Friends awful baby name

Fair enough; but it's their constantly ignored brother Dave that I feel most sorry for.

Intensity
intensiteigh

You say in your OP that the name you dislike is bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names - so WORSE than something that takes a word with negative connotations and gives it a "creative" spelling that does not derive from any traditional form of the word in any known language or culture. I think it's pretty straightforward to offer criticism of names that are also commonly-used English-language words with negative meanings - Tragedy, Felony, Rubella, etc. - however they are spelled.

Then you say it's like Integrity - a virtue name, as others have noted, although one that is unusual at the moment (and might have absurd connotations for South Park fans). Historically, socially, and linguistically, Integrity is a far cry from "Tragedeigh"!

Regardless of the name and why it's "bad", can you at least articulate TO YOUR FRIEND what you feel is wrong with the name/why YOU would not choose/use it? You've said that you value the trust she's placed in you by telling you the names she's thinking about; why not reciprocate that trust by being honest (although tactful) with her? If she comes back with "it's my husband's grandmother's name!" or "it's the name of someone I knew/met/read about in x context" or even "I love it/we chose it because of y ..." then you're in a better position to help her without having offended her.

I don't want to go down the American standards path if you've America!!!'d out of the blue - but if it is relevant (friend or baby's other parent is from the USA or has background/heritage there and/or they live there), specific names can feel quite a bit different even in different anglophone countries and there are some different historical and social considerations around naming in the USA specifically. But your friend should be able to keep all of that in mind and still consider your feedback -- maybe not as a "no" to the name but as a consideration that might move it down the list.

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I have triplets called Independence, Discovery and Potential. Everyone tells me what beautiful names they are.

I think you’re being harsh. Integriteigh is a lovely name 🥰. If she has twins, she can call the second Honesteigh.

As in honesty/having strong moral principles or as in being of sound construction? The former seems in keeping with various names like faith/charity etc I guess. The latter seems weird

Esteema
Truedence
Ernestine
Honestie
Justina
Prudence
Probitie
Rectitude
Unity
Honor
Faerlie
Ethica
Sincerity
Verity
Clemency

You could point out the attractiveness of the more likable names and suggest that a few are better as second names.
Oh, yes XXuglynameXX would be a great second or third name to XXgorgeousnameXX.

Principle
Morality
Ethical

It’s never inevitable that a child will get teased. It depends on how other children get raised.

Nonchalance... or Meh for short.

Ha ha! Or make up some obscure language and tell her that anyway. 😀

Every time I met or otherwise encountered Radiance, I would be constantly hearing inside my head...

"And how are we today, Sir? Radiant, Sir; Radiant!!"

An Australian Love Island type influencer has named her twins Locket and Poetry. People freaked out but it is what it is

I would say nothing negative over message tbh! Lots of people have strange baby name ideas whilst pg

Please don't take me back to the nightmare time when Ashley (and all the special variants of) Nicole ruled the land (US).

If I was going to choose that kind of name, instead of Faith, Hope and Charity I’d go for something like Practicality, Serendipity or Nonchalance.

I used to work in an aircraft hanger which had a Tannoy. One of the guys there was called Jim Deville and the other was Harry Cowey, so whenever they were called to the office it sounded like Ginger Bill and Hari Kari lol

The problem is that at least half of those sound like plausible model names for gas combi boilers.

Is it also a plant?

Is it Virtue?

Hymen Klitouris Jones is my guess .

Jimberleigh… Ha ha!

is it Lolita?

Intention that seems a good solid name, lol. Hmmm or maybe Radiance. Radiance Jones has a nice ring to it 😂

Working in customer services I've come across some weird names. GodsGift & Tuppence were the most unusual. Surnames now that's another level 😂

Is is Charisma?

Nah, you can't say anything op. Just keep praising the non-bonkers options.

Here are some alternatives to “integrity” that could work as a name:
1. Honor
2. Truth
3. Virtue
4. Grace
5. Noble
6. Faith
7. Justice
8. Credence
9. Valor
10. Verity

Each carries a sense of integrity while also feeling unique and name-worthy.

chat gpt…

is it virtue op? Cos you gotta do the right thing and tell her 😅

Oh I could just listen to that now.
I’m sniding off with YouTube. 🤣🤣