To complain about a GP calling me this?

I honestly have no idea, and I find it really baffling.

And women cry rape all the time. And we should give pedophibes the benefit of the doubt? Because these accusations can impact on men - and we wouldn’t want that!

He's probably a partner i.e. owner so he's judge and jury. He's not going to change the habit of a lifetime is he.

Well of course op claims it was said in a sexual way.

For him to understand this is inappropriate and stop?

Eww that’s not ok.
That would really make me feel uneasy in that situation.
YANBU

What do you want? Have him struck off? Admonished?

OP - youre making vague statements and when repeatedly asked for context / clarification you’re just adding more layers of ambiguity

so my conclusion is that this “reaching” is exactly what you’re looking for.

either give necessary details or a. Wor you’re going to get a whole range of scenarios envisaged.

… but this was a male GP. During an examination. Said in a sexual way. Surely you understand the difference?

A relative of mine in NHS management always welcomes complaints. Without them, it’s really difficult to sack crap or dangerous staff. If he’s been creepy to you, he’ll have been creepy to other patients and probably other staff as well.

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/calling-women-good-girl-workplace-26686881.amp

for those interested

OP you said it was an examination and he smiled and said good girl in a sexual way?

I am assuming that it was maybe a smear or you were in a state of undress - you obviously feel uncomfortable and upset that you made a thread about it so you should report it to the practice manager.

Just to say that you can ask the Surgery to put a note on your file that you only want to see female practitioners in future ( or at least you can at my Surgery) or if they won’t do that always request a chaperone at any future appointments.

She won’t say. She’s come on a forum to ask opinions on whether to make a complaint about a medical professional without giving the most important bit of context.

hang on - catching up here. So am I right about this:

An older male GP, old enough to be your father, was giving you an intimate physical examination, and said to you 'good girl'?

??????

what the actual ...

It is not patronising. It is totally sexual. It is what guys say to women when the woman is being compliant sexually. It can be a turn-on between two perfectly happily consenting people in a sexual context. But for a male GP to say that to a female patient is super creepy, in my humble o.

I personally wouldn't complain, though, as there is a slim chance he didn't know it was bad, if he's pretty old/has led a closeted life.

But I so very much would not be going to him again.

No wonder people are leaving healthcare professions in droves. It wouldn't even occur to me to make a complaint about this.

Did you miss that the doctor (not vet) said ‘good girl’ (to an adult human, not a dog) in a sexual way? Whilst examining her?

Why do some women make excuses for men and try to rationalise their misogynistic behaviour?

This time last year my (female) GP said I was a good girl and offered me a sticker for bringing my cholesterol down. It was funny, not offensive.

How exactly were you in a vulnerable position, op?
If it was an intimate examination you’d have had a chaperone in the room, surely?
Are you trying to suggest you felt he might attack you?!

Oh, give over 🙄

You don’t request a chaperone in case the GP says something weird! Who would anticipate that?

Well yes my follow up comment does mention if in a gynecologist setting or similar that it would change things.

Your quoted article is an article about an MN post.

“Based on thematic analysis of discussion on Mumsnet”

…Deja vu?

fabulous

My gp says some right random things but I think its more a language thing as he's not English. Also it could be he's been dealing with children all day and it literally just slipped out. I'm sure we've all said thing and thought wtf straight after.

I had a painful steroid injection in my feet and was warned before about how painful it would be.

I was really nervous about it and the doctor giving the injection knew that I already suffer from severe anxiety and had been dreading having it done.

I was absolutely fine in the end but afterwards my doctor patted me on the arm in a comforting way and said “well done, good girl I’m proud of you for getting through that” I’m 40 years old and wasn’t offended, I laughed and asked if I could have a sticker next time or a lollipop. We both laughed at that.

The difference is my doctor was a woman and I was acting like a bit of big baby 😂.

If you were uncomfortable OP and felt like it was said in a creepy way to you then that’s completely different. I think you should have included in your OP you felt it was said in a pervy tone, there is a difference from feeling you’ve been patronised or violated.
Most women recognise when men say something with a sexual undertone and the fact you were having an intimate examination means it was highly inappropriate.
I would mention it if it happened to me, I often get a survey from the NHS about the care I’ve received and I’d include in that. It happens too many times where women are too scared of not being taken seriously in these situations and the offender gets away with it and continues, often the more they get away with it the more the behaviour escalates.

I think it’s important that women flag up any inappropriate behaviour right from the beginning and don’t just try to shrug it off. It might just be a comment made to them but the next woman could end up being treated much worse.

ugh. I HATE the word Panties.
it always sounds so pervy!