To complain about a GP calling me this?

When I read your original O.P I instantly assumed it was in a sexual tone. If it made you feel uncomfortable I would definitely say something. It is was intentional on his part then it's a very sly way of exerting his power on you. If it was unintentional/slip of the tongue/he was being careless, then you are helping both others and him not to be in that situation again. Ignore posters saying you are being sensitive etc.

I would find that patronising at best, and sleazy at worst, depending on the situation and tone of voice.

Absolutely this. I’m shocked at the replies on this thread. If we don’t complain about this kind of thing, when the fuck will it end?!

Unless of course he’s a completely balanced and fair GP and doles out ‘good boy’ with equal fervour during intimate examinations and the like.

I would be interested in understanding the life experiences of the people who think this is okay.

have they become decentised to sexism and misogyny? Do they raise their daughters to think this is okay?

do they manage women - do they tell them to ignore and tolerate and excuse casual sexism in the workplace? Do they expect their daughter in law to have dinner on the table for their sons? Do they say women make awful managers because they are bitches? Do they judge working mothers? Are child free career women vapid lonely bitches who can’t get a man?

Get a grip

WTF??
If you don't like the way someone addresses you then say so at the time. Otherwise let it go.

@lolit You mean he smiled?! That's called trying to put you at ease! 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🙄

This comment has reminded me that good girl can actually be sexual harassment in the workplace albeit that specific judgment did have additional details such as social media photos or something along those lines. I’d have to look it up.

So... you're saying he spoke to the OP like he would his dog? Well that's so much better 🤨

I am a GP and would never say good girl to anyone older than about 5… especially after and examination.. may say “well done” or “it’s a horrible thing to have done”.. kind of acknowledging distress…. I am 60 and quite old and even when training that sort comment looked down on.
i have been same practice 20 years … i know my patients very well .
I would definitely flag with practice manager
I am sorry that this happened.

Someone didn’t get the grades to do medicine.

And it's entirely up to you if that bothers you and if you want to say something. Your choice.

This has bothered the OP - understandably - and it's her choice if she wants to say something.

really can't agree @Mooshroo

It's not anger, it's certainly not harmless, it's patronising and condescending and this is the 21st century fgs

Have a read, maybe change your mind?

Put them in their place all the time, each time. I don't understand the UK's reverence towards doctors, never will. Every time a GP or any other doctor tries to call me by first name, I demand to know their first name and when they say 'my name is Dr so and so' I always say 'no, you addressed me by my first name, and I shall be addressing you the same'. GPs should not get respect, they should earn it. Definitely follow up - say 'I was too shocked to say anything at the time, how rude it was, so now I am drawing your attention to it'. It is this misplaced admiration that makes women consent to intimate examination when they came with an ear/throat/etc. complaint.

Some nurses are equally mad - one, when saying hello to an elderly relative I accompanied to hospital, started calling her 'dear' and even stroking her cheek!!!! I was so shocked - I never said anything and regret it now, but I was genuinely speechless.

The OP should not feel embarrassed for a man's misogyny.

It’s not a phrase it’s a term. It’s also often used by dog owners and vets. Maybe he drifted off and was thinking about walking his dog. Less dramatic. Less creepy.

You shouldve said something at the time, youre now churning it over abd its getting bigger. At my surgery GPs always ask for a chaperone - didnt yours

I have never heard a medical professional saying that. It's so patronising and sexist. Imagine him saying 'good boy' to a grown adult man. It simply would not happen.

I think it's totally reasonable to say to the manager by email that isn't an appropriate phrase and that they could do with some equalities training. The practice manager needs to know and so does the doctor who said it. It's bad form and unprofessional.

If it's feeling to you like it was sexual then that's even more serious. And an official complaint should raised with the practice, rather than just a feedback email.

I'm so sorry you had to experience that. X

Please don't embarrass yourself.... Or him.

How would anyone know if it’s a pattern of behaviour if nobody reports it?

I think you’d have to be there to make a call on it. If he’s 64, and you’re 21 I can understand why he said good girl. If you’re 52, it’s a bit odd. Bit condescending but perhaps he was trying to put you at ease.

I handed my grandfather a cup of tea and some shortbread today, he said ‘oooh she’s a good girl’. I’m 44. I know it’s patronising but hey-ho.

Only you can say whether it was pervy or not, if he was examining your tonsils, I’m guessing he probably wasn’t.

It’s not something I would complain about, but if he made you feel uneasy I wouldn’t see him again.

I absolutely agree with this.

Urrgh.