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Friend still hasn't thanked me for her kids Xmas pressies

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Immo8 · 31/12/2024 14:01

Been friends since we were 11, we are each other's oldest friends. Both 34, she has an 8 & 3 year old with hubby. I don't have kids through choice and also happily married. We live round the corner from each other (3 min drive/10 min walk) and have done since her kids were born.

We stopped doing presents for each other a long time ago, but I've always got her kids something to open. Nothing too extreme, £20 each type of thing and do a Xmas card. This year they were abroad for Xmas so I dropped off the presents a few days before so they could open either before or take with. That was on the 19th Dec and I've not heard a peep since. No card either (not massively bothered by that though). I sent a text the morning of their hols and said 'Have a lovely holiday' etc but it's not even been read, let alone a response or a thank you for the kids gifts.

They have been home now for 5 days and I've still not heard a word. I've seen her holiday pics all over FB. I'm now feeling a bit miffed, but need to be told if I'm being unreasonable in thinking this. After all, I'm aware I don't have kids and her saying thanks to me etc may not be high up on her list of 'to do's'.

Do I say anything or just stop sending gifts from now on?

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TheThreeMiracles · 31/12/2024 14:04

I completely get where you are coming from, however I haven't said thank you to people for my kids gifts yet ( I've been really unwell to be fair ) mine usually do a thank you card maybe your friends doing thank you cards? Does she normally thank you over message card gave to face etc ? Maybe you could send a text asking if they liked their presents ? X

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 31/12/2024 14:03

Give her a chance. My kids haven't done their than yous yet, that is tomorrows joyous task

LadyGAgain · 31/12/2024 14:03

It's a week. Speaking as an exhausted parent who has yet to do the formal thank you's, I've enjoyed a few days of PJ's and telly. All gifts will be thanked and acknowledged. We are grateful as I am sure your friend is too.