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Friends awful baby name

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:26

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

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AhBiscuits · 01/01/2025 17:07

Will you tell us if someone gets it?

Umbrellasinthesunshine · 01/01/2025 17:07

Came for the title… stayed for the amazing guesses 🤣

HugoYorway · 01/01/2025 17:07

Dignity
Piety
Virginity
Ingenuity
Elegance

KarlaKK · 01/01/2025 17:07

AhBiscuits · 01/01/2025 17:04

I've also dealt with two different clients called Goodness.

I think Goodluck is another name along those lines. I only started hearing these names in the past decade and once I got used to them I now think they are really nice. I think it wonderful that baby's parents endowed them with a name like Precious or wanted the best for the baby and lots of good luck in life. There's something really charming about it to me.

TeenLifeMum · 01/01/2025 17:06

I knew a girl called Carisma (charisma spelled incorrectly and that poor girl did not have any charisma at all). But her peers never treated her badly, just called her her name.

2025willbemytime · 01/01/2025 17:06

When someone ridicules someone else for their name, they are the stupid one since the named person didn't chose their own name..

Whydoeseveryonewanttoaegue · 01/01/2025 17:05

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:26

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

If you are American or she is then what you have said is fine.

If you aren’t that’s pretty generalising and a crap thing to say as you wouldn’t know anyway.

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 01/01/2025 17:05

I'm guessing Chastity. In which case, YANBU.

Honor, Patience, Felicity and the other "virtue" names are fine. I did see an Avarice in a book once, which is just awful!

Pinkywoo · 01/01/2025 17:04

TroysMammy · 01/01/2025 17:03

Is it Honor?

That would be my guess too, and it's not that bad if so.

TeenLifeMum · 01/01/2025 17:04

Is it Chastity?

i think kids will tease anything. I was told DD’s name was a nickname and she’ll be teased.

  1. it was my great aunt’s name
  2. it’s been a name in its own right since the 16th century but can also be a nickname
  3. she’s 13 and never been teased
  4. she loves her name

honestly, even weird names become normal the more you hear them.

AhBiscuits · 01/01/2025 17:04

I've also dealt with two different clients called Goodness.

oakleaffy · 01/01/2025 17:04

Decenceigh?

Cheesymonster · 01/01/2025 17:04

Gravity?

KarlaKK · 01/01/2025 17:04

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:59

It’s not a ‘made up name’, it’s a word that you’d use, a bit like Integrity. That’s the closest I think I can get without saying what it is

Is it Precious? I think it is a popular name in Nigeria and Ghana. I really like it.

AgathaLioness · 01/01/2025 17:04

There are lots of names similar to this - honesty, faith, serenity, honour etc etc

Gonners · 01/01/2025 17:04

Honesty? I've seen that listed in "baby names" lists. I think "Perjury" is prettier, though.

AhBiscuits · 01/01/2025 17:03

Charity? Because that's a name I've seen a fair bit.

ForZanyAquaViewer · 01/01/2025 17:03

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:01

Oh no, think ‘Integrity’. That’s where this is going! I’m not badmouthing actual names!

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So, a virtue? Like an old Puritan name or something that would be popular with West Africans (we love those names).

Or do you mean a random noun?

diddl · 01/01/2025 17:03

Is it a virtue name?

oakleaffy · 01/01/2025 17:03

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:01

Oh no, think ‘Integrity’. That’s where this is going! I’m not badmouthing actual names!

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Probeteigh?

TroysMammy · 01/01/2025 17:03

Is it Honor?

Whydoeseveryonewanttoaegue · 01/01/2025 17:03

StrawberryWater · 01/01/2025 16:39

I know plenty of people that have saddled their kid with awful names.

For example: Bu - pronounced 'Boo' apparently. However, to me it's Bu as in But. Where is she getting 'Boo' from? And even then Boo is NOT a good name. It's a nickname at best!

You can't say anything though. You just have to zip your lip and maybe encourage all the other names.

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Yup agreed that’s a pretty awful name!

Karaokequeenie · 01/01/2025 17:03

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:59

It’s not a ‘made up name’, it’s a word that you’d use, a bit like Integrity. That’s the closest I think I can get without saying what it is

Serenity?

Manxexile · 01/01/2025 17:03

Chastity?

Virginal?

Er....

chippytea33 · 01/01/2025 17:02

Ultimately, what she chooses to call her baby will have no impact on you whatsoever so I'm not sure why you're stressing so much.