confused about the artistic merit of modern art as opposed to the great masters. Indeed what is art?

art primarily is a hobby as very very few children will make a living directly from something artistic and even then the salary paid is very much dependent on the centuries of the market (look at van Gogh at the time).

it's often a subject that if a child does not have some outstanding talent can be no need at GCSE and in my opinion should be earlier to make way for focus on maths, English and STEM if need be.

my children aren't great artists and I haven't been worried since they brought back plethoras of paintings in reception class. In no way does it make you non academic if you can't produce great art.

Natsku · 07/01/2025 03:34

TizerorFizz · 06/01/2025 21:54

@Catsnap We avoided the waste of time they seem to be. Parents should ask what the value of the homework is. A good homework policy should be clear what a child should gain. Posters seem like directed art at home.

When I hear what homework is like in primary schools these days (as opposed to my day, when the only homework we got was timestable practice, in year 6), with things like making posters, build a model tudor house or iron age village or various other models, I'm thinking maybe they don't have the time (with the ridiculous curriculum these days) or resources in the schools to do art properly or as much as they need to, so they're outsourcing it to home? Art and creative activities are important subjects so they need to be done, but they ought to be done in school, where they should have the resources necessary, but with budget cuts maybe not.

fallingupwards · 06/01/2025 23:36

Agree with OP. My strong willed youngest son has been ejected from the uk system at age 5. I'm just realising how bloody clever he is, we've had to follow a different path and much as I've fought everything while championing him I'm just coming around to realising that forced home ed is the best thing for him (why they label us as elective I've not idea). My oldest went through the independent system with no issues. My strong willed soul is never going to be a sheep and therefore the system is irrelevant to him, I can only admire that, I fully expect him to thrive. The uk education system? Not so much.

TizerorFizz · 06/01/2025 21:54

@Catsnap We avoided the waste of time they seem to be. Parents should ask what the value of the homework is. A good homework policy should be clear what a child should gain. Posters seem like directed art at home.