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How do I cope with this!?

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Shutball · 30/12/2024 19:26

So I decided to end my marriage about 4 months ago and I got a call today to tell me he has took them on a day out with another woman. How can you possibly go from a long term relationship and then go into another one straight away!

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Shutball · 30/12/2024 19:45

StMarie4me · 30/12/2024 19:43

Well my husband left me (out of the blue) one day and had the kids in the car with OW within 3 days! Eldest screamed and ran away.

You have ended the marriage and cannot control what he does as their Dad. He doesn't have to ask you if he has equal parental responsibility. So you'll just need to learn to cope.

Sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear.

How did you cope with this?

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Jennyathemall · 30/12/2024 19:44

StMarie4me · 30/12/2024 19:43

Well my husband left me (out of the blue) one day and had the kids in the car with OW within 3 days! Eldest screamed and ran away.

You have ended the marriage and cannot control what he does as their Dad. He doesn't have to ask you if he has equal parental responsibility. So you'll just need to learn to cope.

Sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear.

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StMarie4me · 30/12/2024 19:43

Well my husband left me (out of the blue) one day and had the kids in the car with OW within 3 days! Eldest screamed and ran away.

You have ended the marriage and cannot control what he does as their Dad. He doesn't have to ask you if he has equal parental responsibility. So you'll just need to learn to cope.

Sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear.

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Shutball · 30/12/2024 19:35

MissDoubleU · 30/12/2024 19:33

It sounds like you did the correct thing in ending it. I know this will hurt, but try and ground yourself in that.

I flew off the handle initially and asked him to bring them home. I later apologised it was just such a shock.

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MissDoubleU · 30/12/2024 19:33

It sounds like you did the correct thing in ending it. I know this will hurt, but try and ground yourself in that.

MumChp · 30/12/2024 19:33

Shutball · 30/12/2024 19:31

I just wish he would have spoke to me about it

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Yes. It would be nice but you need to accept that he won't. Sorry.

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Shutball · 30/12/2024 19:31

Rainbowdottie · 30/12/2024 19:30

I guess when you're "free", you're free to do whatever with whomever.

I just wish he would have spoke to me about it

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Rainbowdottie · 30/12/2024 19:30

I guess when you're "free", you're free to do whatever with whomever.

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