To complain about a GP calling me this?

I am a mum to small kids and spend my life saying good girl / boy ! Occasionally it slips out of my mouth at work when talking to secondary age kids as a habit , I’ve only had to apologise once and thankfully the teen in question accepted my explanation that I have small kids and had said it a thousand times over the weekend with potty training and was quiet tired , so it just slipped out

could the doctor have small kids and be tired ?
personally I feel complaints should be saved for transgressions that are worth spoiling someone’s day over

Practice managers may deal with complaints but it is the GP partners (or a higher health authority body in some cases) that is actually responsible for the content of the response. And professionally responsibly for any inadequacies or misconduct discovered. The practice manager is rarely a partner and usually an employed office manager basically. If not happy with the response the complaint can be taken to a higher level or to the General Medical Council. Edit: or both.

Please stop this absolte rubbish.
An older Doctor empathising with you & you've taking this as an insult. He sounds like a lovely GP

That is why it is important for the op to say where she was being examined but op is deliberately evading the question.

Really? You think a doctor doing a prostate examination or other intimate examination would call the man a good lad? I mean: doctor has his latex gloves on and his finger up the man's arse.... and calls him a good boy?

It's a completely different scenario to a football manager discussing the players. Obviously.

OP it's possible it was completely innocent, in which case the doctor would want to know he behaved inappropriately and made you uncomfortable. Or it wasn't, in which case a record of his behaviour needs to be kept. Please don't feel like it's too minor to complain about.

She is suggesting it was said in a sexual way whilst being examined in a vulnerable position but won't say what. Not sure why the op even asked the question it is quite telling that the op was always going to complain.
I think people are getting fed up with people complaining about absolutely everything and getting offended by everything. At the end of the day Gp's are human too.

The type of examination doesn't change the fact that the comment was at a minimum patronising/condescending and sexist. The exact context may make the comment worse, but there's no obligation on the Op to be specific about the exact type of examination.

@Bellyblueboy I had a doctor outright call me "fat." Judging by the responses in this thread, some people would have collapsed on the floor if they heard that. But I have had a different upbringing, so my thought was "well yes, I am indeed fat, so what he's saying is correct."

I'd have taken it as a reassuring, kind remark, especially if the examination was an uncomfortable one.
I don't spend my life looking to be offended. What a waste of your doctors surgery's time.

@Catfox1 To me it reads as though the OP thought it was a sexual advance (may not be the right term but that’s how it’s coming across) in which case a complaint would be justified.

Yes, men in clubs and on dating apps always make sexual advances by starting the conversation with "good girl." It has a positive effect every time.

Which is why this probably wasn’t any kind of intimate examination.

The professionally offended strike again 🤦‍♀️

So have I. Doesn't mean this shouldn't be reported though. I'm glad the OP is going to say something.

Pretty certain not, and in any case the OP obtusely isnt saying what the mysterious examination was. Could have been an ingrown toenail.

This 👆 A formal complaint is OTT for this. Think about the effect of the human being at the other end.

I am so sorry. Your GP should not be calling you offensive names. They should treating you with professionalism and dignity.

I hope you have changed practices at least, if you didn’t complain.

I work with a lot of peoples on very challenging circumstances - I have never addressed a colleague or client in any way which could cause offence. There is simply no excuse.

You seem to think the GP will GAF. He's likely a partner i.e. owner. The practice manager will just write a response, tell him about it, he'll laugh, she'll laugh and if you're lucky it'll get stuck on a record that CQC will have a laugh at if they bother to even open the complaints log.

I thought all GPs had to have another person in the room when carrying out intimate examinations, to protect themselves as well as patients.

I had a breast examination by a female GP and she asked another female staff member to be present.

That would make me puke. I’m bolshy so I would have asked him why he uses that term with patients and do the male patients being called good boy accept that?

Bad but outing. .

How old was is? And how old are you? I'm just wondering if he was viewing you as somebody similar to his daughter.

Don’t send it as a formal complaint until you’ve taken a pause and decided that it’s a really good use of at least 8 hours of GP practise time to deal with your complaint.

You might feel it merits that.

Or you might feel that some informal feedback might be more balanced.

Or you might decide that viewing it in the context of several commenters who could see themselves making the same comment that it’s not actually a big deal.

Or that you feel vulnerable during examinations and may benefit from requesting a chaperone in future.

That’s awful. By your GP? What did he/she call you?

It's not a hill anyone would die on. It's a straightforward situation where the GP surgery will deal with the complaint/feedback in their normal way.

Oh fucking hell.

I have been called more “ offensive “ stuff than this. 🙄