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Cancelled NYE plans - who is BU?

137 replies

GenerationAlphabet · 30/12/2024 18:29

Deliberately trying to be vague/neutral so I can sense check this without all the backstory.

Fairly new couple, X & Y have plans to spend NYE together at one of their homes. Both are very busy so they see each other around once or twice a month usually. X has developed a moderate cold so Y cancelled the plans. X is annoyed because Y is getting over a cold anyway and upset because they will be spending NYE alone. Y doesn’t want to risk catching another cold because they’ve already had a couple over the last month.

Who, if anyone, is BU?

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CollyModdle · 30/12/2024 18:39

Bleugh, being up close and personal with someone with a cold is not pleasant. It’s a matter of handing over mugs of Lensip from a safe distance and avoiding the pile of used tissues.

I would avoid catching a cold just as returning to work.

Eyresandgraces · 30/12/2024 18:39

I'm with Y.
I wouldn't deliberately line myself up to catch a cold.

FatFiatMultiplaWhopper · 30/12/2024 18:39

It's just a cold, unless there's a backstory about severe immunocompromise.

chollysawcutt · 30/12/2024 18:38

Y is not really that into X.

And

Y has said no, and X should respect that.

TotallyTwisted · 30/12/2024 18:37

Y is BU and over-anxious. They could pick up another cold from anywhere!

Rainbowdottie · 30/12/2024 18:37

I think unless either suffer from very bad ongoing health issues, a cold is a cold. It's not the end of the world. Think there are bigger issues going on here rather than the sniffles 🤧

cartagenagina · 30/12/2024 18:36

X is being unreasonable. I wouldn’t want another cold.

X can either make new plans with friends or stay home alone, like many people do.

doodleschnoodle · 30/12/2024 18:33

Do these people like each other much? See each other once a month and cancel NYE cos one of them has a cold? Doesn't sound like much of a relationship to me.

Merryoldgoat · 30/12/2024 18:33

I would not want to see someone ill just before having to go back to work.

oatmy · 30/12/2024 18:33

Y is BU - wo/man up, catching a cold is not the end of the world!

Loopytiles · 30/12/2024 18:32

Y is U if it’s really just a cold. Sounds like one or both are not that into the relationship

Doggymummar · 30/12/2024 18:31

Both being a pair of wusses. It's not a relationship if they see each other so infrequently. It can't grow unless they make time for each other.n