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Friends awful baby name

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:26

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

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OriginalUsername2 · 01/01/2025 20:26

@Ilikeadrink14 Press “see all” on OP’s posts at the beginning of a long thread, and read the last couple of posts. it saves a lot of time and in-thread confusion. Then you can go back and read through the whole thread if you still want to.

HugoYorway · 01/01/2025 20:26

Is it Magnanimity?

DogInATent · 01/01/2025 20:23

PeloMom · 01/01/2025 20:14

Virginity?

Chastity Carter, currently enjoying life as a lady of negotiable affection.

Butchyrestingface · 01/01/2025 20:23

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 01/01/2025 20:22

Oh yeah and won’t end up in the Daily Mail will it.

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Even if it Makes The Mail, how would OP's pal know which of her friends had sought advice from the good citizens of AIBU?

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 01/01/2025 20:22

WestwardHo1 · 01/01/2025 16:28

Quite. Come on OP, do the decent thing.

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Oh yeah and won’t end up in the Daily Mail will it.

PuppiesProzacProsecco · 01/01/2025 20:21

I vetoed a name by best friend picked for each of her children - I'm her BF: that's my job. If it's truly awful, tell her! At least ask her if she wants an honest opinion.

LoopyLooooo · 01/01/2025 20:20

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 19:45

Because when I discussed baby names with my mum, she spared no second to turn her nose up at a name we’d loved for a long time, which was Alice. A perfectly normal name. I just didn’t want to hurt her feelings, but have had some good wording suggestions from people on here

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I can only assume you're not very close to your friend.

If the name is as ridiculous as you say, then "Nah, not keen" would've been sufficient.

She'll no doubt have discussed the names with other friends/family, and I doubt they wouldn't say similar.

Dyra · 01/01/2025 20:17

Brinkley22 · 01/01/2025 19:49

Exactly! I really didn’t like it when my mum put a downer on the names I had in mind for my little one. One of which was Alice funnily enough. I agree it can be hard to say you don’t like a name in a kind way - but you’ve had loads of great advice on here and if you say you love the other names, but think this one might be misunderstood, then I think that would work!

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Apparently there's something about Alice and grandma's to be because mine did the exact same. However, she did come around to it a few weeks later (we were set on it as our girl name). Sure enough baby Alice was born a few months later, and Mum can't imagine her named anything more perfect.

Not read OP's posts yet, but I do wonder if the name in question is on par with Rae Farty.

HeroIsAGirlsName · 01/01/2025 20:15

Hero IS a girls name. I have one. She's reached practical adulthood and was teased once by one boy in year 7, and that was it. One lot of teasing in her whole life that she dealt with; and she pleased she has that name.

She's not traumatised by her name at all. It suits her. And it's a beautiful Shakespearean name.

To the posters on here who decided against it, I am sorry. It's a lovely name.

On other names, only names that would cause "universal disgust" can be refused by a registrar in England and Wales. You can call your baby Antibacterial Hand Gel if you like (for example), but it's likely the registrar will quibble over a Hitler or a Stalin. To be honest, a baby Trump would probably cause a long conversation when registering a baby nowadays 😆

How lovely we live in a country where we don't have a prescribed list of baby names 😁

OP, it will be fine. If the child doesn't like their name, they can be known by another name be change it later on. It's really not a big deal.

PeloMom · 01/01/2025 20:14

Virginity?

CrowleyKitten · 01/01/2025 20:12

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 01/01/2025 18:39

I find myself agog at some of the more 'normal' names these days, some people seem to be giving birth to their great grandparents, with their Ada and Esme type names. But that's just me, having grown up with those as 'old people' names, and I know I'll get used to them.

Just waiting to meet my first little Eglantina. It's not Eglantina, is it OP?

names are quite cyclical like that. what sounds like an old lady name to one generation won't be an old lady name to the following generation, as they won't know as many old people with those names.

Abitlosttoday · 01/01/2025 20:12

RogueRascal · 01/01/2025 16:34

Names have gotten crazy - had to keep a straight face on hearing one that sounds almost exactly like “Alien”

Is it 'Aileen'? My mum has a friend called Aileen. It always seems ridiculous to me.

SiobhanSharpe · 01/01/2025 20:07

oakleaffy · 01/01/2025 19:37

I bet people call her ''Anty-Gone'' though.

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In French it is pronounced Ontee-gonn.(did it for A level)

LuluBlakey1 · 01/01/2025 20:06

DeeSenCee
TrusstworthE
MawRalliTE
EweKnitEe

JohnofWessex · 01/01/2025 20:05

I once owned Jensen Buttons dads house.

Based in that example I wanted to call one of my children after the best thing I ever drove.

Sadly I dont have a child called 'Parsons and Marine Experimental Turbine Research Association' (Pametrada)

Builders of the turbines ion the 1955 Manxman

CrowleyKitten · 01/01/2025 20:03

SlightlyJaded · 01/01/2025 17:54

Compliment the nicer names a lot.

Is there some way you can lead her from 'Summerleigh-Bailee-D'vine Integrity' towards something with a similar meaning but less literal? So if it was integrity, you could suggest 'Honor' or 'Honora' as a middle name? Or Sade or Erica or one of the names whose origins are the word honorable'?

I just read that as "Erotica"! 😂

Royaly82 · 01/01/2025 20:03

I don't understand why you can't just tell her you don't like it and give her reasons why?

Butchyrestingface · 01/01/2025 20:01

I like Placenta. 🤞🏻

CrowleyKitten · 01/01/2025 20:01

FrangipaneMincies · 01/01/2025 17:50

It's not Elphaba, is it? Someone I know wanted to call her daughter that, from 'Wicked'

I think there's worse names. it's quite pretty. it's probably going to be quite popular soon though.

Mnetcurious · 01/01/2025 20:00

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 01/01/2025 18:39

I find myself agog at some of the more 'normal' names these days, some people seem to be giving birth to their great grandparents, with their Ada and Esme type names. But that's just me, having grown up with those as 'old people' names, and I know I'll get used to them.

Just waiting to meet my first little Eglantina. It's not Eglantina, is it OP?

Just wait until the current generation of children start calling their own kids Linda and Janet in 30 years’ time! Because to them, those names will be retro and a reminder of grandparents/great grandparents, just like the present-day crop of babies called Ivy and Mabel.

AsFunAsEnglishWeather · 01/01/2025 20:00

Maybe it's Homity (as in the pie)?

RightOnTheEdge · 01/01/2025 20:00

A lot of posters are saying Honesty.

My dd 14 has a friend called Honesty and nobody bullies her about it if it's that OP.

ThatKhakiMoose · 01/01/2025 19:59

housethatbuiltme · 01/01/2025 19:52

A synonym or variant of Integrity so...

Honor
Honesty
Sincerity
Unity
Morality
Virtue
Nobility
Decency
Solidarity
Stable

To be fair historically a lot of these where not deemed weird, it use to be common to use unsubtle word virtues, some are still commonly used now in some cultures. Integrity in itself is a name with a history of use.

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Oh, like Patience, and Constance. And Grace.

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 01/01/2025 19:59

Is it Continence? Please say it's Continence.

CarpeVitam · 01/01/2025 19:58

Medusa? 😁

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