Celebrating In laws special birthday, cooked them a late breakfast. Unannounced guests (and close family) arrived during breakfast and told in-laws they were being taken to a cafe for ?brunch ?coffee.. Idk as not party to the conversation.
Could they hurry up as table booking within next 30mins.
There was no direct conversation with me or DH to where they were going so we assumed we weren't invited (fair enough).
We sat down with DC and said cheery goodbye, c u later, have fun etc and then birthday in law got upset and said, why aren't you coming...."well we're not invited and don't know where you are going" also DC and me still in PJs..
Birthday in-law says, of course you are invited we do stuff as a group here...
So we race about to get ready, struggle with DC as they/me weren't prepared
I still don't know if we were invited, or gatecrashed, but surely it's not unreasonable to have a little warning when they know we have young children to organise.
Just feel like we were either bullied by exclusion or disrespected by no warning .
I really don't understand it.
Aibu unreasonable to think someone could have prewarned us, so we could have done a quicker brekkie, and prepared DC/ourselves, or should I just suck it up as a surprise for the in-laws and it's not about us.