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Friends awful baby name

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:26

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

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KateDelRick · 01/01/2025 17:02

Well, you're not going to share the name so this is all a bit pointless. No "similar" name can help with the discussion, either.

oakleaffy · 01/01/2025 17:01

KimberleyClark · 01/01/2025 17:00

Intensity?

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TidyDancer · 01/01/2025 17:01

If it's really that bad are you sure no one else has said anything? If it's truly terrible I think I'd find a subtle way to say something but it does depend on how bad it is I think.

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:01

ForZanyAquaViewer · 01/01/2025 17:00

I just saw a thread where the perfectly ordinary names ‘Gabriel’ and ‘Raphael’ were described as cruel, so going to take this with a pinch of salt. People like different things and have very different metrics re what’s unusual.

Oh no, think ‘Integrity’. That’s where this is going! I’m not badmouthing actual names!

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TheWalkingEyebag · 01/01/2025 17:01

If it was the only name on her list and she was dead set on using it, I’d stay quiet. But since it’s one of several, I would absolutely say something and I know my good friends would do the same if it were me. Not in a cruel way, just a ‘Oh I’m really not sure about that one. I love all your other ideas though!’

We are currently coming up with names for our DD and, if my friends said they didn’t like one of our ideas, I wouldn’t take any offence to it personally.

KateDelRick · 01/01/2025 17:00

PinkyFlamingo · 01/01/2025 16:59

Sorry completely pointless without name

Isn't it just?

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:00

StrawberryWater · 01/01/2025 16:39

I know plenty of people that have saddled their kid with awful names.

For example: Bu - pronounced 'Boo' apparently. However, to me it's Bu as in But. Where is she getting 'Boo' from? And even then Boo is NOT a good name. It's a nickname at best!

You can't say anything though. You just have to zip your lip and maybe encourage all the other names.

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The poor child. I have been so genuinely enthusiastic about the others. Just can’t wrap my head around it!

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KimberleyClark · 01/01/2025 17:00

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:59

It’s not a ‘made up name’, it’s a word that you’d use, a bit like Integrity. That’s the closest I think I can get without saying what it is

Intensity?

oakleaffy · 01/01/2025 17:00

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:59

It’s not a ‘made up name’, it’s a word that you’d use, a bit like Integrity. That’s the closest I think I can get without saying what it is

Yntegreteigh ?

ForZanyAquaViewer · 01/01/2025 17:00

I just saw a thread where the perfectly ordinary names ‘Gabriel’ and ‘Raphael’ were described as cruel, so going to take this with a pinch of salt. People like different things and have very different metrics re what’s unusual.

PinkyFlamingo · 01/01/2025 16:59

Sorry completely pointless without name

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:59

It’s not a ‘made up name’, it’s a word that you’d use, a bit like Integrity. That’s the closest I think I can get without saying what it is

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oakleaffy · 01/01/2025 16:59

slightlydistrac · 01/01/2025 16:37

We're just going to have to guess then, aren't we.

Grayvie?

Jimberleigh.

cartagenagina · 01/01/2025 16:58

I cannot possibly comment without knowing the name.

Come on OP, cough!

ThatKhakiMoose · 01/01/2025 16:57

Tell us, OP. You can always ask MN to delete this thread a few hours later.

ThatKhakiMoose · 01/01/2025 16:57

You described it as a name that's cruel. Hard to think what that might be, unless something like Hitler or Stalin!

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:57

BarbaraHoward · 01/01/2025 16:43

It would be bad even by American standards...

Hmm

We can't comment without the name, sorry. It could be something absolutely fine just not to your taste or it could be truly awful to just about everyone. Your friend could also be winding you up.

It’s definitely not just a ‘me’ thing, and I don’t think it’s a wind up. The other choices were so nice, a couple a bit rogue, not to my taste but normal enough, then this one crazy wildcard!

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Iwrotethelyricstoaxlf · 01/01/2025 16:56

Raefarty?

PromoJoJo · 01/01/2025 16:55

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catin8oots · 01/01/2025 16:45

Boring pointless thread if you won't share the name

wholettheturnipsburn · 01/01/2025 16:43

Chlamydia?

dragonfliesandbees · 01/01/2025 16:43

If she had already named her baby I wouldn't say anything but at this stage I think you can. She is choosing to discuss it with you while trying to make a decision so that suggests she would like some input. I'd be honest - but maybe not too honest! Tell her you're not keen on it rather than saying it's awful. And then tell her how much you love some of her other choices.

BarbaraHoward · 01/01/2025 16:43

It would be bad even by American standards...

Hmm

We can't comment without the name, sorry. It could be something absolutely fine just not to your taste or it could be truly awful to just about everyone. Your friend could also be winding you up.

Littletinytarzanswingingfromanosehair · 01/01/2025 16:41

Pewberteigh?
Pheecee?
Deffley?
Eurin?
Phart?
Aynall?

StrawberryWater · 01/01/2025 16:39

I know plenty of people that have saddled their kid with awful names.

For example: Bu - pronounced 'Boo' apparently. However, to me it's Bu as in But. Where is she getting 'Boo' from? And even then Boo is NOT a good name. It's a nickname at best!

You can't say anything though. You just have to zip your lip and maybe encourage all the other names.