Pregnant women contribute same £ to hen do

I’ve never paid a service charge for drinks.

Split the supermarket bill into food and soft drinks and alcohol and exclude anyone not drinking from the alcohol bit. I wouldn’t expect to be subsidised by people not drinking alcohol.

Surely though you would add a service charge on all the drinks?

I mean yes if the drinkers were paying
A+SC = T
I should pay
SD+SC = T
Not just SD

But A+SC is still going to equal more than SD+SC if SC is the same in both and A is more than SD?

A = Alcohol
SD = Soft drink
SC = Service charge
T= total

If there's a supermarket order then am I right in thinking it'll be a private thing, as in not out out?
If you're out out and the pregnant ladies will be drinking mocktails then split it evenly but if it's at someone's home or something then just separate the drinks split from the food split.
Basically, it depends what the pregnant women will be drinking!

This would drive me insane, just tell everyone to bring their own.

From this thread it's obvious that other people are likely to want to join the non-drinking crew even if not pregnant, and even if you ask everyone they're going to forget/change their mind/expect you to know what they wanted. And even after all that, you somehow have to get everyone's preferred alcohol. Which is fine when it's red wine or something, not so much when it's the one person who wants a niche flavoured cider and claims all the bottles as theirs and falls out with someone else who wants one but didn't think to ask.

And rely on it actually being delivered. Far too much hassle.

I don't drink alcohol at all, why should I pay for somebody else to??

I thinks shes talking about the supermarket shop, not rounds in bars.

A kitty for the night out seems bizarre unless you are all drinking the same drinks. If you are stopping in a house for a weekend I understand the food order bill and drinks. Not for the non drinkers though they should be food only. Unless this is what everyone wants I dont understand why people arn't just told to bring their own drinks. I hate things like this its just over management by the organiser. I wouldnt want to be responsible for going back to the bar every 2 mins somone wants a drink either. If you want to do group shots or bubbly as 1st drink maybe just have a very small kitty for that.

Agree with others you need a separate bill for alcohol and food shopping. Anyone who wants to complain is a CF to be honest.

Yes, split alcohol amongst drinkers and food amongst everyone. When I’ve been on weekends away with friends who are non-drinkers, we’ve always done it this way and works fine.

How come you are charging people for a hen do? If you are having it at home do you not cover it? Seems odd, it's just a party, you wouldn't charge your mates for dinner. Just ask them all to bring a bottle and they can chip in fur a pizza or whatever.

I don't think it's fair to make people pay for something they clearly aren't going to consume. If I were pregnant, had to pay and had to watch all my friends get drunk, I'd rather not go.
I would just be upfront about it and say this is the plan. I can't see why anyone would have a problem with it.

Definitely split food between all and alcohol just between those drinking.

Calculate the booze separately and divide it between the drinkers.

But why should they expect non-drinkers to subsidise them?

this is a wierd question - why should non drinkers pay for booze?

Is the bride paying? If the bride is being covered/subsidised don't forget to include the pregnant ones in that.

Definitely! I would feel really taken advantage of if I found out I'd paid for everyone else to get drunk.

Like someone said - divide the food and soft drinks then separately divide the alcohol.
Just place two distinct orders to make it easier!

I’m pregnant and I was just out for a meal out for an occasion the other night. We split the bill and I couldn’t help but be irritated at the amount I spent on other peoples alcohol. People were ordering 50 euro bottles of wine and I ended up spending 40 on alcohol that I drank none of. I sucked it up because it was a special occasion and I didn’t want to make a big deal but I will say it was very annoying. I wouldn’t expect people who aren’t drinking to foot the alcohol bill, it’s not really fair.

Why would anyone be put out that non drinkers aren’t subsidising their booze?

Ever occurred to you that you might be being a bit of a CF by getting all the drinkers to subsidise your soft drinks? Once you add in service charge, a Diet Coke could easily be up to a fiver depending where you go.

I would…

Split accommodation, food and other non-alcohol costs between you all.

Then split the alcohol costs between the drinkers and add to the above costs.

Explain this to the pregnant women, and ask them to bring along any alcohol-free alternatives such as zero beers, nosecco etc. Not everyone is comfortable with these so they are best left to organise amongst themselves.

If they were not pregnant, then you would need to buy more booze, so the cost would be exactly the same surely. So no-one is paying more because they are not drinking.

Yes.

One for drinkers, one for non-drinkers. Easy.