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Oh to have the confidence of an average male

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Errors · 01/01/2025 19:11

This is one of my favourite sayings now. Did I get it right? I think I read it for the first time on here.

Anyway, what is it about getting slightly older (40s) and all of a sudden SEEING this everywhere?

I went on a date the other day with a guy who still
lives at home with his Dad and siblings (he is my age) which normally wouldn’t be off putting in of itself (it was circumstantial) but he was so unbelievably full of himself. Kept talking about women in the office throwing themselves at him, text me after to say I was too ‘cold’ and not flirty enough and so he decided to ‘match my vibe’ and almost made out like I was really missing out on someone great by not wanting to see him again.

Tell me some of your hilarious stories about men acting this way please.
Why the hell do most decidedly average (and below average) men think they’re god’s gift?

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Errors · 01/01/2025 19:34

Why do they all walk about like they’re saving the world?

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Errors · 01/01/2025 19:34

That’s it! The confidence of a mediocre man!

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FestiveFruitloop · 01/01/2025 19:29

When I was at uni I dated a guy for precisely a week, then came back to a note under my door breaking things off. And apologising for 'breaking my heart.'

One. Week.

Another uni bf assured me when we broke up after about a month that I'd 'get over him in time.'

Both men were distinctly average, but I'm happy to say these experiences were a great lesson in raising my standards. 😄

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/01/2025 19:18

I think it's the confidence of a mediocre man. At least, that's what I say.

Yesterday at work we had an average level crisis. I work in a field where average level crises are every day occurrences. My female boss happened to be upstairs and one of the tiptop leadership team was there. He knew, she didn't yet. He went "OMG are your team OK, X happened, is that the first time X has happened? Will they need me down there?" <panic>

She came down, told me what had happened, said, "as soon as I saw the back of your head Terry, I know it was handled". But my male boss's boss's boss's boss thought he could, with no experience or education in the matter, be helpful and swoop in and take over successfully. I can happily tell you he would have been as useless as a fart in a space suit.

They think because they are paid more, they know more. I've always found the converse to be true.

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