Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Friends awful baby name

737 replies

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:26

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

OP posts:
Whydoeseveryonewanttoaegue · 01/01/2025 18:53

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:01

Oh no, think ‘Integrity’. That’s where this is going! I’m not badmouthing actual names!

Show quote history

No just American tacky ones by standard.

AlleycatMarie · 01/01/2025 18:51

Got to be Honesty?!

AshCrapp · 01/01/2025 18:48

If it's something like Liberty or Justice, I think that's also fine.

Tiredalwaystired · 01/01/2025 18:46

AngelinaFibres · 01/01/2025 17:19

Oh and just imagine when she grows and has a child it'll be.....Destiny's child. Ba ba boom

Show quote history

The band got their name from a book name within a Stephen King book, Misery. The book was called Destiny’s Child. About the child of someone called Destiny.

So…yeah. You’re right.

DizzyDandilion · 01/01/2025 18:44

I've not read whole thread. I have boys but considered the names Verity and also, Clemency for a girl. My DH would entertain neither and not an issue in the end anyway.

Isittimeformynapyet · 01/01/2025 18:44

Shinybear · 01/01/2025 18:20

But is it just a name you don't like and find cringey, or is it objectively horrible? If it's a name that you just really don't like or has a strange spelling but isn't offensive, e.g. Brittaneigh or Kayleigh, then leave them to it. If it's something with an obvious and horrible/ridiculous meaning, like Beanleigh or Hades, then say something.

What is the "obvious" horrible or ridiculous meaning of Beanleigh please?

lightsandtunnels · 01/01/2025 18:44

Obviously you know this is noyb OP. My DCs had a couple of school friends with some absolutely crazy names, think similar to splendour and magnificent. Tbh no one batted an eyelid really apart from an initial surprise and the children - who are now adults - just had a shortened name they chose or that evolved. I'm sure it won't cause them any harm long term!
Definitely don't say anything to your friend - it might be the end of your friendship if you do!

OrangeQualityStreetAreTheBest · 01/01/2025 18:44

I bet its Modesty. And agree, that would be cruel.

Or as PP said, Chastity - although wasn't that a name on Emmerdale?

TheSquareMile · 01/01/2025 18:41

I'm wondering whether it's Chastity, one of Cher's children was given that name at birth.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 01/01/2025 18:39

I find myself agog at some of the more 'normal' names these days, some people seem to be giving birth to their great grandparents, with their Ada and Esme type names. But that's just me, having grown up with those as 'old people' names, and I know I'll get used to them.

Just waiting to meet my first little Eglantina. It's not Eglantina, is it OP?

pictoosh · 01/01/2025 18:39

Destiny?
Or...Destynee?

PurpleRobe · 01/01/2025 18:38

Dignity ?

Meltedwelly · 01/01/2025 18:38

Andoutcomethewolves · 01/01/2025 18:37

Gaylord always works for a boy

Show quote history

.

while you were sleeping GIF
Getitwright · 01/01/2025 18:37

BIL had two rabbits……one called Bonk, the other called Brainsout. And they did🤣

Andoutcomethewolves · 01/01/2025 18:37

Gonners · 01/01/2025 17:30

Hubris would be lovely for a boy. Vainglory for a girl.

Gaylord always works for a boy

Mnetcurious · 01/01/2025 18:36

I think you can say something, subtly. Next time you’re discussing names together and she mentions it, “to be honest I’m not so keen on that one, and it doesn’t really match the kind of person you are, but your other suggestions of xx, yy and zz are beautiful names and would be perfect.”

eta - if she asks what you mean you could say some people think it’s [insert reason here, eg has negative connotations]”

mealienpleasehelp · 01/01/2025 18:34

Poverteigh?

(Probably already been done, sorry)

ilovesushi · 01/01/2025 18:34

If she has discussed names with you, then she's opened that conversation and I think you can comment. Especially if it has awful connotations that she hasn't picked up on.

Melonmango70 · 01/01/2025 18:32

Honesty? Probity? Decency?

OptimisticRealist2024 · 01/01/2025 18:29

Littletinytarzanswingingfromanosehair · 01/01/2025 16:41

Pewberteigh?
Pheecee?
Deffley?
Eurin?
Phart?
Aynall?

@Littletinytarzanswingingfromanosehair (Tiny interjection to say that "Eurin" could be a very feasible Welsh name, and isn't really on par with "Pewberteigh" 😂😂)

LittleBobbyDazzler · 01/01/2025 18:26

AngelinaFibres · 01/01/2025 17:16

Oh these are so beautiful. I think Pewberteigh needs to be a boys name though. Just getting that vibe.

Show quote history

It gives Pubert Adams vibes

theduchessofspork · 01/01/2025 18:25

Something like Destiny?

Anyway, yes you can say you don’t like it and you think it’s unfair to saddle a child with it, as long as you sandwich the criticism between praise for the names you do like.

YourGladSquid · 01/01/2025 18:25

Kim5678 · 01/01/2025 18:20

I was thinking Chastity too but I’ve never heard Pleasure as a name! It sounds like something that would come out of those online porn star name generators years ago

Show quote history

Admittedly it’s probably a Roman Catholic thing (I was translating it just for the language barrier)

Prazeres, Dores/Dolores, Pureza, Conceição/Concepción… usually combined with Maria.

ForZanyAquaViewer · 01/01/2025 18:24

FizzyBisto · 01/01/2025 18:16

And even more appropriately, his middle name was Withyourdrivingtest.

Show quote history

🤣🤣🤣

Shinybear · 01/01/2025 18:21

Is it Chastity?