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Christmas Gift Etiquette

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DefyingGravitea · 31/12/2024 19:01

AIBU? We spent Xmas with my in laws this year but sent my brothers children their gifts in the post. I know they’ve received them. But haven’t received a single text or call to say thank you! I’m petty enough to bring it up but want some reassurance I’m not being sensitive and not saying thank you is rude! (Gifts were over £50 each!)

where have manners gone!

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Treblechef · 31/12/2024 20:06

DefyingGravitea · 31/12/2024 19:48

I was petty and asked and he said they received them but had got so many from so many people so didn’t send thank yous?!?!

How rude. I wouldn’t bother in future.

Optigan · 31/12/2024 20:01

DefyingGravitea · 31/12/2024 19:47

The kids are 10 and 12 so perhaps too old for making me a card??

In my day, as soon as one had learned to write, the done thing was to sit down and pen a proper letter, including courteous enquiries after Auntie Maureen's health, a cheerful overview of one's own Christmas doings, and, of course, enthusiastic thanks for the gift.

If 10 and 12 year olds can't sign their name to a 'thanks' card and address an envelope, it's a poor show.

RandomUsernameHere · 31/12/2024 19:51

That is so rude. Your brother should have sent a quick thank you message as soon as the gifts were received and also got the children to thank you as well. I wouldn't be sending gifts again!

PotatoBreadForTheWin · 31/12/2024 19:49

Oh well they won't miss them next year then will they

DarkAndTwisties · 31/12/2024 19:49

DefyingGravitea · 31/12/2024 19:48

I was petty and asked and he said they received them but had got so many from so many people so didn’t send thank yous?!?!

Lazy

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DefyingGravitea · 31/12/2024 19:48

I was petty and asked and he said they received them but had got so many from so many people so didn’t send thank yous?!?!

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DefyingGravitea · 31/12/2024 19:47

The kids are 10 and 12 so perhaps too old for making me a card??

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solopanda · 31/12/2024 19:38

My child is writing one thank you a day

Zanatdy · 31/12/2024 19:37

I know some people send letters, but the majority would message. I text everyone on Christmas Day usually, one exception for one friend who phoned boxing day morning to thank me for her gift. When mine were little I’d send a photo of them holding it. Doesn’t take much time to send a quick thank you. It can always be followed up with a letter too.

ILoveAnnaQuay · 31/12/2024 19:36

It's too early. I would allow another week.

Optigan · 31/12/2024 19:35

It would take two minutes to send a 'thank you' text. Unless there's been a genuine emergency, there should have been time to thank you. It could be that an actual letter is on its way to you, I suppose - let's hope so.

Irridescantshimmmer · 31/12/2024 19:34

A txt or a thak you card shoud r the least you should expect.

Tia86 · 31/12/2024 19:34

I get my children to make thank you cards. This happens towards the end of the holidays as the festive activities end so we haven't done all of ours yet. I do this as I think it's nicer than a parent texting thanks.

Completelyjo · 31/12/2024 19:31

What age are the kids? Mine are young and open their presents over several days because once you factor in all the people who buy for them it’s just too much for them to do it in one day.
If this is a once off I wouldn’t go all guns blazing just yet.

PinkyBlueMe · 31/12/2024 19:27

I think it's early. A lot of people address Thank Yous in new year. Also, a lot of people are currently unwell. Hopefully you'll hear soon.

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