To sleep with a 25 year old

Others get a kick out of doing what is deemed taboo, or socially 'unacceptable' eh.

It's less usual, but not objectively unacceptable imo.

If you can deal with the aftermath (including emotions), then consider going with it if you both want. If the gender age gap was reversed, no-one would be questioning it?

I'm explaining why I believe some people get the ick. For some it seems taboo, it's outside what is acceptable.

Has OP said she is a mother?

No but by extension they are all his contemporaries. And therefore not a person I would consider as a sexual partner. It applies to all young men.

My DS is dating a woman with that much age difference!
It's not up to me to approve or disapprove.
You do what you want but I would think twice just because you both live in the same village and not a town/city.

But you are not comparing like with like. From what the OP has told us, she did not know this man when he was a little kid.

I have adult children including a son about this age. I think, often, once you see your son and his friends, the idea of seeing them as sexual partners just gives you the ick. I look at them and remember them as little kids and it doesn't seem right.

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I've got a 25 year old son, and whilst I like to think I'm open minded and respect the decisions of consenting adults whatever their age might be.....this thread has given me major ick.

So I'm obviously not that open minded.

She obviously can’t explain it, can she? Just keeps repeating that it’s creepy and gross but has no idea why. It’s boring.

I don't think the age gap is a problem, it's the proximity. You've bumped into him in all these places. If it gets weird or goes wrong in some way, or it turns out he is a massive weirdo you're a bit f*cked.

I was responding to someone saying ‘so women can do whatever they want’

I will answer this in the same way. Men can do whatever they want too, as long as it’s legal. Although this certainly isn’t a novel concept

I had this conversation with one of my friends years ago. My advice was to go for it and enjoy it as long as it lasted because a fling can be great fun. It didn’t work out the way it was supposed to and they celebrate their 15th wedding anniversary next month. They’re absolutely blissful.

Go for it OP, you know the score, enjoy yourself!

@Tink3rbell30 You seem to view the world only in absolutes. Maybe he won't be laughing and disrespectful. Maybe OP isn't creepy and is measured and careful in her thinking. Maybe, just maybe, there are people on this vast planet who think and behave differently to you.

Yes, not sure why she'd want to risk making herself a laughing stock when it's unnecessary but it's up to her. Obviously any man can do it but more likely with the younger ones.

@Tink3rbell30 it’s up to OP to decide if she wants to risk being mentioned in this hypothetical group chat, to be honest.

And if the Pelicot and Telegram cases are anything to go by, no man of any age is above abhorrent behaviour. She could be hooking up with the 50 year old and next thing she knows she’s filmed without consent for example. It’s not an age thing when it comes to men.

You are in the minority though, aren't you, according to the poll.

You are also imagining that she will be ridiculed and "obviously the age difference" isn't an actual reason, just repetition of a stupid stereotype.

Again I've explained a couple of times now, maybe read the thread again if you're overly invested in people's reasonings as lots think the same as me so maybe quote them all to clarify their reasons also. I've just said why I think it's creepy and odd.. obviously the age difference 🤦‍♀️ he will definitely be laughing about her with his friends. There's nothing to laugh about the other way round as it's just weird. Plenty of men in her age bracket available, no need to creep around young men, especially the age that could be her children. But if she wants to then no amount of strangers saying it's weird on here will stop her.

Some of the comments here are fucking mental. Pure mumsnet. How is the OP a skank? He's pursued her? Jeez. Uptight pearl clutching strange little place sometimes. Go for it OP, my OH is 10 years younger than me (not quite the same obv but no one has ever batted an eyelid), we've been together 8 years and have 2 children :)

A man wouldn’t post about something like this. He would just do it.

Exactly! He might be able to boast to his friends; hopefully he is not like that. But equally, she could tell her friend that he was rubbish in bed.

Or, they might spend their early new years grinning like a Cheshire cat!

I specifically asked you to define why you think it is creepy and gross.

Come along. Explain.

How do you know he will make her their latest joke? She could equally make him her joke in her group chat, couldn't she? After all, he could be her exploit as much as she is his.

So, again, since you seem incapable of answering-why is it creepy and gross for two consenting, fully grown, legal adults to pursue a physical relationship with each other?

There's 15 pages with various reasons why people think it's creepy. Plenty of men avaliable that aren't young ones in a completely different age bracket who will probably make her their latest joke in the group chat. Equally creepy for a man in their 40s to want to shag a young woman too.