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Aibu to think skiing is not an essential skill!

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Clickoclock · 01/01/2025 01:45

My brother & his wife hate skiing but bring the kids once sometimes twice a year as they think it's an essential skill for their children to learn.. aibu to think this is ridiculous & it will never, ever come in useful in adult life!

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Craftymam · 01/01/2025 14:29

1dayatatime · 01/01/2025 12:02

@lillylallylu

"I think all ski resorts should have their own fracture clinic attached"

They usually do in the resort towns.

Why does anyone think it's a good idea or a life skill to take young children up a mountain in winter in the cold, put them on the slippy snowy slopes then strap slippy planks to their feet plus to add to the risk have random (often drunk usually male) middle aged adults come hurtling down the same slopes as the children.

I mean what could possibly go wrong.

You would get a lot more life skills for your children by joining the local Brownies / Cubs and joining a local team sport.

Also if it's a desire to look posh then you would be better off knowing how to both keep and ride a horse, shoot a gun and wear the right wellies.

Well a lot can go wrong. My sister lost her front tooth by a middle aged incompetent man.

She would still say it’s the best holidays she ever had and continues to go skiing to this day.

I was talking to my mum about it at Christmas and she was saying as two girls it was a fantastic opportunity to spend time with my autistic awkward dad who is brilliant but needs to be doing something or gets jittery. He wasn’t one for sitting.

It’s also great for sibling relationships. We had far less arguments skiing than on normal holidays where would be bicker.

It’s also just gorgeous scenery. There is nothing like standing on top of a mountain covered in snow with super fresh air to breathe and beaming sunshine.

The food always tastes incredible too. I’m not sure if that’s down to the excercise. To ski into a restaurant completely isolated next to frozen waterfalls and have someone throwing slabs of meat on a giant wood fired hot plate is quite something.

Or even just getting a Ritter bar and an orangina and sticking the orangina in a snow mound at bottom of mountain so when you get down again it pops and steams the fizziness of ice cold delight. These are my top childhood small moments of joy.

Plus you get spa and swim usually which is also incredible for wellbeing (hot/ cold therapy). You feel fantastic. It helps sleep and as someone who hated early mornings I would always be raring to go.

It is magical as a young child at night with the lights, and also great for older teens when they don’t really want to family holiday as much. It really is something special imo.

It is non negotiable for DP to learn so we can enjoy this together as a family. Him not skiing is probably doubling the price for a number of years so it’s going to be tricky but I have said it’s a top priority once littlest is 3 or so.

CrikeyMajikey · 01/01/2025 14:29

It’s obviously not. But it is.

cakeorwine · 01/01/2025 14:29

TooManyChristmasCards · 01/01/2025 14:20

It's nice to have basic skills when the school organises a ski trip, or be able to join in when your friends organise a skiing holiday.

Skiing is no longer a sign of wealth, everybody can go, it's not expensive. WHERE you go is the status symbol.

How are you defining "Not expensive" and "everyone can go"?

CluelessAsFuck · 01/01/2025 14:26

Unless you live in an igloo

TooManyChristmasCards · 01/01/2025 14:20

slightlydistrac · 01/01/2025 14:11

Skiing is not something I have needed to do so far.

It's nice to have basic skills when the school organises a ski trip, or be able to join in when your friends organise a skiing holiday.

Skiing is no longer a sign of wealth, everybody can go, it's not expensive. WHERE you go is the status symbol.

theduchessofspork · 01/01/2025 14:14

Clickoclock · 01/01/2025 14:08

Confused

She’s making the same cultural capital point I just did

theduchessofspork · 01/01/2025 14:13

It’s not an essential skill of course, but it comes with some cultural capital - rich/posh/well connected people ski, so if you can ski well it’s another way of inserting yourself in such circles. A bit like riding.

So I know what they mean

slightlydistrac · 01/01/2025 14:11

Skiing is not something I have needed to do so far.

TooManyChristmasCards · 01/01/2025 14:09

Clickoclock · 01/01/2025 14:02

We can bring our dc but dh & I have never been & don't have the inclination to learn plus we don't think it's essential our dc know & they have expressed no interest in learning!

what do the kids actually like?

If they enjoy it, it's good parenting. I don't love all the things my kids do, but it's not about me.

If the kids are miserable, then the parents are unreasonable.
If the kids love it, then it's a great holiday. You can have a great time in a ski resort without actually skiing yourself.

Either way, it's none of your business 😂

Clickoclock · 01/01/2025 14:08

WellsAndThistles · 01/01/2025 13:56

Guess it depends if the kids are called Gideon and Mungo or Jaxon and Mason.

Confused

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Midlifecareerchange · 01/01/2025 14:07

Certain social circles skiing seems to be 100% compulsory. Not mine but where I work

Craftymam · 01/01/2025 14:05

rookiemere · 01/01/2025 08:46

🤣

Honestly if we don’t go in 2026 then I think I will have to actually look at something like this!

Clickoclock · 01/01/2025 14:02

Treblechef · 01/01/2025 13:07

Are you maybe a bit jealous that his children are learning a skill like skiing and yours aren't?

We can bring our dc but dh & I have never been & don't have the inclination to learn plus we don't think it's essential our dc know & they have expressed no interest in learning!

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LambTofu · 01/01/2025 13:59

TheKeatingFive · 01/01/2025 13:54

It's an awful phrase and says a lot about how the user values other people.

It's reality

WellsAndThistles · 01/01/2025 13:56

Guess it depends if the kids are called Gideon and Mungo or Jaxon and Mason.

sometimesmovingforwards · 01/01/2025 13:55

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 01/01/2025 13:45

@sometimesmovingforwards I want them to be able to take part on skiing holidays with friends / future partners' families if asked.

Ok thanks for letting me know, but seeing as they’re your kids and not mine I’m pretty relaxed about the whole thing really. 👍

TheKeatingFive · 01/01/2025 13:54

LambTofu · 01/01/2025 13:50

Marrying up and down will always exist

It's an awful phrase and says a lot about how the user values other people.

LambTofu · 01/01/2025 13:50

TheKeatingFive · 01/01/2025 09:51

And imagine talking about 'marrying down' in 2025 🙄

Marrying up and down will always exist

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 01/01/2025 13:45

@sometimesmovingforwards I want them to be able to take part on skiing holidays with friends / future partners' families if asked.

ViolinsPlayGentlyOn · 01/01/2025 13:32

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 01/01/2025 13:29

It depends what circles you move in and want your children to feel comfortable in.

I consider learning to ski essential for the lives I want my children to be able to lead.

You want them all to be ski instructors?

sometimesmovingforwards · 01/01/2025 13:32

BeeLight · 01/01/2025 07:12

Being devil’s advocate, it’s probably in the same ‘recreationally fun’ category as swimming. Mners like to behave as if swimming is a crucial safety-related life skill, but the fact is that most people who drown can swim, and that doesn’t save them. Swimming is likely to be a skill mostly used on holiday/for recreation, in reality.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

sometimesmovingforwards · 01/01/2025 13:30

Live on or close to a big snowy mountain... very useful life skill.
Live in Bromley... completely non-essential.

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 01/01/2025 13:29

It depends what circles you move in and want your children to feel comfortable in.

I consider learning to ski essential for the lives I want my children to be able to lead.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 01/01/2025 13:28

Longma · 01/01/2025 12:45

We've got a private 3 hour lesson - cheapest way for the three of us to do it together. The instructor called yesterday and he seems lovely - he seemed very excited that we were complete beginners despite being older. Thing he likes the idea of the challenge 😝

That’s what we did too - the 4 of us plus a friend of dd1. It worked very well.

vivainsomnia · 01/01/2025 13:23

Skiing is like riding a bike or swimming. So much easier to learn at an earlier age. As an adult, it's scary and takes much longer.

Not everyone will end up going on ski trips, but if you happen to make friends with people who do, you'll be grateful you're not a novice if you want to join them and they're up to the harder pistes.