To sleep with a 25 year old

What precisely is creepy and gross about two fully-grown adults being attracted to each other and pursuing it on a physical level?

Come on-explain it. You keep saying "creepy" and "gross" without explaining why it is creepy and gross for two legally consenting fully-grown adults to have sex with each other.

Wrong. I think it's creepy and gross and I'm younger than her. You only have to go around the pubs in any town on the weekends to see how the mid 20's men generally behave. Sex is extremely easy to get so the boring jealous card doesn't work with that one.

Not morally wrong at all . I'd go for it but also keep an open mind that it probably will be a just a physical thing

Oh, get over yourself.

Morally repugnant? Get a fucking grip.

OP, I suspect a lot of these replies of "desperate," "grim," "creepy," "gross" and now-"morally repugnant," are coming from women who, at your age, had zero chance of attracting a man in his mid-20s.

There's nothing wrong with saying that you, yourself, wouldn't feel comfortable doing it-but it's a huge leap to say that it's creepy or, indeed, morally repugnant.

Who is she harming here? A full-grown adult who has probably had his fair share of flings before?

So long as both of them are aware of what it is and what they want-it's fine. It's not likely to turn into anything serious, so what is the problem? Do you all think people in their mid-20s are children now?

What on earth is so gross about it?

Some of you are acting like he's a child. He's 25, for goodness sake. Do you all infantilise all people in their mid-20s?

if they're both happy to go for it and can agree on what it is they're looking for out of it and are realistic-what is the problem?

Not creepy and icky at all. As I have posted earlier, I had a relationship with a 43 year old woman when I was 25. We were open and honest about what we wanted, and no I did not go bragging to any friends or entered into any banter. We got together after spending some time in each other's company and there was and always has been, mutual respect and trust. It was a lovely, gentle, fulfilling time and there was no shallowness or negativity around it, or any regret by either of us. We simply gained.

Oh go for it!! Enjoy yourself. Life is too short. Yes, there are lots of young men that like an older woman and lots of older women that like younger man. Man being the operative word because he’s an adult. I love being attractive to younger men whether they have a milf fantasy or an older woman fantasy, I couldn’t care less. I have a great time. People who judge you, that’s a them problem

Not only burned at the stake, you’d also be barred from the flowershow committee. I for one think that’s something to keep in mind!

Why is it creepy?

They're legally consenting adults. If he was 18, I would agree, but he's 25, perfectly capable of making his own mind up.

I think it is different.

Firstly there is a long history of men using and abusing women for their own sexual needs, including child abuse. There is also still huge risks to women from men.

Men are at far less risk of sexual abuse and exploitation than women. Women are less able to physically overpower and intimidate men.

Also, if it were a 25 year old woman who was actively but respectfully pursuing and older man for their own sexual satisfaction and the man in question was in no way vulnerable then there is nothing wrong with that.

However, men are far more likely to be sexually coercive and rape and sexual assault by male perpetrators is still extremely common. There is a power differential. Women have less power. Therefore the man in this scenario is not in anyway at risk.

I've not read the whole thread just OPs comments but having slept with some older men in the last 10 years, my first thought was ooh yes, I bet he'd stay hard.

Apologies to older men who manage to do so for the duration
No apologies for being utterly filthy.

All the best to you

If this was a guy posting, people would be giving him a much harder time here.

It's equally as creepy and gross if it was the other way round. And absolutely nobody is jealous, sex is easy to get.

Not a problem at all. I did in my early 40s.

20 something young men have a thing about women in their 40s from what I've heard.

Fucking hell, calm down Jane Austen.

Rubbish.

I think you're over egging the oh no one cares if it were a man position. I've seen plenty of threads on here where posters very much care and don't approve.

Op, you're both adults and it's your, and his, private business. Why not, if it feels right? Age is irrelevant as long as you are both adults. I think it sounds good!

No, the man wouldn't ask. But many women would have an opinion and label him a pervert.