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DP didn't make me dinner...

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Whatinthedoopla · 30/12/2024 17:52

I bought the ingredients to make a meat Bolognese for us all. I am a vegetarian, so we normally make the sauce, then add the meat after, and this way we all enjoy the meal.

My partner has decided to mix it all in, and now I have no dinner!!! Of course he knows I don't eat meat, and said he thought I had said I was going to make something different.... Like what!? Wtf

I'm hungry and maybe forced to eat meat!

What would you do?

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WinterCrow · 31/12/2024 00:17

I guess we'll never know.

PeppyGreenFinch · 31/12/2024 00:02

I hope you used the joint account to order a takeaway.

mondaytosunday · 30/12/2024 23:59

Oh gosh this reminds me introducing my veggie boyfriend to relatives. They were warned well in advance and their idea was to make a chicken stew type dish and just remove the chicken from his serving! I was mortified and my BF just sort of toyed with the food and then had two helpings of dessert.
Anyway I'd be annoyed but could easily whip up something else to go on the pasta.

fridaynight1 · 30/12/2024 19:37

Team chinese

Rainbowdottie · 30/12/2024 19:35

I'd be momentarily irritated, realise it's one of those things and make myself an alternative. Or order one. I'd then laugh at myself for being so irritated because I was hangry.

CrispieCake · 30/12/2024 19:34

Get yourself everyone's favourite takeaway (for one) and eat it in front of them all.

fanaticalfairy · 30/12/2024 19:32

Whatinthedoopla · 30/12/2024 17:52

I bought the ingredients to make a meat Bolognese for us all. I am a vegetarian, so we normally make the sauce, then add the meat after, and this way we all enjoy the meal.

My partner has decided to mix it all in, and now I have no dinner!!! Of course he knows I don't eat meat, and said he thought I had said I was going to make something different.... Like what!? Wtf

I'm hungry and maybe forced to eat meat!

What would you do?

Surely there's other food in the house?

amoreoamicizia · 30/12/2024 19:24

Hopefully you've eaten by now. If not, I'm not an advocate for junk food normally but if you have a small Sainsbury's/Tesco close by I'd just pop in and get a pizza on this occasion, and not just the cheapest margherita, the nicest one.

mykettle · 30/12/2024 19:13

Very thoughtless thing for him to do. I would be annoyed too that he gave no consideration to what you were going to eat before making a meat dinner. Our DD is vegetarian and my DH would never add meat to our meal without checking whether some needed to be put aside for her first. All the comments about being a grown up And living on a desert island are completely irrelevant to the point of the post, which is the thoughtlessness of op's partner

Tearsricochet · 30/12/2024 18:51

YANBU for being annoyed he didn’t make you dinner if that’s the usual arrangement.

YABU to say you might be forced in to eating meat. That’s a total over exaggeration.

nextlocation · 30/12/2024 18:50

Are you on a desert island?

Differentstarts · 30/12/2024 18:44

Nobody is forcing you to eat meat either make something else or get a takeaway its really not that deep but I suppose if you did that you wouldn't be able to moan about it

RickiRaccoon · 30/12/2024 18:43

This happens to me sometimes. Not usually with my DH but with my parents who are clueless about vegetarian cooking but will insist on doing dinner. Five minutes before serving I get a spoonful of veges along with the question whether I can make myself something else. I either just make myself a piece of toast or I make something and sit down as they finish eating. It's a bit ridiculous. Hopefully, yours is a genuine one-off mix-up!

Engineweld · 30/12/2024 18:29

stairgates · 30/12/2024 17:54

I would order a nice chinese and enjoy

Me too ..

devilspawn · 30/12/2024 18:29

In my house he'd be cooking me another meal I could eat.

In your situation you should just buy quorn mince in future and remind him of this time if he complains.

crumblingschools · 30/12/2024 18:21

@TTPDTS I was wondering how you can just add meat at the end of the cooking process, cooking mince is at the start of the process

Georgyporky · 30/12/2024 18:17

Without the essential meat it's just a veg sauce that doesn't take long to cook, so get him to rustle up another one - 20-30 minutes is my guess.

bananaboats · 30/12/2024 18:14

Seems like a total non issue. Surely just have something else!

Jonnycakes · 30/12/2024 18:11

I can’t see how you’re ‘forced’ to eat meat? Just make yourself something else. If it’s a one off I couldn’t even be bothered getting worked up about it to be honest. I’m veggie and if DH did something like this then he’d offer to sort me something else but there’s always something I can muster up without drama.

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 30/12/2024 18:05

@Whatinthedoopla I would take your portion and give it to the dog!! dog deserves it more than hubby. he was most likely planning this and did it deliberately!!

MissMoneyFairy · 30/12/2024 18:04

Bit of a drama, isn't there something else you could eat, pasta with cheese is nice

TTPDTS · 30/12/2024 18:03

Thoughtless! But not forced to eat meat surely, do you not have a single other thing in the house?

Also that sounds like the strangest way of making bolognese, how does the flavour all meld together if you just pop mince in at the end? spectacularly misses the point

Pineapplewaves · 30/12/2024 18:01

Is it just you and your DP? Did he think you were both making your own dinner tonight? Would he normally make you something else while he is making himself a meat dish?

It's hard to tell whether your DP was just being selfish and thinking of himself or whether he made a genuine mistake in thinking you'd be getting your own?

Can your DP make you something else? Can you make yourself something else?

If you want to make a point, order a takeaway and eat it in front of him!

fuckingidiotseverywhere · 30/12/2024 18:00

Why would you be "forced" to eat meat? Seems a tad melodramatic. You're not marooned on a desert island with only the spag bol available, surely? Yes it was thoughtless of your DP, but I'm sure you can find something else to eat whether you order it in or raid the cupboards / freezer?

SandwichPlease · 30/12/2024 17:59

Yeah I’d be getting takeaway for one, no way I’d be eating meat, but who pays for food costs? Do you split it?

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