Thanks so much to those that answered the question. You’ve mostly confirmed what I was thinking. I’m X (woman), he’s Y which was probably obvious.
To answer a couple of questions, the cold is moderate I’d say. I slept a lot the first day or so and now have a runny nose (not snotty or bunged up) and an infrequent cough, so still damn sexy 😆. I’ve cleaned the entire house today to give an idea but would avoid crowds/groups so I don’t pass it on to lots of people. We compared symptoms and agreed that the cold he’s just had sounds very similar. He works in a home for looked after children (teens) so catches everything going and they’ve all just had noro apparently but I didn’t say he couldn’t come. When we discussed it on the phone, he said he would think about it but seemed to be leaning towards coming. I joked that he was waiting to see if he could find a better offer and I think that’s what’s likely happened.
I’d already decided this was the last straw for me but I was cognisant of the fact that it’s his prerogative to want to avoid a cold so wanted to check if this is a valid reason to end the relationship. And if it was just this in isolation, I would have brushed it off as one of those things but of course there’s a whole back story.
We were in a relationship not so long ago but I broke it off earlier this year because he’s let me down on a handful of occasions including leaving me to deal with a termination on my own. It all started to feel disrespectful. I’ve actually been very happy on my own but he asked for another chance saying he’d not been in a good place and as he’s a nice enough guy, I agreed but told him one strike and he’s out.
It actually suits me the casual nature of our current relationship, it was him saying he wanted to progress to something more serious once he’s earned my trust back but he’s fallen at the first hurdle. The saying ‘if he wanted to, he would’ is what I keep coming back to.
Now to decide how to end it. Block and delete or ‘thanks for everything and goodbye’ or ‘you’re such a dick and goodbye’? I know he doesn’t really care so it makes no odds to him but I want to move on in the best way for me.