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Friends awful baby name

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:26

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

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BloominMarvelous · 02/01/2025 19:01

Purity, Virtue or Righteous at a guess?

ValentinaRebe · 02/01/2025 18:58

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StrikeForever · 02/01/2025 18:55

I agree with the previous poster who said you can absolutely tell her something like “the names you’re mentioning all all so lovely except. . . . . .. I think that might have potential for being the target of bullying etc”.

ScrubbedCauliflower · 02/01/2025 18:55

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:59

It’s not a ‘made up name’, it’s a word that you’d use, a bit like Integrity. That’s the closest I think I can get without saying what it is

Chastity?

Itdoesntmatteranyway · 02/01/2025 18:45

I teach a ‘Happiness’ who is an absolute joy.
I also teach a ‘Bright’ who isn’t….

RavenQueen · 02/01/2025 18:43

I don't think Honor is that unusual. I always think of Honor Blackman. Now if she decided to call her Pussy Galore that would be something 😂

Middleagedspreadisreal · 02/01/2025 18:43

Course you can

OnlyHerefortheBiscuits · 02/01/2025 18:41

Purity?

Has that been mentioned?

And yes it would be bloody awful 😂

Jaggy1 · 02/01/2025 18:38

To be fair, if she was to read this and see your clue of ‘integrity’ she’d know it was you anyway so you may aswell tell us now 🤔…
please 🤣

PheasantPluckers · 02/01/2025 18:37

I'm guessing Honour.

Blades2 · 02/01/2025 18:35

Not your kid.
not your vagina bursting its huge head through to be born to her terrible name.

smile and say she’s a cute baby and move along.

ilovesushi · 02/01/2025 18:34

Thefsm · 02/01/2025 17:46

If it’s serenity it is popular from Firefly. I know several little Serenity’s.

I rather like unusual names that are actual words. a friend here in USA has a little girl called Clarity which I think is sweet. Another has a daughter called Athena which I didn’t think was a good idea when she was little but she grew into it.

I absolutely love the names Clarity and Athena!

PerkySnail · 02/01/2025 18:33

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:15

No! It’s not honour, charity, faith. It’s like Integrity.

Honesty?

FizzyBisto · 02/01/2025 18:28

Rectitude sounds like a brand of laxative pills.

CaraMP01 · 02/01/2025 18:25

Candida?

Getuptherenow · 02/01/2025 18:23

Is it 'tegridy after 'Tegridy weed farm in South Park?

YMZ · 02/01/2025 18:21

Perhaps say that the child has to live with the name and also mention what other children will call her as a nick name. Ie teasing
ie teasing

RiseOfGru · 02/01/2025 18:18

If the name hasn't been chosen yet, you should tell her your concerns. Gently but frankly IMHO.

RaspberryCombat · 02/01/2025 18:12

Designer-tee?

BlackSwan · 02/01/2025 18:12

Pubity?

RaspberryCombat · 02/01/2025 18:10

University?

RaspberryCombat · 02/01/2025 18:10

(Neuro- / Bio- /) Diversity?

user1471600850 · 02/01/2025 18:09

Honesty?

MissConductUS · 02/01/2025 18:09

It would be bad even by American standards

Your unconscious bias is showing.

06230villefrancesurmer · 02/01/2025 18:08

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 19:27

I’ve made a note of your name so I can avoid your posts in future 😂

Now that is childish
Ps. Feel free to add my name to your blacklist. 🙄