It's too late, right?

Absolutely not too late at all. Had my first child at 41 (almost 42), considering trying for a second. Lots of friends have kids older than mine of course but I feel like it's given me the opportunity to learn from them and I feel much more chilled as a parent having done so....a lot less beating myself up about stuff as I saw them do that and felt it was undeserved and they were doing an amazing job, so I tell myself the same.

If you decide to go for it, good luck x

Maybe adopt a couple of kids!

Well I think you're too old and I also think you're husband is way too old...but it's none of my business.

I met my husband age 24, married age 34, first child I was 38 and second age 41. I believe in what’s for you won’t go by you, do what’s right for you and your husband.

I had my youngest at 42 and my husband was 48. He’s just turned 12.
Its not too late for you, if that’s what you want

To be fair you sound like you have more energy than most 40-50 year olds. I don't see myself doing a triathlon, an hour of brisk walking is good enough for me:). You're probably fitter than I was in my thirties as well tbh.. You have everything going for you to be great parents and if you feel that it's right then go for it.

They really do, within my friendship groups it's very common, much more so than in their 20s.

They do. I could give you many examples just from within my friend group.

Not too late at all, my friend just had her 2nd and 3rd at 41 and 43.

I had my third when I was 43. All very straightforward. But my DH is 11 years older and now 84 and suffering from dementia. I know anything can happen in life but I feel guilty that my DS is having to deal with such aged parents while still relatively young.

Although he does think we’re old!

I hope this is ok to say, but I wonder if you’ve considered adoption or (long term) fostering. Not because you can’t have biological children, adoption shouldn’t be a second best, but my initial impression is that you and your husband sound like lovely people and it might be you’re in a good position to welcome a child that needs a family. I looked into adoption after having one birth child partly because I was single and wasn’t sure it was fair to “create” a child who wouldn’t know their Dad, but hoped that one parent would be better than none for a child in the care system. If you’re doubting bringing a child into the world but have love to give, it might be something to consider.

My wonderful adopted son is 6, and while he has turned our lives upside down, he is such a joy to me. I think going into it without the horrendous experience of infertility has helped me to parent another woman’s child without needing him to be all mine, so he is in that I love him with my whole heart, but I’m not threatened by any relationship he is able to have with his birth family.

Some close friends of mine adopted their last child in their late 40s. She said physically not having to care for a child while her body was recovering from birth was easier initially (they have 4 birth children and 2 adopted with additional needs). It’s almost certainly harder in every other way though! It may not be for you of course, but I do think adoption should be seen as an equally good way of having a child, not as a last resort, and a lot of people that could consider it probably don’t.

I was 40 with my “surprise” third. Husband is 7 years older. Child just about to be 18. No issues.

Not too young but I'd say it's now or never as it could take a while. I had my first at 31 and my 2nd just before turning 35. It's hard and I believe I'd have had more energy if I had them slightly younger but I find I've got a lot more patience than I did 10 years ago. I wanted to travel and enjoy my life before settling down.

Having my children older I've decided to look after myself more and exercise so I've got the energy to keep up with them.

It might be. It might not be. It would be a huge life change, and you both have to really want it. Both of you, your DH needs to be as much into it as you because it is a two person job, he will need to be willing and able to pitch in and do more domestic stuff like cooking, laundry etc. I had my youngest when I was 38, I have absolutely no regrets, but I warn you it's exhausting. Like, more exhausted than you've ever been. Ever. If you have good family/friend support who will pitch in if you need help, you will be ok, but the first 3-5 years there's no guarantee of an unbroken nights sleep.

But no, it may not be too late, so think about it.

Do it 🥳

I dont think so lots of parents at my kids schools are 50+ I've just had my 3rd at 36 x

Nope, not too late if you are both keen.

I had my second at 40.

Good luck xxx

No … not unreasonable. I had DS at 41, DD at 43. DH is 10 years older than me. Both pregnancies and births were fine - I agree that as an “older” mum I may not have had quite as much energy (debatable) but both DC grew up to be very outdoorsy and sporty. Life is not always a straight line and mine was very squiggly which is why they were late but much wanted. The only downside is being called geriatric 😬.

I had my youngest at 40 (as did several of my friends). It's wonderful. Wouldn't change it. My daughter is 6 years old now and I'm 46. My husband is 50... He's more energetic than me!

One point is you have to figure out your and l DR'S ages at child's age, eg, if you got pregnant straight away, DH would be 70 when they are 18, the reality is also that you have to think how long you could "be there" for your child for, (granted longer than DH, likely). That's always something that stopped me when I got older having more, was my ability to support them as adults. I know, they're adults, but they will gave children too (hopefully one day) and I really wanted to be there to support them being parents.

I had DD1 at 41 and DD2 at 42. Both conceived naturally. They’re 16 & 14 now and I wouldn’t change a thing.

I had Dd at 42, Dh was 53, didn't find out until I was 20 weeks, good pregnancy and Dd is now 22 and just completed her law degree, she's fine

Hats off to you!!

Absolutely go for it.

I will be 38 in February and we ttc our 4th at the moment.

I have a 4 year old, an almost 3 year old and a 1 year old.