To hate that DGD has her ears pierced

Quite common in certain European countries

It's not brilliant (and I'd advise getting titanium if possible rather than gold) but what can you do about it? It isn't something I did, or would do, with young dc but it's not as if she'd be the only child with earrings: I have worked in several nurseries in my area and there are quite a few young girls with pierced ears.

You can hate it as much as you like she is not your child. She is DDs child.

This. But I suppose it's done so is best ignored.

Most schools will allow her to wear only the smallest sleeper studs so nothing too brash or bling for all of primary school.

I remember years ago in Spain seeing tiny twin girls with their ears pierced. They must have only been just a few months old. I thought it was awful but assumed it was cultural.

Oh no what will the people think? Who the fuck cares?

From the little you said ... let me guess. Your daughter moved abroad (to a Middle eastern countey?!?) and married a man there. She had a baby, conformed to the customs there (probably with the same what will people think view) then the relationship turned sour at best, abusive at worst she's now divorced and back in the UK with her daughter. Depending on the country she was in both her and you, are incredibly lucky to still have that little in your lives and living in the UK.

So once again, who the fuck cares that her ears are pierced? You and her mum and her , more than likely have bigger issues to deal with.

Then you have to feel sorry for maybe 99% of the population, which seems rather arrogant.

I don't wear makeup or have any piercings/tattoos and nor do my kids. I'm never tempted by plastic surgery.

But I'd be a lonely person if I looked down on everyone who did those things.

I sometimes think social cohesion (and to that end, some level of conformity) is a noble goal in itself and so it's worth doing some illogical things towards that logical goal.

But maybe this is a philosophical derail.

Agree. It does not hurt the baby any more than having immunisations and then they forget about it, and it's much easier than those in my family who waited until they were older and then were terrified, couldn't look after them, got one done and were too scared to have the other, etc. And of course if they don't like it when older they can just take them out.

Ultimately the bigger issue in the UK is that everything is based on class and middle class people think it looks lower class. Hence all OP's trashy, downmarket comments.

YANBU. Our niece ( Vietnamese mum) had her ears pierced when a few days old as it's a cultural thing. I personally think it looks awful.

I don't live it but it is cultural and the norm in Spain

Really, OP you are being absurd now.

I doubt if the other parents will even notice!

''Stupid''..''shallow'''...''Cheap?''

You don't seem to like your Grand daughter very much to imply such things about her.

I see you're still throwing the snobby judgemental language about. It doesn't sound as though your main concern is the money or your granddaughter, but how it might reflect on you.

I hate it but Ddil is Mexican and her ears were pierced before she left the hospital. It’s likely that if they have a dd this tradition will continue.

Ultimately it’s not up to you. I don’t like the look of it but if dd got dgd ears pierced I wouldn’t be able to disagree (too late once it’s done anyway).

no other parents at the school would be so stupid/shallow/cheap

Wow, judging 4 year olds? As cheap and nasty? Are you referring to their morals? Shallow? Get a grip.

I think it's awful too.

How odd.

I feel really sorry for anybody who feels compelled to wear makeup, get a tattoo, pierce holes in a baby or cut off its foreskin, or do anything else completely unnecessary to fit in with some aesthetic they've decided is necessary to take part in society. If they had the confidence to be their own person they would find society won't ostracise them as they fear.

Is this a tradition on Dad’s side? If so have you considered that DD has done it to conform to his family traditions? Or she might just like it?
I don’t personally but people have different views.

I would hate this too op

It is standard practice in so many countries. So much so that I don’t think it is worth getting unhappy about.

It’s hardly worth worrying about.

Girls get their ears pierced many before high school - so what difference does it make?

Like PP said the holes don’t close and the adult can clean them and look after them. less chance of infection.

Mine asked at 4 and had them done then - they wanted to - some others had theirs done at the same time.

I think you are more worried by what others think, most people don’t even notice.

I think you're wrong there. Lots of girls have their ears pierced at school. And our area is quite affluent so not "cheap" by any means.

I personally wouldn't do it but not a lot you can do really is there?

I wouldn't waste any more head space on this.

Well I've had it commented on loads, including on my wedding day. I'm amazed you haven't had it commented on.

But in any case, we are social animals, that was my point. There's loads of stuff we do that doesn't have a logical reason except "it's social convention"