To sleep with a 25 year old

I feel like the "what would the neighbours think?" posters that you always get on here must have really anxiety-filed lives as instead of focusing on doing what makes you happy (as long as nobody gets hurt) it's this constant worry about what random curtain twitchers on their street might be saying behind their backs.

It reminds me of my DM and MiL who are constantly worrying about being seen with their hair a mess or doing a bad job of parking or opening the curtains too late or having guests over because of what neighbours might be saying. It just sounds so exhausting and boring.

Also I know TV is rubbish but I can't imagine less exciting entertainment than finding out that two people I barely know on my street had consensual sex.

Just go for it OP as long as you're clear that it won't ever be anything serious. People are talking like you're ancient and you're not even that old!

But you accused another poster of being jealous cause she called OP desperate. To be honest yeah, it smacks of low self esteem and desperation. A lot of us in early 40 look great and get attention but it's a bad idea for OP to act on it as she's a newbie in a small village and they frequent the same pub. She'll be dubbed the village bike and young lad will share all the juicy details with his mates. Bad idea all round

@Errors jealous? I'm happily married. I'm sure I could find someone to shag me if I wanted, even someone younger

The OP has clearly said she is only interested in a fling

How old are you? I'm 42 and I can assure you there's no shortage of 20 somethings willing to help me if I'm stuck in a drier. Unless you're an absolute munter, you will be spoiled for choice. But just because you can doesn't mean you should and these boys certainly do not want relationship. MILF porn is very popular and older women are seen as easy no strings attached fun

My husband of 9 years is 10 years younger, my step dad is 13 year's younger than my mum, they've been together nearly 30 years!

Personally I don't think I'm old at nearly 40 and don't look it either! If you are compatible then why not as long as you're both consenting adults I see no problem.

Have you actually read the OP’s posts?? She doesn’t sound insecure to me, quite the opposite. She is being perused by a fit 20-something guy. Why would she feel insecure?

You sound jealous

How do you know you were not once judged? I doubt anyone is going to confront OP, but people will talk plenty behind her back. I'm speaking from experience: people will judge her harshly, him not so much

Is it the sort of village where everyone knows everyone's business? You could become the social pariah when word gets round. There'll be a call to lock up your son's (and husbands) because the new woman at Foxy Cottage will shag anything.

@Lolalovestheflowers it is very coincidental, but I was 25 when I commenced a relationship with a 43 year old woman. She had come out of a difficult relationship and her oldest child was only a little younger than me.

Age was never an issue. We were very attracted to each other and our emotions and personalities were in touch. I can honestly say it was a beautiful, loving time and we were together for about a year. The sex was incredible and the chemistry a perfect fit.

It didn’t last only because we were at different stages in our lives. I wanted eventually the traditional family picture with children and a wife my own age, while she wanted to start her next phase of life which did not involve young children.

We ended amicably, but for that one long year we had a fulfilling year together. My goodness the sex was hot and the spontaneity of weekends away and holidays while just living that short time in our lives has left me with some amazing memories.

Not once were we judged, and I think the world is in a better place now than then.

I was 31 when I met my wife, she was 47, we've been together over 30 years, married for 27 years. Initially it was a friendship then sex thing, with nothing planned beyond that, we just went with the flow. Almost everyone said it wouldn't work, yet here we are.

Taking the age thing out of the equation (you're both adults, and although he's a bit younger than you, he's not a teenager any more - lots of 25yo's have settled down with families so I don't think he's that young), there's obviously chemistry there and provided you both want the same thing from the "relationship" I see no issues at all. But please come back and let us know what happens!!!

Yes. This is a really good point which I hadn't considered

I'm changing my answer to a hard no, now

No 25 year old is called Wayne 😂

Is his name Wayne?

The fact that he lives 6 doors away would bother me more than the age. Little chance of privacy in a village

I think for a couple of shags, no worries. If either/both develop feelings and it becomes more than a couple of shags, then no imo

But large age gap relationships DO work. Not for me though

Probably because if the genders were reversed MN would be flaming the man and telling the young woman to run from this

You seem insecure and in need of the ego boost

Have fun!

@Lolalovestheflowers - interesting you said his dad is 70 - it seems to add up to his view that he doesn't see the age gap as a big deal. You are much younger than his parents.

Go for it but I'd try and see him for lunch / pub etc several times before having sex. Enjoy it but take it slower so you can see what he's really like before committing to anything more

No, but only because he's a close neighbour in an area you've just moved to. Give it a bit more time to get a feel for the place and the people, then decide.

No he's not. OP is 42, half that is 21. Add 7 to 21 and you get 28 meaning OP can't date anyone below 28. Not sure who enforces this rule and what the penalties are for breaking it however...

She's mid-69s now? God I hope that's a typo 🤣

He is young enough to be your son and you are old enough to be his mother. You know in your heart its icky and wrong which is why you have come on here.

Besides, he will have much more respect and admiration for you if you just decline his advances with some dignity rather than accepting his offers or being flattered by them it just screams desperate.

Women/men in their 40’s have no business with men/women in their 20’s, it all just seems very wrong.

Surely a man closer to your own age bracket would have so much more to offer you than a “lad” does.