Pregnant women contribute same £ to hen do

Non alcoholic drinks can be as much as alcoholic ones when you're out out. Supermarket less so, but unless they're drinking tap water, you still need to budget something.

That’s an arse ache if you’re travelling by public transport or relying on a lift in a full car. And you miss out on the 25% off six bottles most supermarkets offer.

Send anyone who complains some links to the substantial evidence of harm caused by alcohol to foetuses, and thank them for the part they’re playing in supporting other women to avoid this.

Having done several weekends away over the years, food and soft drinks get bought and split evenly between us all, and everyone brings their own alcohol because most us drink something different, and some more than others. That would make more sense to me.

Why would they be annoyed about paying for their own drink?

Or that not drinking alcohol would out them anyway?

Depending on how expensive this hen weekend the problem is if you offer a non alcohol price for the pregnant ladies then you have to be prepared that some others might say they want to join that kitty instead to save money etc

What makes you think the group don't know there are pregnant ?

The naked total sense

for the main budget, I agree, do two shops (either put the alcohol behind a divider if buying in person or do two deliveries to make it easier), then divide alcohol by everyone who is drinking and add that on to their amount. But definitely check that everyone who you assume is going to drink does want to. They might normally be a 'booze hound' but could be wanting to not drink or cut back for a number of reasons.

I would ask if people want to do a kitty or not for the night out. Not everyone drinks the same type (i.e. price) of drinks, as often, or at the same speed as each other so a kitty is just asking for complications. Not to mention what happens if the kitty owner loses their purse/phone/disappears!

I don't know why a pp has assumed that buying their own drinks will mean everyone goes up at the same time and queues individually in a line - the whole point is people drink at different speeds so will be going up at different times, just like a normal night out. Unless you are insisting that everyone goes to the loo as a group outing and nobody is allowed to go home early even if they're pregnant and tired or drink too much and get ill, and nobody is allowed a smoke/vape break, then the whole group aren't going to stick together like lemmings the whole night. Even if you had a kitty you'd still have at least 3 or 4 people going up each time to help carry the drinks. Unless everyone wants a kitty just let them buy their own drinks when they want.

We go in holiday with several families - 2 people are teetotal. We buy alcohol separately or work it out separately.
So say shop is £300 of which £100 is booze and there are 6 adults we divide £200 by 6 peeps and £100 by 4 peeps.
The alcohol REALLY adds up.

Just do bring your own booze?

It's a bit risky as you risk outing someone's pregnancy

I don’t think anyone would be put out that they are paying more for booze vs a pregnant woman who isn’t drinking it.
And if they are, I think they’d be a bit of a dick to be honest! I’d never expect a pregnant person to pay for my alcohol. I don’t think they’d have a leg to stand on.
I think it is normal practice OP, my friendship group definitely do it this way!

Well done OP for thinking about this in advance and coming up with a fair solution.

Alcohol is expensive. As I get older many friends don't really drink anymore so if we are out for meal etc we always ask for our drinks bill separate to our food bill. Never been an issue not sure why someone drinking alcohol would expect a non drinker to fund that.

I went on a hen heavily pregnant. The organiser made a lot of effort to buy alcohol free drinks and other treats I would like (she asked me in advance) to make up for the money spent on alcohol

Get everyone to bring their own drinks!!!!

I was going to say something similar, @wantnoscrubs have a look at the prices of AF gin / wine/ rum / beer . It can cost the same if not more than alcohol.
So in theory you could actually need them to contribute more £s

Yes, sounds good.

I think it would be crazy that your friends who are drinking would be pissed off because they have to pay more than the pregnant few. X

I'd agree with this too. Unless everyone drinking the alcohol is happy to go in rounds of the same drinks. Which is probably unlikely.

It is, of course, possible that one of the booze hounds will be joining the currently-pregnant ladies in their sobriety, so you might need to be ready for the alcohol consumption to change when it comes to it.

I can see it causing arguments or at the least friction when the kitty runs out and Joan is sat drinking Aperol Spritz at £15 a drink and Mary is on the single cheap vodka Lemonade! If everyone drinks the same ie white wine then maybe do enough for the first few bottles.

the pregnant ladies should absolutely not be paying the same as the drinkers. even on your nights out where the pregnant ladies might want mocktails, they will be drinking significantly less than those who are drinking alcohol