To sleep with a 25 year old

Unlike you, you are being a true sister trying to encourage her to complete this noble achievement. You've implied whomever advising against it must be a bridge troll with a fupa, so you are accusing us to trying to put fellow sister down while doing exactly the same. Not very sisterly if you ask me

But it’s not the other way round for goodness sake. Men and women really are different, with the older male often being the predator. The 2 scenarios do not compare.

Completely agree with this!

Nah I can comprehend that...

...just like I can comprehend how visible from space your little digs are to the OP, @PierceMorgansChin .

"Attention from 20 somethings is really common if you're attractive"
Ha, ok! Don't try and devalue something for the OP just to make her feel small.

but most women don't make it their own personality and post on MN because young lad showed interest

Wow, some of you really want to make her feel tiny for daring to share, don't you?

Report back? 🤮

I doubt few people care tuppence about single people having casual sex.

The double standard here is the age gap. If this were a forum designed largely for men I doubt the posters egging the OP on and asking for reports back would be quite so enthusiastic if male posters were egging on a 45 year old man to do the same.

@PierceMorgansChin It doesn't change on its own with time. It changes because people challenge and reject it. Nobody is forcing OP to go ahead with it if she doesn't want to but you're the one calling people "not like other girls" because they don't buy into this unacceptable double standard. Why be frightened of gossip from people who hold such unacceptable beliefs? Why live your life according to what they deem acceptable if it's so wrong?

Because its a tale as old as time. Woman is a skank, man is a stud. Its not ok and hopefully will change with time. OP doesn't seem to care about gossip tho

I’d say go for it if wasn’t on your doorstep, but it complicates things too much, and could be potentially very embarrassing, as you live so close, when it inevitably gets out and reaches ears you might not want it to reach.

@PierceMorgansChin Again, why doesn't he have to worry about being called a skank and being gossiped about to OPs mates? Maybe the people who would go as far as ostracising OP for being single and having sex with another single person in private should think about their double standards because it sounds like a them problem.

Exactly. The "report back" posts are cringe worthy enough but imagine if it were the other way round and they were asking a 45 year old man to report back.

Hard for you to comprehend that many of us in early 40ties are slim, attractive and dress nice? You don't sound very sisterly, sister? Attention from 20 somethings is really common if you're attractive, but most women don't make it their own personality and post on MN because young lad showed interest

If she doesn't care being called a skank and being gossiped about, possibly ostracised and so on then there's absolutely no issue

It is so, so funny watching fellow "sisters" on here twist themselves in knots to tell the OP "don't do it" while also simultaneously explaining to any other women on here how "I could bag a 20 something for a shag any time of the week if I wanted to".

I am sorry to disabuse you, but so many people on here are misinformed when it comes to young men.

No, they don't want to shag literally anything. Even if you are well off, or you think you have a fabulous dress sense and 'well cut clothing', you may not be the OP or people like her. Some people 'have it', some people really don't. It's ok.

Is that 'would have'?

He was described as a 'lad', I'm sure he will be very discreet and will absolutely not brag about shagging a MILF to his mates he goes out with. Typical introvert I'm sure. Just my opinion. And my experience is valid as I'm OPs age and I ran small village pub and witnessed this exact scenario. Plenty of people egging OP on, adding 'come back and report'

I'd have to agree with this. I've worked in an industry around a lot of young men. I've watched them have competetitions over who can sleep with the fattest, ugliest and oldest women.
They share the messages these poor women send. They don't even seem to view them as human. I'm not saying this is always the case but I'd be very wary

I remould of said go for it until realised he lives a few doors away

NO

I don’t think there is much point worrying about what other people think of you. The reality is that most people don’t think of you. If I was in a small town and someone told me that a 43 year old woman had slept with a 25 year old man I wouldn’t bat an eyelid and would have forgotten about it ten minutes later. Most people do not walk around thinking about other people in this way.

And those that are saying that they aren’t jealous… I cannot imagine what your motives are for calling the OP desperate and making all manner of misogynistic comments then…

@PierceMorgansChin have you considered that the young man in question might be a private person? The sort that doesn’t like to gossip and isn’t perhaps the ‘mates’ type?
the world is bigger place than your experience suggests.

@PierceMorgansChin Is it particularly enlightened and forward to think that casual consensual sex between two people is no big deal? I think it's a pretty standard position for most people nowadays.

OP lives in said village and has already addressed the "village gossip" issue several times, made it clear that she doesn't mind and that she does not want to associate with the kind of neighbours who would be calling her as skank.

Why should she have to worry about what people say and not him? It's all just misogyny.

'NOT even THAT old' some nice backhanded compliment there 😃. I know you try to sound enlighten and forward (not like other girls) but your post is tone def and comparing bad parking to shagging a 'lad' who will broadcast it with details is a choice! Nobody is stopping OP, but fucking a much younger neighbour in a small village is different to fucking a young man from tinder who is not local.

It has nothing to do with neighbours. And there is no evidence that they would think of you in such in terms of such disgusting names anyway. As for those comparing it with an older man going for a younger woman, firstly it isn’t the case, secondly, in such cases the older male is usually the predator.

OP, l am a similar age to you. Youhave an itch, there is someone who you like who wants to scratch it. You are single, pragmatic about the situation and have nothing to lose. Just remember, smart women carry condoms

I’ve never worried about people talking behind my back - why should I?
These days people are more accepting and have less time for gossip, but if they do then so what.

I'd say go for it. You're both consenting adults. He seems more keen than you but that's not a bad thing given what you've been through