Mum is blocking my 2yo’s invites to play dates

Definitely don’t say anything , it’s hurtful and a bit mean but honestly get used to it. I honestly would always keep school mums at arms length - it’s nice to try and get along and go for the odd social thing but they aren’t your core friends and at 2 years old their not your DC friends either. By staying out of it it proves you aren’t fussed and you are the bigger person . It would be stressful being friends with people like that anyway .
My youngest didn’t get invited to a party once when every single other boy in the class and his friendship group was, and it made me so anxious and hurt . I honestly couldn’t believe the mum would do that and I was gutted on my son’s behalf . But then I released if she is like that then we don’t want her friendships anyway . She does like to control things / only include certain people of WhatsApp groups etc and it’s stressful to keep up with ! Cut them out but always be polite . They’ll all fall out probably one day anyway . Mum friends are an extension of high school friends - there are lovely ones, bitchy mean girls and ones that get left out . The best way to navigate is stay cool and don’t get drawn in to the drama.

Find new friends!
These three sound like a nightmare.
Your little one is only two so he will be able to move on and make new friends easily. Invite another couple of his friends round for playdates maybe.
It is horrible though especially when it affects your child. I couldn't be doing with all of that bitchiness tbh.
I hope all goes well and you can both make new friends. These ones aren't worth it.

I have seen this happen time and time again.

Usually the clique causes fall outs, or others feel left out, you’ll find there are plenty of lovely mums not interested in the popular gang and are made up of lovely people who just want a normal play date and a coffee.

You don’t need to be overly involved.

You just need some nice company to have tea with occasionally.

Maybe mum C now know how it feels and needs to be on your side?

First of all your son is 2, he doesn't care who he plays with. Second of all, you need to grow another skin I'm afraid, this shit goes on all the time. I used to be you and get all upset about it until one day I just thought 'fuck it all to hell'. I organised stuff with people I wanted to see and the kids enjoyed each others company - you don't have to worry about 'friends' until they are older, as toddlers they will make do with other similar aged company of any description. Decide on some other people you can make an effort with and make them your people - I'm still friends with some of my reception Mum's now and we are the most unlikely bunch and our kids aren't even friends now (mixed genders and all at different secondary schools) but we still are. I left the mean girls to it and I was better for it and ironically, the minute I stopped 'needing' to be included, they almost wanted me to be. That's how they work. Take control yourself.

Unfortunately some of the people one meets through baby groups and school can prove problematic or unfriendly. My advice would be to stay aloof from both A and B and let them get on with it. Maybe they are made for each other. Your son will make other friends and while it's horrible at the time, you will not care about it in five years' time. I would also say that people who are clearly happy to bitch that way are not worth associating with.

I would ignore it for now and play a waiting game. Very likely Mum's A & B will fall out soon as Mum A is clearly not a very nice person. Doubt your 2 year old will even realise anything is amiss.

Just create another what's app group with people you get on with.

Realistically OP, if your 2 year old is already in a private nursery/all through school, you'd better get used to the fact that you're going to stumble across more than a handful of parents over the next 16 years who are VERY judgy about who is the 'right' kind of person. Who earns 'enough' money. Which families are from 'suitable' backgrounds. Who is worth connecting more with because they have 'useful' contacts. Whether the family wears the 'right' clothes. Or has appropriate decor at home. Or holidays in the in places.

You have clearly not passed muster with Mum A & the sooner you stop giving a shiny shit about that & get on with living your life & instilling some good morality to DS about being a decent human being, come what may, the happier you & all of your little family will be!

You're not going to be able to avoid them when they pop up, but you can be in control of whether you let them in your head...

As another poster said, Motherland was very keenly observed and painfully funny for a reason!

(and for what it's worth, I'd be prepared to wager I could put 3 pins in a map of the UK - if you're living here? - and be within 1.5 miles of where you live with one of them ;) Thicken up that skin & prepare to laugh off the Mum A's of this world for the next 16 years...

Thats great advice ❤️

when kids are in nursery / school they play with who they want regardless of whether their parents are friends or not

They’re only 2!

If it's just for your child to socialise with A,B and C's children- just invite the children to a playdate - either all together or in pairs- and not the parent.

C isn't instigating drama she is sticking up for you! Stick with her and bin off the others.

The best way to eliminate playground politics is not to play along with it. 🙌

This has been my motto since I myself was in school 😅

It all seems a bit petty, to me anyway.

You offered B a token gesture of help during surgery they never took you up on. If that's the extent of your "investment" in the relationship then just write it off.

Stick with C but be on your guard for any backstabbing.

Enjoy your little one and don't worry about anyone else.

Some people don't get along.

I'm not everyone's cup of tea and they aren't mine.

It doesn't mean there is something wrong with me, or with them. We're just not meant to be friends.

If it is fact the entire school being invited on a separate chat Mum C can add you to that. No need for A or B to approve you.

Mum C should not have shown you private texts. It's unnecessary and cruel.

She could have just made plans with you and moved on.

These threads always bring out so much misogyny. Calling grown women silly little girls or bitches.

Women are allowed to have their own friends. You can call them a clique, but it's interesting how a group of men who are friends are never referred to the same way.

Yes exactly. We are free to choose who we spend time with.

My boys are autistic
Despite throwing whole class parties every year ,that were well attended
Mine never once got an invite back.
As for being included,or invited to anything,ha not a chance.
In fact , despite me trying to be friendly in the playground,you would think I was invisible.
My crime ..to have children with disabilities

HRTFT...

I'd imagine B will come crawling back when A has moved on.

I tolerated a mum A all through primary school for dc1. In fact I was a good friend at one point.

Biggest mistake.

Mum A caused nothing but drama from nursery onwards. The drama impacted the children as they got older.

You are genuinely well rid of her. Don’t make the same mistake I did.

My mum A is blocked on every social media platform and from my phone now. I advise you to do the same and find people like yourself who aren’t looking for drama.

editing to add - there is a mum A in dc2’s year and I was initially jealous at not being in her group. Madness. I now purposefully exclude myself and don’t engage when she invites my child to her home. I don’t need the drama.

So many of these responses are so ridiculous.

'Mean' 'nasty' 'bitches'

Based on what?

Not wanting to pursue a friendship with op?!

She hasn't been 'excluded' or 'blocked' from anything. Simply not invited. Surely adults are allowed to choose who they spend time with?

Your son won't even remember then when he's older. They are not important people in your life . Silly little mean girls . I know it's feels shit just now and it is shit but move on dont interact and smile when you see them
As if nothing has happened

Why do you think she's jealous? She might just not enjoy spending time with OP

That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with either of them but I know I get on well with some mum friends and don't have much to talk about with others

@SerialLurker997 I would have to ask B if there was a problem as she hasn’t been replying (without getting into a row of course) as she shouldn’t get away with the manipulation. But mostly I think I’d rise above it and try to be more inclusive than she has been.

Do not confront them about leaving you and your child out. Act as if you aren't bothered and don't let them get through to you.

It is horrible and nasty behaviour and they all need to grow up. Hope you are ok and don't worry!