Not wanting dogs at my garden party?

What? I'm very pro dog but the situation described is rude.

Also I don't think just because the dogs were present at previous events in means they are invited to yours . FFS it's a pet, not a baby.

I have a dog, I would never turn up without asking and I would never leave poo on someone else's lawn for any amount of time. It needs picking u straight away to avoid it being trodden into the house. They were rude OP.

You seem to have managed to combine anti dog and pro firework all in one post. This will have a lot of mumsneters slathering in delight as they get ready to crucify.
I could say well done. But Im not sure it is really.

Unbelievably rude.

Eating food while the dogs take a shit in the garden and its left there? Till the end?
Telling someone to bring their dog into YOUR home?

Absolutely uncouth.

God, how disgusting. If a toddler had a poo/vomited on the lawn, in the Aussie summer heat, would they just leave that to the end as well? They are complete skanks!

I’d be fuming if someone brought a dog to my house without asking, and wouldn’t let them inside, that smell lingers for days.

YANBU. I also don't think that you should have to clarify this beforehand. Where does it end? No cats? No mice? No ferrets? No motorbikes? No smack? It's obviously on the person who wants to do the anti-social thing to clarify that it's ok. Not sure why dog owners think that we all love them.

I like dogs, and our family had them in the past, but I just don't get this expectation of dog owners that their 'fur babies' are welcome everywhere. We have friends with well behaved dogs we know and like and we'd certainly ask them to a garden party, but no more than one at a time. Four would be a nightmare! I don't want dogs in my house and if people have to leave early because of dogs at home, then that's their choice. And I'd expect owners to pick up the shit immediately.

Rude of them

They absolutely should have asked! I have a dog and would never assume they were invited to someone else's house. There are people I wouldn't even ask (kid a bit scared of dogs, and they have cats). But other people I would ask and r3spect their wishes and adjust my attendance accordingly (ie a shorter visit if not ok). My guess would be they didn't ask in case you said no!

Also, absolutely not OK to 'do a sweep at the end' if the gathering is in the garden!! FFS - pick up the shit before anyone steps in it! If you were inside and just letting the dogs out to the toilet, maybe OK. But even then, I would want to pick my dogs poops up at the time.

Generally, I think dog owners should ask, but because you were hosting an event that has always been dog friendly in the past, the onus was more on you to be clear about not being up for hosting dogs.

Surely it's up to the people with dogs to ask if they can bring them. I would never think that anyone turn up to a party with a dog.

I don't think you are being in at all. Dogs are not children and a garden party with fireworks is hardly the right place for a dog anyway. And I would be very annoyed if dogs were using my garden as a toilet. Leaving it until the end of the day to clean up the dogs mess is also unreasonable and unhygienic with children playing in the garden and possibly stepping in it

These are the same entitled dog owners that complain about fireworks.

I would never assume that it was ok for me to take my mutt to someone's home or garden. But then i was brought to have manners. Some people are just rude, obnoxious and entitled others have serious issues and think their mutt is actually their baby.

I’d allow well behaved dogs in my garden but have said absolutely no to dogs in the house. Ugh. Greasy dog hair, faeces, drool and God knows what else on soft furnishings - no thanks. They were CFs but too late now. At least you know to state categorically that there are absolutely no dogs to be brought along next time.

Another one that needs 'warning' about Fireworks in NYE??

presumably they had them other years and the dog just goes inside.

On New Years Eve you need to be warned about Fireworks? really?

@TheDaringPeachHiker If the dogs had always been there no previous years, then it was 59/50 really. They should have asked & you should have made it clear they weren't invited. However, on a night known go red Fireworks if the dogs weren't invited I'd expect them to make other NY plans.

re the poop, you should have said, no pl ease clean up straight away and fo a sweep at. The end, there is the hose pipe/ bucket to f ff lite the wee do it is less likely to leave patches on the lawn.

you embarassed your guest into hoovering up & offering money for cleaning because of a few dogs hairs?! I expect this will be the last time hosting any of them will be an issue.

I think you just need to say in advance. I wouldn't have come if there were going to be fireworks that night as I wouldn't have left my dog alone, but that is fair enough. I also would have cleaned up immediately and not taken him into the house. That was rude.

In our circle garden party means dogs invited but I still double check.

You shouldn't have to have dogs in your garden or house if you don't want them there. I can't believe anyone agreed to leave the dog shit grenades lying around a lawn until the end of the party. Who wants to pick their way around those while tucking into their hotdog? My SIL's dog charges into our house like a fecking missile as soon as I open the door, even though I have a child with severe contamination OCD. It jumps all over the furniture and has done lovely brown liquid squirts on our rug and kitchen mat. No attempt on the part of SIL to keep it under control and certainly no chance of her not bringing it. She doesn't visit anymore and I can live with that.

Given the same group of people have brought dogs to the previous gatherings I can see why they assumed it would be ok. I think you should have said you didn't want them to bring their dogs when you invited them.

Leaving the poo collection until the end is grim though, especially with kids around. It should have been picked up straight away and then a quick check at the end in case any had been missed. I also wouldn't take a dog into someone else's house without asking and certainly wouldn't allow it on the sofa.

Um no. It shouldn't be automatically assumed by a dog owner that their animal is permitted to go to another persons home.

OP your friends were rude and disrespectful and should have asked permission. I wouldn't have allowed the dogs to stay and wouldn't have cared if the humans left with them.

Absolute CFs both for assuming they could bring them and also taking them into your house. I would have asked them to take the dogs home when they arrived and if that meant they didn’t come back then that’s fine. But under no circumstances would I allow a dog in my garden or home.

I agree. The current fashion to treat dogs like this is bizzare to me.