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To think the British educational system is all wrong?

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CookiePlough · 03/01/2025 01:27

It seems like the aim is to make adults out of children as soon as possible rather than allowing them enough time to just be kids.

My main issues are that 1. kids start school way too early and 2. spend way too much time in school.

What is the purpose of a 4 year old child learning to read and write and do addition and subtraction? How does this help the child either in the present or in the future when they are an adult? I can see that 4 year olds are clearly capable of learning these things and of course being able to read or do simple arithmetic is not a problem. The problem is what are they missing out on in order to learn these skills? In my opinion they are missing out on playing. Unstructured, self determined playing. You can learn academics at a later age but you can't really make up for not getting enough playtime as a child. However, this wouldn't be a problem if the school day wasn't so ridiculously long. There just isn't enough time to play after school. There is no time to go anywhere after school (eg the park), for playdates, for any play that takes longer than an hour, to do extra curricular activities (without missing out on Unstructured play time) or anything else. Everything has to be done on the weekend but then when do you have time to do things as a family?

I understand most kids have 2 parents working full time so kids need to be in some sort of childcare setting but even nursery is preferable at thst age to school as there is more unstructured play and more adult supervision. School requires much more in terms of social skills, resilience etc. Which kids,should learn but not by suddenly being dropped in it.

I'm just ranting because I'm tired and upset rather than explaining my points properly. And it's not like I can change the system. I just feel so sad that kids are missing out on being kids. It's not the worst childhood obviously but it's also not as good as it could be.

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unconditionalpurelove · 03/01/2025 09:11

Thetraitor · 03/01/2025 01:52

This as a Head Teacher of many years. This 100% our education system is all about compliance and a curriculum that is not fit for purpose.

😔

BreatheAndFocus · 03/01/2025 09:10

What is the purpose of a 4 year old child learning to read and write and do addition and subtraction? How does this help the child either in the present or in the future when they are an adult? I can see that 4 year olds are clearly capable of learning these things and of course being able to read or do simple arithmetic is not a problem. The problem is what are they missing out on in order to learn these skills? In my opinion they are missing out on playing. Unstructured, self determined playing

4 and 5 year olds spend lots of the school day playing! It’s not called ‘playing’ on the curriculum, but that’s exactly what it is: independent play, usually both indoors and outside. The children are given free choice of all the equipment, including bikes, scooters, pretend play items, colouring, jigsaws, games, sand, water play, balls, etc, and can play by themselves or in groups. It’s all free choice.

BlackChunkyBoots · 03/01/2025 09:04

Another thing, UK schools are too focused on "preparing for work". I never understood this. My daughter is not likely to he stuck behind a desk in her future career, she's goung to be in media centres, photography studios and out on the street. She wears jeans and and oversized shirt. Yet, school says, you need to be in business attire to meet employers. The guy from the newspaper who interviewed my daughter was wearing a check shirt & chinos! When are schools going to get with the fact that people in business do not wear business attire anymore, unless it's to meet Royalty or their Bank Manager?? Her friend wants to be a sports therapist. There she is, in her tracksuit, trainers, hair in a messy bun.... business attire?

Sharptonguedwoman · 03/01/2025 09:00

Frozensun · 03/01/2025 02:02

I understand Finland’s education results consistently outperform other countries’ systems. Finland don’t start formal education until the year they turn 7. I don’t have any detailed knowledge on the curriculum as such, but there would appear to be no disadvantage on starting later.

Finland is always the example used, I think because they gave their education system such a radical shake-up. There were many facets to that shake up that aren't always taken into account though.
Finnish children have very few tests until 16-18 and the society in pretty homogeneous (meaning nearly everyone has Finnish as their first language).

RatRatPig · 03/01/2025 08:59

I agree with a lot of what the OP says (which is why I'm sending my summer born child to reception at 5 instead of 4) but disagree that there's no time for play dates after school - it finishes at 3.30 which leaves loads of time (if they're not in wrap around care of course). Plenty of time for the park too, at least in summer.

BlackChunkyBoots · 03/01/2025 08:56

I have read books since the age if 4 which I found great! but maths could have waited until I was 7 or 8.

Observing my daughter's school career it occurs to me that a lot of the way they teach maths and English in school is more confusing and unnecessarily superfluous than when I was at school. I also think there's too much teaching-to-test. Daughter was always storing enough information for that day's test or exam. What a waste of time. Why not take a subject and really get into the bones of it? Make it fun for the kids to learn about? Er no, we have an exam next week. 😫 I didn't think she was learning anything, truly. And now she's doing her A levels she's forgotten everything she learnt at GCSE.

There's no learning for pleasure. Discovery. Research. It's all, there's an exam next week.

Barms155 · 03/01/2025 08:54

We live in Europe....not Finland. My son started school at aged 7 (now 8 ) and goes from 8-13.30. Here after school kids do all kinds of activities. I will say though from 8-13.30 he is sat at a desk and although there are breaks he doesn't get to play outside.
The eldest is now 13 and is doing full day so 8- 14.30...sometimes till 15.30 depending on the day.

Macaroni46 · 03/01/2025 08:52

Saltandvin · 03/01/2025 04:40

I actually think the EYFS in England is pretty good and that Reception year is lovely for many children. It's Y1 where it all starts to go wrong. Spreading Reception across two years and starting Y1 work at Y2 age would make such a difference. Why am I teaching the present perfect tense to Y3s age 7? I honestly don't know how anyone wrote and published a curriculum with that in if they'd ever met small children.

Spot on!

LadyKenya · 03/01/2025 08:52

Thetraitor · 03/01/2025 01:52

This as a Head Teacher of many years. This 100% our education system is all about compliance and a curriculum that is not fit for purpose.

I agree.

User37482 · 03/01/2025 08:51

I also think the later that school starts the more tit damages children from backgrounds where there isn’t much input from parents. DD would have been fine, she could read fluently before reception, she taught herself to add and already had an active life.

A child where the parents barely communicate with them, who can’t “play” with other children (sharing, negotiating etc) or follow instructions is going to benefit from being in a school environment.

TizerorFizz · 03/01/2025 08:50

The reason dc do start reading and doing basic maths at 4 or 5 is because it’s a life skill and some actually need to get on with it! Denying my DD1 the chance to read at 4 would not have met her needs. She liked books and was quick to pick it up. Others take longer and play for longer. As far as I can see, YR tries to do this.

Interesting that despite a different system, Wales has the worst educational outcomes in the uk.

Quinto · 03/01/2025 08:49

The worst things about UK education are the existence of private schools and the fact that you specialise far too early, meaning many British people are woefully deficient in general knowledge. I’ve lost track of the number of times I’ve seen someone get defensive about not ever having heard of a recent historical event and exclaiming’Well, we only did the Tudors and WWII!’

dragonfliesandbees · 03/01/2025 08:44

@CookiePlough What time do your kids finish school that there's no time to do anything afterwards? Mine are out 3pm and they finish at 12 on a Friday. We're at the park 2-3 times a week (weather permitting) and often have playdates. Kids also do cubs and beavers on a weekday. What stopped this was when I worked longer days and they went to after school club. The school day easily allows time to do things after school.

I absolutely agree that kids start school too young. This is more a problem in England than in Scotland (where I am) though. (Not sure how the system works in the rest of the UK.) Our intake is different so the youngest kids are 4.5 rather than just turned 4 and it's really easy - encouraged even - to defer the younger ones so they start at 5.5. P1 is extremely play based so not a huge jump from nursery really.

NewGreenDuck · 03/01/2025 08:43

It's a sausage making machine trying to turn us all into sausages. The trouble is that some people can't become a sausage and suffer. School can't deal with people who are different and batter them into submission. There should alternatives for people who have ASD etc so they can learn at their own pace and on a different way. But that would take money, effort and the desire to change.
My son suffered at school for those reasons. Not being able to afford fees, we were stuck. And his school was rated as outstanding!

CantDecideAUsename · 03/01/2025 08:39

User37482 · 03/01/2025 08:33

Exactly, there are children who are spectacularly able who with the right environment can really excel and find something they love to do. My DH (again 2nd gen working class immigrant) bloody LOVED maths, he was lucky he had some great teachers that continued to stretch and encourage him. He is very clever but his outcomes may have been different if someone was more worried about him having fun, doing maths IS fun for him. He actively enjoyed his science lessons (we watch documentaries on maths and space when it’s his turn to choose). He enjoyed learning new things. He also played cricket, football and rugby and was on school teams etc. It doesn’t have to be one or the other.

The dumbing down and stripping out of things considered too “high brow” hurts those of us from less advantaged backgrounds more than it does the established middle classes.

I think this is some of the issue. You have kids that need different things to learn. So many schools are run like businesses now, it’s all about getting as much as you can for as little as possible.
If you have 31 kids in a class, trying to teach them all exactly the same thing in the same way, no additional help and a rigid curriculum then it doesn’t equal a good education.

Bushmillsbabe · 03/01/2025 08:39

mitogoshigg · 03/01/2025 08:32

My dd was able to read, write and do multiplication and division starting school at 5. She hated the chaotic nature of the learning through lay environment and only really settled once the classroom was in rows (year 3). You do realise we are all different! I remember hating preschool because kids ran around and didn't sit still for the alphabet lessons.

The solution is a choice but I'd choose more academic not less

Absolutely, there should be more choice, but unfortunately usually have to pay for private to get that, which is now even harder.
Every child is different, smaller class sizes would help massively as could be more individualised.
My girls are lucky that their classes are about 20, with teacher and 2 TA's, so lots of small group really focused learning in groups of 5, with the 4th group doing some free play in the break out area, and then they rotate. Short bursts of really focused tailored activity as groups are broadly ability based from year 1 upwards, and as it's so efficient, they still get loads of time for forest school, art, music, cooking etc. Every child learns to ride a bike in year 1, to swim in year 2.

That in my mind is the answer, make learning more effective and efficient to allow time for more play and functional skill development.

juggleit · 03/01/2025 08:39

picturethispatsy · 03/01/2025 04:43

YANBU and I’m an ex primary teacher.

We rob children of the opportunity to learn at their own pace and to read and write on their own natural timeline. So unfair. Whilst some may be ready at that age I can assure you that many (most) are not. We also rob children of the work of childhood which is deep play.

We are one of the only countries in the world to start formal education at age 4. Take Denmark for example, they start formal school at age 7 despite having a sort of kindergarten prior to that. They don’t start any formal reading or writing until age 7.

Our governments will justify it though as they think it’s the only way to ‘compete’ in the international league tables 🙄

This!! Early years stuff is great its the later years where the kids are sat for long periods of time.

Didnt they change the curriculum about 10 years ago where the expecations at each year level was much higher?

The UK is quite low down on the international School tests (PISA) ranking, so clearly not doing that well. It seems that maths attainment has moved up the table so one positive at least.

mitogoshigg · 03/01/2025 08:34

And don't cite Finland as an example, our Finnish friends think their system is so slow and the kids are behind, in addition they stay in school later

User37482 · 03/01/2025 08:33

helplessparka · 03/01/2025 07:47

It's really not good. It's dumbing down.

And one of the problem is it's impacting capable children without a lot of family support (whether because their family actually aren't supportive or are but don't have the education themselves to support (or the money to buy in support)). I live in a wealthy area where a lot of parents have a very strong focus on education. The amount of tutoring is insane - it's just completely standard. And with enough time/money and family focus you absolutely can push a student from a 5 to an 8/9 at GCSE (or from a B/C to an A/A* at A-level) by teaching to the test. That's great for those kids (and I could never say a parent shouldn't - I will myself if I think needed!) but how does a university then distinguish, and how does a student without the support not get disheartened when they're not getting a string of 8s and 9s.

The worst one I've seen so far is someone looking for a tutor for their child to support with their university course!

Exactly, there are children who are spectacularly able who with the right environment can really excel and find something they love to do. My DH (again 2nd gen working class immigrant) bloody LOVED maths, he was lucky he had some great teachers that continued to stretch and encourage him. He is very clever but his outcomes may have been different if someone was more worried about him having fun, doing maths IS fun for him. He actively enjoyed his science lessons (we watch documentaries on maths and space when it’s his turn to choose). He enjoyed learning new things. He also played cricket, football and rugby and was on school teams etc. It doesn’t have to be one or the other.

The dumbing down and stripping out of things considered too “high brow” hurts those of us from less advantaged backgrounds more than it does the established middle classes.

mitogoshigg · 03/01/2025 08:32

My dd was able to read, write and do multiplication and division starting school at 5. She hated the chaotic nature of the learning through lay environment and only really settled once the classroom was in rows (year 3). You do realise we are all different! I remember hating preschool because kids ran around and didn't sit still for the alphabet lessons.

The solution is a choice but I'd choose more academic not less

YourQuickCat · 03/01/2025 08:29

Most of the EYFS from pre-school to year R is play-based, as we know most children learn through play. Personally pre-school has been great for my autistic toddler over and above nursery as he is more drawn to letter play, numbers and that is his version of play. He also likes riding bikes and playing with vehicular toys, so actually pre-school is the more ideal environment for him. What will work for some children won’t for others. It all goes tits up from around year 3 when it gets to tick-boxy and children are put under pressure to meet academic milestones, and there isn’t enough focus on holistic learning styles. Secondary school in this country is generally a shit show and still functions under the Victorian system of churning out worker bees. Some children thrive, but the problem is that those who need a different approach are left to fall through the cracks. There’s also obviously not enough good quality SEN provision or intervention services.

Bushmillsbabe · 03/01/2025 08:27

hazelnutvanillalatte · 03/01/2025 08:18

I completely agree that 4 is a ridiculous age to start formal education. A fellow reception parent confided in me she was worried about her child's writing and was making him write pages of lines every night on advice of the teacher...at FOUR. What's the point?? It reminds me of the past trend to potty train much too early, making it a difficult and drawn-out process, when we now wait until they're ready and it's much easier for everyone.

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That's ridiculous of the teacher to push that in reception. They should leave reception as confident readers, writing can come later.
Ours focus on letter formation, and are encouraged to write only a few lines in year 1 - quality over quantity both for reading and writing.

There is a thread on here on the number of children starting school not potty trained because parents are starting too late!

CandlesClementines · 03/01/2025 08:26

I think over all children are institutionalised with little room anywhere in their lives to simply Potter around and think and do what they want.
To be able to think and let their minds wander is crucial but with very early nursery and busy busy lives and now tech there is little room for that.

Fern95 · 03/01/2025 08:26

I can't believe there are all these level headed sensible comments understanding why our education system is antiqued and outdated yet there's a vile thread about making home education illegal which is full of silly comments on the same forum. Madness.

User37482 · 03/01/2025 08:25

Areolaborealis · 03/01/2025 07:43

They probably don't have time because most university students have to work to support themselves during their studies. This was less of an issue in the past when COL was lower and students were mostly from affluent families who could support them.

No these were elite universities, the view seems to be it’s the increasing use of tech and drop in attention span and poor reading skills overall.