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To sleep with a 25 year old

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Lolalovestheflowers · 01/01/2025 20:28

I am 43. After a very unhappy marriage that ended two years ago I feel I have finally found myself.
I have lost a lot of weight over the 2 years, got my friends and social life back and a good job I'm in a good place.

A couple of months ago I was out with some friends for a girly night, meal cocktails and onto a local pub.
We were having a great night and I was enjoying having fun.
A young man approached me that evening and started chatting me up, I had a giggle with him amd I was flattered but I said look your way too young for me as sweet as you are you surely must have many young women after you and no I'm out with the girls.
We both laughed , said nice to meet you and me and my friends moved onto the next pub.
Since then I've bumped into him in the local village I have recently moved to at the local shop. You would have thought it would have been awkward, it wasn't we smiled said our hellos , were polite, and went our own way.

He then sent a friend request on fb , I declined it. He then messaged me on fb asking to go for dinner. I ignored him initially.
One evening after a glass of wine I replied and said again you seem lovely , however your too young for me , take care.

On the 21st Dec I was out in local pub celebrating my best friends birthday , he walked in with a couple of friends near the end of the evening , he came over and said hello, we were all quite drunk by then and I must admit I was flattered he was flirting with me.
He said have you recently moved to the village i said yes and we then both realised we are actually neighbours.... 6 doors apart.

End of the night came and we both went separate ways and said goodbyes
My friends said there was a massive chemistry between the two of us and although he is young he seemed a nice, respectful guy

Since that evening we gave msg back and forth a little. Things heated up last night and he wanted me to meet him out.
He's saying I'm not too young for you , please just give me a chance.
I declined as I was staying in.
I really do fancy the pants off him, I know it will be nothing but a physical thing if I ever decide to meet him
However I can't help but feel it is morally wrong?

Opinions please
Tell me to sort myself and move on if you like, I'm all ears 😂

OP posts:
LuckySantangelo35 · 01/01/2025 22:34

AlpacaMittens · 01/01/2025 22:32

Midnight meltdown indeed!

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@MidnightMeltdown

who gives a fuck what the neighbours think?!

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/01/2025 22:33

ItsAMario · 01/01/2025 22:24

One of my friends slept with a 40 year old when he was 23 and the “insert name shags grannies” chants still come out when all the lads have had a drink.

@ItsAMario

misogynistic nonsense

Endofyear · 01/01/2025 22:33

Just go for dinner with him and see how it goes! He's a grown man and he obviously likes you, you like him, why not give it a go?

AlpacaMittens · 01/01/2025 22:32

MidnightMeltdown · 01/01/2025 22:28

Ewww you're old enough to be his mum!

Do what you like OP, but if the neighbours find out they're going to think you're a right skanky mare.

Midnight meltdown indeed!

AlpacaMittens · 01/01/2025 22:31

I'd only be concerned about him not performing (and then it becoming deflating and awkward), through my admittedly limited experience I've confirmed that predictably performance improves with age

IridiumSky · 01/01/2025 22:31

ItsAMario · 01/01/2025 22:24

One of my friends slept with a 40 year old when he was 23 and the “insert name shags grannies” chants still come out when all the lads have had a drink.

Then those lads are immature dickheads who should be avoided.

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Lolalovestheflowers · 01/01/2025 22:31

IridiumSky · 01/01/2025 22:29

Oh jolly well done!

Lunch or supper? Very different. As you well know. 😏

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Lunch

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Joelle84 · 01/01/2025 22:29

Oh idk. Yes go for it YOLO and your both consenting adults.

could be a bet with mates to see if he can get an older woman into bed? Be wary.

it could get awks with him living so close. But also could be just what you need. Idk i see both sides. Go with your gut. Its a one off just a bit of fun. I would if hes fit and you feel its ok? 🤷🏻‍♀️

IridiumSky · 01/01/2025 22:29

Lolalovestheflowers · 01/01/2025 22:25

I have replied to his last msg , I said we could meet for some food & a chat. I did ask him would you not feel awkward being seen out with me being older than you ? ... his reply was f no! He seems keen 😂

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Oh jolly well done!

Lunch or supper? Very different. As you well know. 😏

MidnightMeltdown · 01/01/2025 22:28

Ewww you're old enough to be his mum!

Do what you like OP, but if the neighbours find out they're going to think you're a right skanky mare.

Original poster
Lolalovestheflowers · 01/01/2025 22:27

ItsAMario · 01/01/2025 22:24

One of my friends slept with a 40 year old when he was 23 and the “insert name shags grannies” chants still come out when all the lads have had a drink.

I expect that does happen. But that will be his problem and not mine. I'm not bothered about being called a granny 😊

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IridiumSky · 01/01/2025 22:27

AlpacaMittens · 01/01/2025 22:20

Sorry for the off topic but I'm howling at this answer - don't shag the son, befriend the mum 😂🤣😂😂🤣

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Yeah, you couldn’t make it up! 😀

Although I do remember from my young days (think 18 years old) - sometime back in the Cretaceous - that a useful way to entice a young lady was to flirt with her mum.

It worked spectacularly well for me a few times then, but I’m unconvinced it would work this way round in this scenario. 🤣

Original poster
Lolalovestheflowers · 01/01/2025 22:25

IridiumSky · 01/01/2025 22:16

Oh too much talk already! 🙄

Come on OP Lola, it’s time for action: Reply to his last message NOW. Get a date sorted.

The forum awaits …

😏

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I have replied to his last msg , I said we could meet for some food & a chat. I did ask him would you not feel awkward being seen out with me being older than you ? ... his reply was f no! He seems keen 😂

OP posts:
ItsAMario · 01/01/2025 22:24

One of my friends slept with a 40 year old when he was 23 and the “insert name shags grannies” chants still come out when all the lads have had a drink.

Blibbleflibble · 01/01/2025 22:22

I'm 42 and saw a pic of my husband and I from when we both 22 and thought he looked so baby faced so not sure I could, I also teach lots of twenty somethings at uni and they seem like children to me. However it's not reeeaaally morally wrong, you're not his boss or hold any authority over him like a lecturer.

If he floats your boat I say go for it as there's no ethical question to answer, but being 6 doors down would be a no for me unless I genuinely thought I was interested in a proper relationship. 6 doors down isn't enough distance for a no strings attached fling. 😅

AlpacaMittens · 01/01/2025 22:20

Tel12 · 01/01/2025 22:03

You are just establishing yourself in the village. Just don't. Make friends with his mum.

Sorry for the off topic but I'm howling at this answer - don't shag the son, befriend the mum 😂🤣😂😂🤣

MrsMorrisey · 01/01/2025 22:18

Do want you want OP. You'll know if it's right when you're doing it. Just don't get drunk cos that does cheapen it a bit.
To all the people saying it's gross, you sound like 12 year olds.
He's 25 not 15!

IridiumSky · 01/01/2025 22:16

Oh too much talk already! 🙄

Come on OP Lola, it’s time for action: Reply to his last message NOW. Get a date sorted.

The forum awaits …

😏

Whatdoido11 · 01/01/2025 22:16

Lolalovestheflowers · 01/01/2025 20:28

I am 43. After a very unhappy marriage that ended two years ago I feel I have finally found myself.
I have lost a lot of weight over the 2 years, got my friends and social life back and a good job I'm in a good place.

A couple of months ago I was out with some friends for a girly night, meal cocktails and onto a local pub.
We were having a great night and I was enjoying having fun.
A young man approached me that evening and started chatting me up, I had a giggle with him amd I was flattered but I said look your way too young for me as sweet as you are you surely must have many young women after you and no I'm out with the girls.
We both laughed , said nice to meet you and me and my friends moved onto the next pub.
Since then I've bumped into him in the local village I have recently moved to at the local shop. You would have thought it would have been awkward, it wasn't we smiled said our hellos , were polite, and went our own way.

He then sent a friend request on fb , I declined it. He then messaged me on fb asking to go for dinner. I ignored him initially.
One evening after a glass of wine I replied and said again you seem lovely , however your too young for me , take care.

On the 21st Dec I was out in local pub celebrating my best friends birthday , he walked in with a couple of friends near the end of the evening , he came over and said hello, we were all quite drunk by then and I must admit I was flattered he was flirting with me.
He said have you recently moved to the village i said yes and we then both realised we are actually neighbours.... 6 doors apart.

End of the night came and we both went separate ways and said goodbyes
My friends said there was a massive chemistry between the two of us and although he is young he seemed a nice, respectful guy

Since that evening we gave msg back and forth a little. Things heated up last night and he wanted me to meet him out.
He's saying I'm not too young for you , please just give me a chance.
I declined as I was staying in.
I really do fancy the pants off him, I know it will be nothing but a physical thing if I ever decide to meet him
However I can't help but feel it is morally wrong?

Opinions please
Tell me to sort myself and move on if you like, I'm all ears 😂

This sounds like a fantastic storyline for a film but i say go for it - have some fun!!!!

MrsMorrisey · 01/01/2025 22:15

chanipumpkin · 01/01/2025 20:30

The saying don't shit where you eat comes to mind...

Charming

BCSurvivor · 01/01/2025 22:14

OP, definitely not morally wrong.
But only do it if you can cope with a potential ONS with a neighbour that you'll see most days.

FoxLoxInSox · 01/01/2025 22:12

5 years ago this week I met someone, fell in love, and recently we split.

We live 7 doors apart.

It’s been an absolute nightmare living so close to my ex. Even going to my car is fraught.

Dont risk it whilst living so close.

QuickDraining · 01/01/2025 22:11

A friend of mine married his neighbour. Village life!

Crushed23 · 01/01/2025 22:09

Tel12 · 01/01/2025 22:03

You are just establishing yourself in the village. Just don't. Make friends with his mum.

Like most mums of 25 year-olds, I suspect his mum is in her 50s or 60s, so not likely to have much in common with the OP which is what you usually need for friendships to flourish.

TheFormidableMrsC · 01/01/2025 22:07

LZ5M · 01/01/2025 22:02

Be mindful of the "whole end to end scenario" for you both before moving forward....
If you proceed..
Be confident.
Show him the ropes.
Control the situation on your terms...
Enjoy.

Good advice!