To sleep with a 25 year old

Correction: It's how some immature men in their 20s talk about some women in their 40s.
You're assuming OP looks 'old' and that this guy is 'immature'. I'm assuming neither is the case.
He doesn't care what people will think and neither should OP.

If he lived on the other side of a town I'd say fair enough. But 6 doors down in a village.
Nope. You'll end up getting a name for yourself.

Why all the fuss, two consenting adults, life is not a dress rehearsal.

@Honestlyhonay·
YANBU: definitely sex him
YABU: girly night**
Don't be daft. Girly night is a perfectly ok if you want to call it that. No need to police anyone's expressions
Fucking hell it was only a joke chill out - maybe consider sexing a 25 year old?

It's hard to tell what is a joke on here unless someo e puts a laughing emoji on. People get pulled for using their regular vocab all the time especially for the term ' girly night'
It didnt come across as a joke.

Yeah OP, know your place 🙄🙄

If your not bothered about bumping into each other after say a one night stand then go for it.

Enjoy being another part of the patriarchy Sounds like your a key member, good job

The patriarchy has also played a part in convincing women who don't want to put out that they are uptight and frigid.

I'm pleased to now be old enough to be past caring about what men think of me, whether they think I'm fuckable or not. It's positively liberating. Wish I could have been like that in my 20s and 30s.

However I can't help but feel it is morally wrong?

If you feel it's morally wrong, don't do it.

If you feel that it's fine but you're worried about whether other people think it's morally wrong, why bother asking then getting defensive about how it's, in fact, not morally wrong at all?
People are only sharing opinions - which you asked for.

What was the point in posting?

OP said it was morally wrong 😅

I said This is what it would be for me. Although perfectly legal because your both proper adults, it would still feel really wrong to me, sleeping with someone so much younger.
I'm not saying it is wrong, your both adults and can do whatever makes you both happy. Just for me personally, the age gap is too large and it wouldnt sit right with me

Which perfectly explains how I feel 😅

What is immoral about it?

But I wouldn’t like to be the laughing stock of the village I had just moved to

Bit extreme 🤣 is there going to be a town meeting where everyone judges the OP's sexual activities 🤣🤣

People dont really care what other people get up to, its brief gossip and then its onto somthing new to talk about

However I can't help but feel it is morally wrong

This is what it would be for me. Although perfectly legal because your both proper adults, it would still feel really wrong to me, sleeping with someone so much younger.

I'm not saying it is wrong, your both adults and can do whatever makes you both happy. Just for me personally, the age gap is too large and it wouldnt sit right with me

Fucking hell it was only a joke chill out - maybe consider sexing a 25 year old?

Some of these comments are wild!

laughing stock of the village
Shag a granny
Talking about men telling their mates as if women don't do this

Yes. I’m serious. That’s how many 25 year old men talk about women in their 40s.

If she doesn’t mind that, good for her.

But I wouldn’t like to be the laughing stock of the village I had just moved to.

OP, I suspect a lot of these replies of "desperate," "grim," "creepy," "gross" and now-"morally repugnant," are coming from women who, at your age, had zero chance of attracting a man in his mid-20s.

Oh come on, you can't be serious. I'm 5 years younger than OP and not single, but when I was it wasn't exactly uncommon for much younger men to try it on.

He's 25 ffs, most men that age will shag anything that breathes, it's not exactly what I would call flattering! Young guys aren't known for their high standards when it comes to sex. Just look at how they queued up around the block to be 1 of 100 shagging Lily Philips! They'll do anything for the 'experience' and he's probably sensed that OP might be up for it.

On the other hand, maybe this guy is genuinely really interested in the OP. After all, he asked her out to dinner, not for a quick shag round the back of the kebab shop, so he's clearly prepared to put in some effort. The point is, it hasn't actually been established whether he's looking for a romantic relationship or not. All kinds of assumptions have been made about him and his motives, but nobody actually knows. Maybe it's not just a shag to him. Would OP be prepared for that?

It's not about sexism either, it's equally grim when middle aged men decide to shag young adults. If the younger partner is over 30, the age gap isn't quite so bad (although not advisable imo), but 25 is still very young.

OP, I suspect a lot of these replies of "desperate," "grim," "creepy," "gross" and now-"morally repugnant," are coming from women who, at your age, had zero chance of attracting a man in his mid-20s.

100% this! 👏👏

I guess you have to be prepared for people judging. I always thought I was quite laid back, but when a friend of mine had a fling with a girl half her age I couldn’t quite feel the same about her after that. The young girl was an adult, grown up etc, but I couldn’t help but think of the power imbalance and the vulnerability of her.
actually, come to think of it, when I was 25 I had a fling with a man of 45, I look back now and think what a bloody creep he was

My (childfree) friend had a similar gap with a BF a while back - started as a bit of fun then he moved in. It was never serious - and she never expected anything from it. They had a ball for a while but after 6 or 9 months or so he cheated on her with a girl his own age, and moved out - which was a bit cringe.

She wasn't upset about him, but the scenario was slightly embarrassing.

You live close enough that he needn't move in. I'd say - absolutely do it, as long as you are 100% sure it's just for fun, and make sure everyone around you both knows that!

No she doesn't AT ALL. People need to learn to mind their own business.

And as for telling OP not to 'get carried away with herself' for losing weight... if I didn't know better, I'd say you were jealous.

I mean, who wouldn't want to be in their early 40s, in great shape, attracting the attention of men in their 20s AND with the confidence not to care what people think of her!? Sounds pretty ideal to me.

I would also like to add, I would say this exact same thing to a man, it's weird. Go for someone your own age, young guys will always chase older women, 9 times out of 10 so he can go back to his mates and laugh about it. A man or a woman wanting to do this, it's weird

@Jumpingthruhoops she has moved into a village. She has to think about what the neighbours think. If she wanted to live in an anonymous kind of life she shouldn't have moved to a village.

OP it's a very heavy feeling when you lose a lot of weight. Don't get carried away with yourself!

It does scream desperate to me. I can't really understand in my head what a women in her 40s would want with a 25 year old, it's a bit weird in my opinion

Who gives a shit what the neighbours think!?

I really really wouldn't do this. I might if I was on holiday or something like that but not with somebody who lives six doors away and who will have immature friends who will want all the gory details. You still have to live in that village after having sex with him. I wouldn't want to be the talk of the place.