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Friends awful baby name

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:26

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

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ThatKhakiMoose · 01/01/2025 19:58

NoBodyIdRatherBe · 01/01/2025 19:51

I work with a child named Stalin. I cannot fathom what made his parents name him that.

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JFC.

Wherehavetheyallgone · 01/01/2025 19:58

Ilikeadrink14 · 01/01/2025 19:13

I, like many others probably, plodded through this post because I was sure the poster would give the name eventually. She didn’t! I hope she is happy that she wasted so much of our time with such a pointless post. It was like getting to the last page in a book and finding someone had torn it out!
I am pretty easy-going, and it takes a lot to rile me, but this post has, with knobs on!
I have made a note of her name so I can avoid her posts in future!

@Ilikeadrink14 , all you have to do is click on the text See All (bottom right of the original post) Then you can see every subsequent comment by the OP and ascertain in 30 seconds whether she ever gives or confirms the name. This saves hours of time and helps you work out whether to invest your time or move on.

Personally, I don't think tne OP was wrong to not give the name. She was clear from the outset that she just posted to get advice on the issue, not the word. But if you're looking for more entertainment, that's fair enough and your choice to move on, rather than criticising the OP.

GreatGardenstuff · 01/01/2025 19:53

If she asked me for an opinion I would have to say something like; “I’m not sure how that one will play out at school, whilst it’s original, you don’t want DC to be self-conscious, or even teased because of it. I like XYZ names much better, they are lovely, and still distinctive.”

SassK · 01/01/2025 19:52

romdowa · 01/01/2025 19:50

I'm on android and on the app there's no "see all " option. Its very frustrating

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I'm android too, I don't use the app though (I also found it very frustrating!).

housethatbuiltme · 01/01/2025 19:52

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:59

It’s not a ‘made up name’, it’s a word that you’d use, a bit like Integrity. That’s the closest I think I can get without saying what it is

A synonym or variant of Integrity so...

Honor
Honesty
Sincerity
Unity
Morality
Virtue
Nobility
Decency
Solidarity
Stable

To be fair historically a lot of these where not deemed weird, it use to be common to use unsubtle word virtues, some are still commonly used now in some cultures. Integrity in itself is a name with a history of use.

NoBodyIdRatherBe · 01/01/2025 19:51

ThatKhakiMoose · 01/01/2025 16:57

You described it as a name that's cruel. Hard to think what that might be, unless something like Hitler or Stalin!

I work with a child named Stalin. I cannot fathom what made his parents name him that.

Joelle84 · 01/01/2025 19:51

? Sincerity Smith

Bearbookagainandagain · 01/01/2025 19:50

Personally, I would find a way to tell her without being too direct. And try to find out where that name come from before saying anything, e.g. does it have any significant meaning, because that could mean changing your approach (maybe offering an alternative).

romdowa · 01/01/2025 19:50

SassK · 01/01/2025 19:49

You can click on the 'see all' section in the OP's post and see only their comments.

I agree tbf 🙈 how can you talk about a talking point when you don't know the point! 😂 Sorry OP, just my take.

I'm going to have a guess anyway - Virtue?

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I'm on android and on the app there's no "see all " option. Its very frustrating

Clafoutie · 01/01/2025 19:50

Eternity?

SassK · 01/01/2025 19:49

Ilikeadrink14 · 01/01/2025 19:13

I, like many others probably, plodded through this post because I was sure the poster would give the name eventually. She didn’t! I hope she is happy that she wasted so much of our time with such a pointless post. It was like getting to the last page in a book and finding someone had torn it out!
I am pretty easy-going, and it takes a lot to rile me, but this post has, with knobs on!
I have made a note of her name so I can avoid her posts in future!

You can click on the 'see all' section in the OP's post and see only their comments.

I agree tbf 🙈 how can you talk about a talking point when you don't know the point! 😂 Sorry OP, just my take.

I'm going to have a guess anyway - Virtue?

Brinkley22 · 01/01/2025 19:49

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 19:45

Because when I discussed baby names with my mum, she spared no second to turn her nose up at a name we’d loved for a long time, which was Alice. A perfectly normal name. I just didn’t want to hurt her feelings, but have had some good wording suggestions from people on here

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Exactly! I really didn’t like it when my mum put a downer on the names I had in mind for my little one. One of which was Alice funnily enough. I agree it can be hard to say you don’t like a name in a kind way - but you’ve had loads of great advice on here and if you say you love the other names, but think this one might be misunderstood, then I think that would work!

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 19:49

CrowleyKitten · 01/01/2025 19:44

Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery Pulsifer 😜

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I must admit some of these suggestions are top drawer

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Baconeggsandbeana · 01/01/2025 19:48

Of course you can say something gently if the child will be teased in the future.
You just need to plant a seed of doubt like 'oh that's unusual, will that name be likened to xyz or gosh that sounds like it could cause some teasing at school?'
Then it's up to them.

WoolySnail · 01/01/2025 19:46

CrowleyKitten · 01/01/2025 19:44

Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery Pulsifer 😜

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Witchfinder General, if you please 🫡

housethatbuiltme · 01/01/2025 19:46

slightlydistrac · 01/01/2025 16:37

We're just going to have to guess then, aren't we.

Grayvie?

You mean Graiveigh?

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 19:45

LoopyLooooo · 01/01/2025 19:33

This is quite ridiculous OP.

If for whatever reason it feels 'super special' to discuss baby names with your pregnant mate, why on earth wouldn't you tell her you hate it? 😳

It's all a nonsense.

Because when I discussed baby names with my mum, she spared no second to turn her nose up at a name we’d loved for a long time, which was Alice. A perfectly normal name. I just didn’t want to hurt her feelings, but have had some good wording suggestions from people on here

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Brinkley22 · 01/01/2025 19:44

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 19:27

I’ve made a note of your name so I can avoid your posts in future 😂

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Is it something like Chastity or Virginity or Serendipity? Although I actually quite like the latter now I write it down 😂

CrowleyKitten · 01/01/2025 19:44

AgathaLioness · 01/01/2025 17:04

There are lots of names similar to this - honesty, faith, serenity, honour etc etc

Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery Pulsifer 😜

Givemestrength1000 · 01/01/2025 19:41

LoudDenimEagle · 01/01/2025 19:35

My daughter is called Antigone. She has never been picked on and absolutely loves her name. She hates her middle name though which is more regular!

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Beautiful name!

oakleaffy · 01/01/2025 19:37

LoudDenimEagle · 01/01/2025 19:35

My daughter is called Antigone. She has never been picked on and absolutely loves her name. She hates her middle name though which is more regular!

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I bet people call her ''Anty-Gone'' though.

Friendofdennis · 01/01/2025 19:36

Authenticitie

Butchyrestingface · 01/01/2025 19:35

I think it IS U-Nee-K.

LoudDenimEagle · 01/01/2025 19:35

Jolietta · 01/01/2025 17:59

Antigone?

My daughter is called Antigone. She has never been picked on and absolutely loves her name. She hates her middle name though which is more regular!

EsmeSusanOgg · 01/01/2025 19:34

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:15

No! It’s not honour, charity, faith. It’s like Integrity.

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Audacious?

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