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Friends awful baby name

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:26

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

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NetZeroZealot · 01/01/2025 17:54

Sasskitty · 01/01/2025 17:51

Candida?

I know several adult women with this name.

KimberleyClark · 01/01/2025 17:54

Amity?

Couldyounot · 01/01/2025 17:53

It's Khlamydiia, isn't it.

Catandsquirrel · 01/01/2025 17:53

So it's an unusual virtue name? That's livewithable if she picks it, very popular in some cultures so the child won't be the only one.

If she settles for it, I would pick the battle of encouraging her to spell it correctly though if you're saying she's going for an 'inventive' version.

In the meantime, you can always be clear about how beautiful her other choices are.

PurplePenguin2468 · 01/01/2025 17:53

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:59

It’s not a ‘made up name’, it’s a word that you’d use, a bit like Integrity. That’s the closest I think I can get without saying what it is

Honour, Honest, Virtue

She may have put it there on purpose to gauge your reaction?

NetZeroZealot · 01/01/2025 17:53

It must be Honesty.

A pretty flower as well as a nice attribute.

I wouldn't think it was that bad TBF.

Thatcastlethere · 01/01/2025 17:53

Liberty is pretty..
But I associate Justice with boys names as the only Justice I've ever met was a man..

shortoedtreecreeper · 01/01/2025 17:52

If not chastity, could it be Temptress?

Jolietta · 01/01/2025 17:52

mnahmnah · 01/01/2025 16:28

No, you can’t! But you can emphasise how nice lots of the others are, in hope!

Why not?

I'd fall about laughing and say it's hideous!

If you can't be honest with a good friend then that is a shame!

Unless of course the baby is named after her mother or mother in law, then you can be a bit more tactful in how you tell her it's not a great name!

Scarfitwere · 01/01/2025 17:52

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:15

No! It’s not honour, charity, faith. It’s like Integrity.

Is it Integriteigh?

Sasskitty · 01/01/2025 17:51

Candida?

rosiethegremlin · 01/01/2025 17:51

Has it been mentioned already on here?

Thighdentitycrisis · 01/01/2025 17:51

not Patience then?

Thighdentitycrisis · 01/01/2025 17:50

TELL UUUUUUUS

FrangipaneMincies · 01/01/2025 17:50

It's not Elphaba, is it? Someone I know wanted to call her daughter that, from 'Wicked'

Thatcastlethere · 01/01/2025 17:50

Is it Euphemia??
Virtue name, means "well spoken" was most common in the victorian era. I think it's very romantic but could see why someone might think it was nuts.
Or Chastity. I like the sound of that one but don't like the connotations.

AUDHD · 01/01/2025 17:50

Without knowing the name we can’t comment

Sasskitty · 01/01/2025 17:50

It can’t be That bad surely? Not like Adolf or bum hole?
It’s just you don’t like it 🤷‍♀️

Rosscameasdoody · 01/01/2025 17:49

wholettheturnipsburn · 01/01/2025 16:43

Chlamydia?

Coffee just came down my nose !!

MrsRonaldWeasley · 01/01/2025 17:49

Something like virtue or righteous?

Laboheme78 · 01/01/2025 17:48

Oh come on!! What is the name?

Meltedwelly · 01/01/2025 17:48

CatherinedeBourgh · 01/01/2025 17:47

Honesty is a plant, and rather a pretty one, so you could see it from that perspective.

But you'd have to spell it Honesteigh

Garlicnorth · 01/01/2025 17:48

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:15

No! It’s not honour, charity, faith. It’s like Integrity.

Do you mean something like Honesty or Truth? Both of those were very popular Victorian names. In fact, anyone who gets exasperated with 2020s names should take a look at the Victorians - not only were they very fond of (trying for) originality, they also re-used the names of children that died.

Just go with it, anyway. The current crop of babies have such unexpected names, nothing will seem strange among her peers!

CatherinedeBourgh · 01/01/2025 17:47

Honesty is a plant, and rather a pretty one, so you could see it from that perspective.

Paperthin · 01/01/2025 17:47

It has got to be Dignity ?

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