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Friends awful baby name

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:26

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

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MsReacher2025 · 01/01/2025 17:14

@oakleaffy - you're on fire! Making me laugh out loud. Thank you!

duckduckgooseduckagain · 01/01/2025 17:14

Sincerity?

ohyesido · 01/01/2025 17:14

Destiny Chastity and Charity aren't really that unusual.

If it's Heaven Leigh, there are 4 of those at my niece's primary school

Awrite · 01/01/2025 17:13

Precious?

Honesty?

EmmaSmiff · 01/01/2025 17:13

Is it Dripfeedia?

ShesNotACowShesAFox · 01/01/2025 17:13

Poor kid. I find people who give nouns or adjectives as their children’s name often get the opposite effect. The most miserable person I know is called Joy. I also knew a Prudence (Pru) who made fucking terrible life choices like moving into a commune after knowing a bloke for a week type choices. I reckon Integrity with be a lying fish salesman type 😂 ooh I also knew a Serenity with a really short temper!

CurlyhairedAssassin · 01/01/2025 17:13

Do you know what? I've worked in schools for 15 years. I've seen every type of name. And while I may do an inner snigger the first time I see them on a register, you quickly come to accept the name as totally normal and you can't imagine them being called anything else. I quite like the extremely unusual names.

Twotribesgonna · 01/01/2025 17:12

Verity!
please op, just tell us whether the name has been mentioned in this thread. Then we can happily investigate further

oakleaffy · 01/01/2025 17:12

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 01/01/2025 17:09

Justice?

That’s a lovely name for a fine Draught horse 💖

Sidebeforeself · 01/01/2025 17:12

Why cant you tell her what you think. You’ve said she’s sharing names with you ( although I dont get what’s “super special “ about that?) so presumably she wants your views. You dont need to be hurtful , just say something like ‘ Whoah! That’s a bit out there! What’s made you think of that?”

KimberleyClark · 01/01/2025 17:12

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 01/01/2025 17:05

I'm guessing Chastity. In which case, YANBU.

Honor, Patience, Felicity and the other "virtue" names are fine. I did see an Avarice in a book once, which is just awful!

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I love the name Constance. Not so fussed on Prudence.

User74893677 · 01/01/2025 17:11

It’s Destiny

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 01/01/2025 17:11

CurlyhairedAssassin · 01/01/2025 17:08

Noooo!! Avarice? Did they not know the meaning of it? Who would saddle their kid with something that means something nasty?

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Luckily this was a fictional character in a medieval crime story. I think the author gave her the name as an apt character description.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 01/01/2025 17:10

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:01

Oh no, think ‘Integrity’. That’s where this is going! I’m not badmouthing actual names!

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If it's a virtue name you could say, "I'd personally steer away from virtue names because what if your child turns out to be the opposite? I always think girls named Chastity are destined to become strippers, lol."

Thindog · 01/01/2025 17:10

Candida?
I know.....Rumpelstiltskin!

Mustard3 · 01/01/2025 17:10

I like virtue names, like Charity, Prudence, Honor, etc. Is it one of these?

Have you googled and checked it’s not actually a name?

HugoYorway · 01/01/2025 17:10

@ThatEllie , the name is Honor (spellchecker might be to blame)

KarlaKK · 01/01/2025 17:09

oakleaffy · 01/01/2025 17:08

Precious Mackenzie, wasn’t he an Oldskool Olympic flyweight boxer or similar?

I like Precious too ( My dad did meet Precious Mackenzie many years ago)

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Yes, Precious Mackenzie. We're showing our age here :) I remember him from the 70s but forgot he was a man. For some reason I associate it with being a woman's name.

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 01/01/2025 17:09

Justice?

Gonners · 01/01/2025 17:09

ohyesido · 01/01/2025 17:08

Serendipity?

That should be hyphenated as Seren-Dippity.

ohyesido · 01/01/2025 17:08

Serendipity?

oakleaffy · 01/01/2025 17:08

KarlaKK · 01/01/2025 17:04

Is it Precious? I think it is a popular name in Nigeria and Ghana. I really like it.

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Precious Mackenzie, wasn’t he an Oldskool Olympic flyweight boxer or similar?

I like Precious too ( My dad did meet Precious Mackenzie many years ago)

CurlyhairedAssassin · 01/01/2025 17:08

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 01/01/2025 17:05

I'm guessing Chastity. In which case, YANBU.

Honor, Patience, Felicity and the other "virtue" names are fine. I did see an Avarice in a book once, which is just awful!

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Noooo!! Avarice? Did they not know the meaning of it? Who would saddle their kid with something that means something nasty?

ThatEllie · 01/01/2025 17:08

It would be bad even by American standards

YABU for that considering some of the tragic names we see in the UK.

You’re also unreasonable for not just telling the name. Unless you give her entire list she’s not going to recognize it, especially if it’s something mundane like Honour. Though admittedly I think Honour is probably a more popular choice for a German shepherd than for a child.

ShadowTheHedgehog · 01/01/2025 17:07

I went to school with a guy called Hardlife