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Friends awful baby name

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ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:26

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

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MeTooOverHere · 10/01/2025 23:09

Orthenthisity?

OneZippyWasp · 10/01/2025 22:56

Baby will grow up and change their name by deed poll one day if it’s that bad.

Celebrities call their babies Apple, Tiger-Lily, Bear, Riot Rose and RZA Athelston.

Names like Emma and Jonathan are clearly not that interesting.

CeceliaImrie · 09/01/2025 22:54

@BBQPete I don't think posters were struggling with the concept I think the question of the name became so integral to everybody's answer it overtook the conversation and became a bit of a game.

I popped back on to see if we knew yet, justified fun buggering about trying!

Bloke58 · 08/01/2025 22:13

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 16:33

I can’t say the name just in case she sees it, it’s too obvious. I’m sorry! Hate being that person! It’s just outrageously bad.

If she sees this post she will know it's you anyway.

ChocolateAddictAlways · 07/01/2025 19:16

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:01

Oh no, think ‘Integrity’. That’s where this is going! I’m not badmouthing actual names!

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The only thing I can think of is ‘decency’ but I imagine that’s not it 😅

BBQPete · 07/01/2025 16:59

It's not pointless.

The OP was asking what others would do, if a good friend has told them one of the names they are considering is really, really 'out there' and the OP feels the child will get a lot of aggravation from if used.

We don't need to know the name (which is clearly going to be recognisable if the Mum2b or anyone else she has shared the name with, sees this thread).

OP just wants to know what others would do, in this position.

It's quite amazing how many posters are struggling with that concept.

MakeYourOwnMusicStartYourOwnDance · 07/01/2025 01:35

Utterly pointless thread, if you're not even going to say the name!
30 pages of presumably bollocks and people guessing 🙄
YABU, just because you don't like it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it.

Wannabeamummybad · 06/01/2025 23:59

ThisIcyHare · 01/01/2025 17:15

No! It’s not honour, charity, faith. It’s like Integrity.

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Dignity/Virtue/Honesty/Righteousness/Sincerity/Morality? 😅

MizzT · 06/01/2025 14:37

Like a lot of other ppl have said, without knowing the name we can’t individually give an opinion or advice. Plus now everyone is ITCHING to know.

However you can do exactly what you have done with us. Ask her if she has thought about how peers and adults would react and if it would cause her child any problems. Suggest she get a few other opinions from ppl who are known for given honest vs. appeasing opinions. There are a few things going on here - the name may not be that but one you are not used to, or yes, it may be that bad.

Someone else had the great idea of really emphasising the beautiful ones, saying less about the other ones and deflecting from this one. The comment on the peers bullying over this name could be said in passing but put the seed in her head that she doesn’t want her baby bullied by other kids over it.

Goodtogossip · 06/01/2025 14:11

Ask your friend if she's seriously considering naming her child 'the Name' if she says she is Laugh & say 'Yeah right, like you'd be that cruel' Seriously though if she's a close friend you could mention that she may like it but it's a bit too 'out there' & the child could be teased or bullied because of it. It also sets a precedence for any future children she may have. She'll have to think up another wacko name so her 1st one doesn't think her parents were punishing her for being born.
Let her know the names from her list you really like & maybe look up the meaning for them to help her decide.

Gardenservant · 06/01/2025 10:26

If your friend is discussing the names with you she presumably wants your opinion. Start by saying how much you like certain names and then say something like 'that name might cause some teasing at school'. That should put anyone off.

Tiredalwaystired · 06/01/2025 08:08

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 05/01/2025 14:54

This sounds like one of those occasions where someone has forgotten that they might be giving birth to a baby, but what they will actually end up with is a miserable 30 year old who has to contend with everyone looking at them and laughing. Kitten - dead cute for a toddling, curly-haired five year old but doesn't always sit so well on a mature woman who wants to be taken seriously (who will, actually, just change her name).

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Or just shorten it to Kit. .

SpringIscomingalso · 05/01/2025 19:18

Fidelity, Chastity, Purity, Virgin instead Virginia

SpringIscomingalso · 05/01/2025 19:17

We had Fidel Castro in my country so

SpringIscomingalso · 05/01/2025 19:16

I already gave you the name: is it Fidelity?

MaggieHM · 05/01/2025 18:56

Solidarity

HugoYorway · 05/01/2025 18:16

Kitten - dead cute for a toddling, curly-haired five year old No, it isn't.

hattie43 · 05/01/2025 17:47

Peregina

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 05/01/2025 14:54

BrummieLassie · 04/01/2025 23:09

My friend said she was calling her daughter Kitten, I said that the poor child would have the mickey taken out of her at school and would say things like "Here Kitty Kitty", so she fell out with me big time and hasn't spoken to me for 25 years.

This sounds like one of those occasions where someone has forgotten that they might be giving birth to a baby, but what they will actually end up with is a miserable 30 year old who has to contend with everyone looking at them and laughing. Kitten - dead cute for a toddling, curly-haired five year old but doesn't always sit so well on a mature woman who wants to be taken seriously (who will, actually, just change her name).

Ceecee2422 · 05/01/2025 14:44

Rosscameasdoody · 03/01/2025 15:57

I especially like Vomity !!

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Vomity Kumquat, I think that’s a winner!

HelmholtzWatson · 05/01/2025 06:02

Chastity is fine as names go - there are far worse "modern" names.

Rosasdaughter · 05/01/2025 02:16

Droopy
Slomit
Viral
Pimple

InterestedDad37 · 05/01/2025 01:24

Tillow4ever · 05/01/2025 01:17

@InterestedDad37 are you a Grey’s Anatomy fan?

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Nope 😃. Heard the word elsewhere 😃

Tillow4ever · 05/01/2025 01:17

InterestedDad37 · 04/01/2025 19:27

Vajayjay? 🤔

@InterestedDad37 are you a Grey’s Anatomy fan?

FizzyBisto · 04/01/2025 23:22

BrummieLassie · 04/01/2025 23:09

My friend said she was calling her daughter Kitten, I said that the poor child would have the mickey taken out of her at school and would say things like "Here Kitty Kitty", so she fell out with me big time and hasn't spoken to me for 25 years.

Wow! Classic case of shooting the messenger.

It's not even like Kitten is an unusual but realistic name; it's just not a name for a person. Kitty, maybe; but that's usually only a pet name for a normal name such as Katherine.