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To tempt a carnivore with tofu?

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Tofunoo · 02/01/2025 22:47

My DP is a committed carnivore but I’d like to eat more vegan/veggie food without us having to make 2 dinners when I do that. Is there any chance I can tempt him over with something deliciously tofu? I have found 2 nice recipes for tofu chilli and bolognaise but he wasn’t keen. Lots of the tofu recipes I’ve found either are deep fried or full of sugar, so not super healthy. Any ideas?!

YABU-DP will never eat vegan

YANBU- there’s hope

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MostHighlyFlavoredGravy · 03/01/2025 06:42

Tofunoo · 02/01/2025 23:14

He just loves meat and doesn’t like to eat things he doesn’t like I guess. So it’s got to be really yummy to get him to eat it. I guess lots of cheese would work but I was hoping to do some vegan food.

Try this chilli recipe - it's delicious!

https://www.wearesovegan.com/ultimate-vegan-chilli/

Yes it has both marmite and chocolate in but don't let that put you off, they are the magic ingredients. It's honestly one of the nicest chillies I've ever had

Ultimate Vegan Chilli - SO VEGAN

Our two not-so secret ingredients, Marmite and dark chocolate, give the chilli a lovely saltiness and richness, which blends really well with the sweetness from the tomatoes and peppers.

https://www.wearesovegan.com/ultimate-vegan-chilli

LegoLandslide · 03/01/2025 06:31

For pps recommending the tofu puffs, how do you use them?

https://ottolenghi.co.uk/pages/recipes/black-pepper-tofu
This is the recipe that converted my househod to tofu.

We love it floured, fried and crispy, or in the chilli tofu linked up thread (although that particular dish is even better with paneer).

I also like it in Chinese tofu and sweetcorn soup.

As others have said, it's not a meat substitute, it is its own thing. We can't get on at all with seitan though.

Black pepper tofu | Ottolenghi Recipes

This is an extremely delicious and fiery dish that is quick and straightforward to make. Browse online for more.

https://ottolenghi.co.uk/pages/recipes/black-pepper-tofu

Nothanks17 · 03/01/2025 06:02

We thought tofu was rank... until we learned how to cook with it. And it is so versatile!!!

We tried to go it alone every so often for a couple of years. Then we got a bosh recipe book, and the butter tofu curry opened our eyes to the possibility. I would suggest using recipes prepared by vegans on instagram, books and websites to get the best out of it. And we found that if we buy the brand tofoo for firm we much prefer it. Everyone has preferences but we bought like cauldron and some supermarket own brands and did not like.

Our next stop is to branch out after eating vegan at home for a year, to buy tofu from asian supermarkets. We shamelessly have not tried tempeh yet.

Beef burgers, I am sure it is beyond fresh burgers that my other half said are the best, it was one that made me feel sick and not believe it was pretend anyway

bluetongue · 03/01/2025 06:01

Tofu and fake meat is very hit and miss. I’m trying to drastically cut down my meat intake and have tried a few variations, Most if the time I eat pescatarian as a compromise.

I do love mushrooms so will eat a good mushroom burger as my beef burger substitute (where they use the big, flavourful mushroom
instead of a patty). Have tried impossible and other similar products and they have an unpleasant and bitter taste to me.

Also veggie pizza and pasta options are great. I know it’s not vegan but once again it’s my compromise.

Cappuccinowithonesugarplease · 03/01/2025 05:59

There is nothing delicious about tofu.

Gemstonebeach · 03/01/2025 05:57

Anna jones a modern way to eat is a great vegetarian cookbook

RampantIvy · 03/01/2025 05:52

Crispy tofu from Asian supermarkets is delicious.

I didn't used to like tofu until I had some that was properly cooked in a delicious sauce.

On its own there is nothing to recommend it but cooked properly with lots of flavourings it is delicious and had lots of texture.

CharlotteCChapel · 03/01/2025 05:49

tillyandmilly · 02/01/2025 22:53

Smoked tofu is delicious! I have it in salads-

It's like eating a rubber.

RampantIvy · 03/01/2025 05:44

Whydoeseveryonewanttoargue · 03/01/2025 00:07

Sorry but “deliciously vegan” is like an oxymoron to me. Good luck!

Sorry, but narrow mindedness about veganism is like a red rag to a bull to me.

It's usually people who lack imagination or who can't think outside of the meat and two veg box or who only like a bland diet who come up with fatuous and ignorant comments like this.

And I say this as an omnivore.

LozzaChops101 · 03/01/2025 03:19

I made a really nice take on bulgogi with grated firm tofu - you can do all sorts with grated tofu though. I like it for texture.

Ottolenghi’s black pepper tofu (with a fraction of the black pepper he says to use!) is always delicious.

Have you used tofu skins before?

There are so many recipes online, I like LittleRiceNoodle and TheFoodieTakesFlight on instagram for ideas!

SavingTheBestTillLast · 03/01/2025 03:06

wandawaves · 03/01/2025 01:28

There is nothing tempting about tofu.
I would give up on that idea. I've also seen people mentioning lentils, but I hate lentils too, it's the texture, so it doesn't matter what they taste like, I'll still hate them (same as tofu really). So if he's the same, I just wouldn't bother continuing to try.

Mushrooms are a great idea if he likes those. I would happily eat a mushroom meal. But to be honest I'd probably still be hungry afterwards.

Just a tip for lentils if you want to give them another go.
Boil with sweat potato and some stock. Blend and use as a sauce for a stew, curry or pasta.
My kids aren’t great on the texture but this makes a great sauce with all the added health benefits
you can switch the sweat potato for tinned tomatoes, carrots, whatever veg you like

SavingTheBestTillLast · 03/01/2025 03:01

When dh and I moved in together he said we wouldn’t have meat in the house as I’m veggie
Nice….I know……

Tofu, however, isn’t the way to go with a carnivore imo
Bite the bullet and buy something that’s more chewy and more like meat like
quorn
or make some seitan

Ps we’re still a no meat house after nearly 30 years

hiddeninplainsite · 03/01/2025 01:58

The problem is clear from your first post.

You're not just trying to get him to eat tofu - you're trying to get him to eat something healthy.

Vegetarian food is like carnivore food is that the junk version tastes much nicer.

I would be tempting him with fried tofu before trying to move him onto the healthier stuff.

wandawaves · 03/01/2025 01:28

There is nothing tempting about tofu.
I would give up on that idea. I've also seen people mentioning lentils, but I hate lentils too, it's the texture, so it doesn't matter what they taste like, I'll still hate them (same as tofu really). So if he's the same, I just wouldn't bother continuing to try.

Mushrooms are a great idea if he likes those. I would happily eat a mushroom meal. But to be honest I'd probably still be hungry afterwards.

JHound · 03/01/2025 01:18

Just make a tofu meal. If he does not like it he can make himself something else.

avignon1234 · 03/01/2025 01:17

I'll eat almost anything. But tofu is a big ask. Could not believe how something so apparently good for you lies so heavily on the stomach either. OH was vegan and even he didn't like it. Loads of other good vegan stuff out there.

Pollymollydolly · 03/01/2025 01:16

Tofunoo · 02/01/2025 22:47

My DP is a committed carnivore but I’d like to eat more vegan/veggie food without us having to make 2 dinners when I do that. Is there any chance I can tempt him over with something deliciously tofu? I have found 2 nice recipes for tofu chilli and bolognaise but he wasn’t keen. Lots of the tofu recipes I’ve found either are deep fried or full of sugar, so not super healthy. Any ideas?!

YABU-DP will never eat vegan

YANBU- there’s hope

I don’t get the tofu hate, we’re not veggie but try to have a couple of veggie dinners every week for health reasons. We quite like tofu in our house! It doesn’t taste of anything really, it takes on flavours so we always marinate it then use in curry’s or stir fry mainly. We also prefer it cut into smaller pieces.

minerva7 · 03/01/2025 01:07

I stir fry well dried tofu with garlic, cumin, coriander, chilli and soy sauce.
Stir fried with veg till al dente it is one of my fav meals.
I love my red meat.

IdylicDay · 03/01/2025 01:03

Why would you want to 'tempt' anyone with that foul-tasting toxin? I'd rather eat dirt.

PiggyPigalle · 03/01/2025 00:34

Home made tofu is nothing like those rubbery blocks sold in supermarkets.
No need for all that coating in cornflour to make it crispy either. It crisps naturally.
I make three blocks a week which is a chore,
The only time I buy it is to make fake halloumi with coriander dressing because bought stuff has the right texture for it.

WingsofRain · 03/01/2025 00:31

Tofunoo · 02/01/2025 22:52

He does like mushrooms but I have to have quite a bit of protein (been advised by Dr) so have to pad it out

If he eats mushrooms he isn’t a carnivore, he is an omnivore.

YorkshireRose80 · 03/01/2025 00:27

This is my fave tofu dish. My Omni DP and friends love it.

Top tip. Make up way more marinade than the video shows.

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/c7qsN5q9reCYxUXq/

poemsandwine · 03/01/2025 00:26

Beezknees · 02/01/2025 22:49

YABU with tofu, it's gross.

Personally as a meat eater I don't like the fake meat substitutes, the texture always seems off. I'm happy to eat veggie meals but just make them veggie, don't put fake meat in it.

Agree with all of this.

cherish123 · 03/01/2025 00:22

magicalmrmistoffelees · 02/01/2025 22:48

Tofu is rank. Why not try and tempt him with one of the many other delicious vegan foods available?

Tofu is horrid.

Tiswa · 03/01/2025 00:20

I agree tofu is good in tofu recipes but isn’t a substitute (at least firm isn’t). It also needs handling correctly in terms of seasoning/marinating and cooking. I do a very good tofu noodles.

Soup (and I know the argument with this being a meal) is very easy to make vegan with coconut or oat cream if it needs cream without any loss of flavour - it is also very healthy!

pasta is also a good one - lots of very good roasted veg blended up either with silken tofu or cashew nuts. Needs seasoning and herbs as well. I just then add bacon or pre cooked chicken to DHs

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