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Am I being too sensitive or would this bother you?

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Privateeye34 · 01/01/2025 14:06

My boyfriend of 1 year and I went to a little family gathering last night for the new year. I’m nervous of dogs and the dog kept coming over and sniffing round me (as dogs do). I said to my boyfriend about it and he said “that dog knows a bitch when he smells one”
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Maddy70 · 02/01/2025 08:45

He was joking...

ChippedIkeaFurniture · 02/01/2025 04:52

He would now be my ex-bf.

Ladybyrd · 02/01/2025 04:50

Grim

Pancakeflipper · 01/01/2025 23:03

That's horrid.

If it was a total.one off (not happened before?) Then I'd probably not breakup over it (unless a new relationship) but I'd be naking it clear it was not appropiate and that any repeat and it's over.

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Privateeye34 · 01/01/2025 23:00

healthybychristmas · 01/01/2025 16:45

Ugh he sounds horrible. I can't believe this is an otherwise normal, nice, respectful, polite, intelligent, happy guy.

I know :(

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healthybychristmas · 01/01/2025 16:45

Ugh he sounds horrible. I can't believe this is an otherwise normal, nice, respectful, polite, intelligent, happy guy.

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 01/01/2025 16:30

A horrible comment as its reducing you to "animal" status.

May be a joke, but a cruel joke.

Hoppinggreen · 01/01/2025 16:24

He called you a Bitch, unacceptable

JustSawJohnny · 01/01/2025 16:20

Privateeye34 · 01/01/2025 14:43

Sorry just to clarify he didn’t say it in front of everyone, just to me because I was trying to let him know the dog was making me nervous privately

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Apologies - I misread.

I would find this much easier to sallow, in fairness, but I would still tell him to watch his mouth.

DowntonCrabbie · 01/01/2025 15:08

StormingNorman · 01/01/2025 14:32

So he was joking and it landed badly. I could understand being pissed off for a minute but you need to let it go now.

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No she doesn't.

Runningoutofthyme · 01/01/2025 15:07

It’s a no from me

someone who makes jokes like that just wouldn’t be someone I’m compatible with

spingtime · 01/01/2025 15:02

I would have said yeah ill go sniff me a better dog.

villagecrafts · 01/01/2025 14:56

Privateeye34 · 01/01/2025 14:43

Sorry just to clarify he didn’t say it in front of everyone, just to me because I was trying to let him know the dog was making me nervous privately

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Well he wouldn't say it in front of everyone because then everyone would know he was an absolute shit.

You need to end it. 'Jokes' like that reveal the true person, and in this case, it's ugly and cruel. Also, jokes like that tend to escalate over time. Don't let that happen, there are better men out there.

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Privateeye34 · 01/01/2025 14:43

JustSawJohnny · 01/01/2025 14:38

The important thing here is that you didn't like it.

He needs to understand that you don't put up with those kind of 'jokes', especially when at your expense and made to a crowd, and that your boundary is firm on the matter.

It's really poor form to embarrass you like that in front of his family, OP.

Sorry just to clarify he didn’t say it in front of everyone, just to me because I was trying to let him know the dog was making me nervous privately

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JustSawJohnny · 01/01/2025 14:41

StormingNorman · 01/01/2025 14:32

So he was joking and it landed badly. I could understand being pissed off for a minute but you need to let it go now.

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Depends on the person and relationship though, doesn't it?

My DP's SOH is brutal, although he gleefully takes it back just as much, but if he dropped that on me in front of a group of people I didn't know I'd hand him his arse.

It does sound like this is out of character for him and that he was showing off at her expense.

JustSawJohnny · 01/01/2025 14:38

The important thing here is that you didn't like it.

He needs to understand that you don't put up with those kind of 'jokes', especially when at your expense and made to a crowd, and that your boundary is firm on the matter.

It's really poor form to embarrass you like that in front of his family, OP.

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Privateeye34 · 01/01/2025 14:36

StormingNorman · 01/01/2025 14:32

So he was joking and it landed badly. I could understand being pissed off for a minute but you need to let it go now.

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Yes but I would say he knows me well enough by now to get my humour

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StormingNorman · 01/01/2025 14:32

Privateeye34 · 01/01/2025 14:23

He did say it as if he expected me to laugh

So he was joking and it landed badly. I could understand being pissed off for a minute but you need to let it go now.

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Privateeye34 · 01/01/2025 14:30

He did just say it to me rrather than in front of the whole crowd but yeah I really didn’t like it. Now this morning he’s saying “oh you know I don’t really think that” etc etc

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comedycentral · 01/01/2025 14:28

A year in and the real him is really starting to show!

MiniPumpkin · 01/01/2025 14:28

That’s just vile and unnecessary

ShortyShorts · 01/01/2025 14:27

Privateeye34 · 01/01/2025 14:23

He did say it as if he expected me to laugh

And yet you've been together a whole year?

Why did he not know that his knuckle dragging misogynistic 'joke' wouldn't amuse you?

Gardeniamodenia · 01/01/2025 14:25

It’s only a joke if you and others find it funny. He’s shit. Get rid.

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Privateeye34 · 01/01/2025 14:23

He did say it as if he expected me to laugh

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Privateeye34 · 01/01/2025 14:23

I said I wasn’t happy with it and he said he was only joking

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