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Friends awful baby name

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:26

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

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DiegoVanDamme · 01/01/2025 17:40

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:15

No! It’s not honour, charity, faith. It’s like Integrity.

Kintegrity? Mintegrity? Zintegrity?

Echoing all the others - no name = pointless thread

Ghosttofu99 · 01/01/2025 17:40

ohyesido · 01/01/2025 17:17

I went to school with a Verity and a Felicity.

It's not Papaya is it? Apparently that translates to something non-fruit in another language

Verity is a lovely name.

Sasskitty · 01/01/2025 17:39

Verity?

Meltedwelly · 01/01/2025 17:39

This thread is nothing without the name! Honesteigh/Honestleigh

Onlyvisiting · 01/01/2025 17:38

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:26

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

If she is still deciding and has involved you in the discussion then I think you csn absolutely say I'm not keen on xyz, but I love your nether choices. And if she asks why csn tell her you think it's a bit too unusual and likely to get bullied for it.
You can do it tactfully, just don't laugh in her face and tell her it's awful and she must be insane.
Basically don't criticise it so hard that it will be awkward if she chooses it anyway, but gently make it clear you aren't a fan.

OneZippyWasp · 01/01/2025 17:38

Moraleigh
Interestingleigh
Honestleigh
Brilliance
Patience
Memory
Gift

WellsAndThistles · 01/01/2025 17:37

Tell us in the hope your friend googles it and they'll assume their younique name isn't that younique after all.

tuvamoodyson · 01/01/2025 17:37

Sidebeforeself · 01/01/2025 17:12

Why cant you tell her what you think. You’ve said she’s sharing names with you ( although I dont get what’s “super special “ about that?) so presumably she wants your views. You dont need to be hurtful , just say something like ‘ Whoah! That’s a bit out there! What’s made you think of that?”

Not just special…SUPER special!!

KateDelRick · 01/01/2025 17:37

ForZanyAquaViewer · 01/01/2025 17:35

Precious, Blessing, Promise, Cherish, we love em. We (Nigeria) had a president named ‘Good Luck’.

They're such beautiful names. I love "Blessing".

Ceramiq · 01/01/2025 17:37

I think it's absolutely fine to point out that someone's unborn baby name choice is awful providing you have data and evidence for that.

ForZanyAquaViewer · 01/01/2025 17:35

KarlaKK · 01/01/2025 17:04

Is it Precious? I think it is a popular name in Nigeria and Ghana. I really like it.

Precious, Blessing, Promise, Cherish, we love em. We (Nigeria) had a president named ‘Good Luck’.

RupertCampbellBlacksEgo · 01/01/2025 17:35

Marlana backwards?

If you type it with a space between each letter it won't be googleable.

AngelinaFibres · 01/01/2025 17:34

BusyPoster · 01/01/2025 17:32

Anxiety?
Extremity?
Tension?
Tenseness

Anxiety has got to be the winner!

Anxiety When they get to teenage years then can shorten it to Xi and wander round happily in a fashionable cloud of gender fluidity

godmum56 · 01/01/2025 17:34

Not your child, not your business.

IVbumble · 01/01/2025 17:33

Knew a Verity once & her 3 siblings & mum all had V names too.

Lighteningstrikes · 01/01/2025 17:33

It depends if she would appreciate it or not.

I’ve made the mistake of commenting and with hindsight wish I hadn’t. It made no difference at all as she named the child the name, apart from her remembering my comment.

I also knew someone who called her child Hero after watching Big Hero 6. Poor kid.

BusyPoster · 01/01/2025 17:32

Anxiety?
Extremity?
Tension?
Tenseness

Anxiety has got to be the winner!

IVbumble · 01/01/2025 17:32

Surely it's Diversity.

What do I win?

CeceliaImrie · 01/01/2025 17:32

Ferocity?

Randomontheinternet25 · 01/01/2025 17:32

Rectitude?!

Friends awful baby name
TequilaNights · 01/01/2025 17:32

Could she be testing you?

CeceliaImrie · 01/01/2025 17:31

Anxiety?
Extremity?
Tension?
Tenseness?

DressOrSkirt · 01/01/2025 17:31

I would say something. She's been discussing the names with you to get your opinion surely?

BarbaraHoward · 01/01/2025 17:31

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:57

It’s definitely not just a ‘me’ thing, and I don’t think it’s a wind up. The other choices were so nice, a couple a bit rogue, not to my taste but normal enough, then this one crazy wildcard!

But why on earth do you think "bad even by American standards" is an ok thing to write? It just marks you out as someone prejudiced and makes me disregard your opinion.

Nanny0gg · 01/01/2025 17:31

Hankunamatata · 01/01/2025 17:27

Is it one of the virtues - faith, hope, charity, patience, prudence, justice, fortitude, temperance etc

Most of those are names - and quite pretty ones