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Friends awful baby name

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:26

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 19:15

PandyMoanyMum · 01/01/2025 17:26

Is it Destiny?

speaking as a parent of a Faith and an Honour who is happy with my choices 😊

No it’s not, those are totally lovely and normal, this name is not normal !

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AcrossthePond55 · 01/01/2025 19:14

Naming children after virtues goes back hundreds of years and a lot of those are now mainstream (Faith, Constance, Justice, etc). I can only think that either OP's friend has picked an unusual synonym for a virtue or is giving it a You-nique spelling that could be pronounced in a different way.

I can see why she doesn't want to say the actual name.

Ilikeadrink14 · 01/01/2025 19:13

I, like many others probably, plodded through this post because I was sure the poster would give the name eventually. She didn’t! I hope she is happy that she wasted so much of our time with such a pointless post. It was like getting to the last page in a book and finding someone had torn it out!
I am pretty easy-going, and it takes a lot to rile me, but this post has, with knobs on!
I have made a note of her name so I can avoid her posts in future!

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 01/01/2025 19:12

DizzyDandilion · 01/01/2025 18:44

I've not read whole thread. I have boys but considered the names Verity and also, Clemency for a girl. My DH would entertain neither and not an issue in the end anyway.

Both lovely names.

Sparkletastic · 01/01/2025 19:12

Charisma? As in the actress off of Buffy?

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SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 01/01/2025 19:10

I honestly don't see why you can't say: 'Friend, I love all of these names except Varucacella, which worries me because it reminds me of the foot problem and the musical instrument, and the dear girl might get teased in school. Though I agree that the actual sound of the name is lovely and I can see why you chose it. '
Wouldn't that do the trick?

BringBackWorshippingCats · 01/01/2025 19:09

Is it
honesty

unity

or

Honourableness

AmateurNoun · 01/01/2025 19:08

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:59

It’s not a ‘made up name’, it’s a word that you’d use, a bit like Integrity. That’s the closest I think I can get without saying what it is

It's a bit like those influencers who called their daughter Industry I guess (Indy for short)? It's a bit odd, but each to their own. I prefer the random word names over made-up spelling names.

HugoYorway · 01/01/2025 19:08

@OptimisticRealist2024 , the Welsh name is Euryn. It's a nice name and is not pronounced Ew-rin.

Randomontheinternet25 · 01/01/2025 19:07

She's going to call it whatever she likes, my friend asked in passing about a name that has no family connection etc if I liked it and I said a less polite version of 'gosh no! that's awful , why that name?' she called the child it followed by even more 'interesting' middle names.

Thoughtsonallsorts · 01/01/2025 19:03

CactusSammy · 01/01/2025 18:57

Modesty? Chastity?

🤦‍♀️

Thoughtsonallsorts · 01/01/2025 19:01

I'd say something along the lines of that's quite nice but xxxx said it was awful,then give her reasons what do you think.
Hormones can play havoc with name choices

Bogginsthe3rd · 01/01/2025 18:59

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:15

No! It’s not honour, charity, faith. It’s like Integrity.

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It's Rectitude isn't it

Thoughtsonallsorts · 01/01/2025 18:58

Is it sincerity 😆

ChiliFiend · 01/01/2025 18:58

Once the baby is born and has been given the name, no you cannot say anything. When she's running several names by you while pregnant, you absolutely should say something, particularly if you genuinely think the child would be ridiculed. That's your duty as a friend. Isn't that what any of us would want in her shoes?

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 01/01/2025 18:58

Dignity!

CactusSammy · 01/01/2025 18:57

Modesty? Chastity?

IamnotwhouthinkIam · 01/01/2025 18:56

Similar to Integrity? I’m assuming it’s something like Serenity or Amity. I wouldn’t say they were awful, just so unusual that they seem very hippy dippy and may not suit the child.

Can you gently point out that the problem with virtue/word names is that the child may be the very opposite of that virtue/word and then they will have to put up with the annoyance of people mentioning it regularly (and obviously say to her that all her other choices are SO much nicer).

Or suggest if she wants a virtue name that she goes for a subtle one -for example not everyone would be aware of what Felicity and Verity mean.

nevertrustanyoneagain · 01/01/2025 18:55

I think it is Truely. One of the children on Sister Wives.

Wordau · 01/01/2025 18:54

Solidarity?

Solid for short

Brings new meaning to "do me a Solid"

CamelsForChristmas · 01/01/2025 18:54

Some of the honour type names are lovely though. Integrity- maybe not so much though. I suggested Temperance and Deliverance if our Ds1 was a DD. Crappy names for our times I agree now, but at the time I loved them. Still do, but maybe not for an actual person.

One of my friends in the throes of pregnancy hormones had Euphoria on her list. TBH I did make my thoughts gently clear. Thank heavems. She named her along the lines of Sophia in the end. And a child in my younger DS's class is called Bliss. He is a he, not a she which somehow makes it worse.

cartagenagina · 01/01/2025 18:53

I’m thinking it has to be Chastity.

Verity isn’t uncommon. Honesty is weird, but wouldn’t lead to the same outcomes as Chastity in terms of bullying potential.

Reetpetitenot · 01/01/2025 18:53

Hopefully not Rectitude.

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